Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe amanyathelo ekhonkco, kufuneka uziqonde. Ngaba kuyinyaniso ukuba uthando luye lwadlula? Ngaba awuyizisola emva koko? Ukuba unquma ukwenza yonke into ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ufumane iingxabano eziqondakalayo ziya kuba lula. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, awuyi kuyenza le nto ingenabuhlungu, kodwa ubuncinane uya kuba nako ukuchaza isizathu sokuba umntu angazitholi ngokuzithemba "kutheni".
Umntu uthi njani "I-Goodbye"?
Siqokelele iingcebiso ezininzi ezinokukunceda wenze ulwahlulo oluthambileyo nolunentlungu, ngokuchanekileyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Indlela yokubhala ibhalela idilesi yokufunda, funda apha .
Musa ukukhohlisa
Ukuba ulahlekelwa yintando, akufanele uhlale usondele kumntu onithandayo kuphela ngovelwano okanye ethemba ukuba unokumtshintshela ekuphumeni. Olu hlobo luya kubangela intlungu eninzi kuneenkqubo zokwahlukana. Kwakhona, akufanele uqulunqa amabali ahlukeneyo: ukunyaniseka, ukukhohlisa, njl njl. Ngoko ke, ube ngumtshaba, ngaphandle koko, kuya kuba nzima ukuba afunde ukuthembela abantu kwakhona. Ukuba ulahlekelwa yintando engcono ukuba ungabandakanyeli izinto uze uthi, njengokuba: "Andiyithandi". Imvakalelo idlulayo, kwenzeka, kwaye ayithethi ukuba iqabane lakho libi.
Musa ukungcatsha
Nangona iimvakalelo zingekho, kwaye uceba ukwenza inxaxheba nomntu, ungayinikeleli kuwo wonke umntu, ngakumbi xa iqabane lakho lingayazi ngalo. Mhlawumbi ufuna iingcebiso zomhlobo, kodwa zama ukuqiniseka ukuba lo mntu ngumntu onokwethenjelwa ongeke akutshele. Ungathathi ilinen ecocekileyo ngaphandle kwendlu yakho kwaye uzame ukusombulula iingxaki zakho kunye, ngaphandle kokubandakanya abantu abathathu.
Khetha indawo efanelekileyo
Kungcono ukubika ezi ndaba kwindawo kawonkewonke ukuze umntu wakho aziphathe ngokuzilawula, ngexesha elifanayo, le ndawo kufanele ibe yintsibano enjalo kwingxoxo. Usadinga ukuthetha kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukuze kungabikho mntu ekuphazamisayo. Efanelekileyo ipaki okanye i-cafe epholileyo. Inyaniso kukuba, zama ukukwenza ukuba indawo idukise, oko kukuthi, kwakungeyonto yokuthandana.
Musa ukungena kwiinkcukacha
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kufuneka uchaze isigqibo sakho, kodwa ungayi kubeka yonke into ngokupheleleyo. Inokulimaza okanye ibenze inzondo, ingxabano. Ufuna ntoni na? Uthando luye lwadlula kwaye yonke into, akufuneki ukuba uye kwiinkcukacha. Yonke into sele isigqityiweyo, ihlala isasaza kuphela kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo. Zama ukubeka ityala. Eyona nto ibhetele ngayo yonke ibinzana: "Ndatshintshile," "Ndaqonda ukuba ndifuna enye into." Ungatsho ukuba kukucaphukisa, kungcono ukutsho ukuba uyazisola, kodwa awukwazi ukwenza nayiphi na enye indlela.
Ewe, nangona wenze konke ngendlela esincoma ngayo, akuyi kuba lula. Kodwa ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi uye wazi kakuhle iimvakalelo zakho, ungalibali, ngoko ubenzima kakhulu imeko. Ukuxelela umfana ukuba "hamba" kuya kuba lula xa ukhona, okokuqala, uthembeke kunye nawe kwaye uvule naye.