Umfana, uvakalelwa njani xa efumana ithuba lakhe lokuqala lolwabelana ngesondo. Kakade ke, ukubaluleka kwakhe, ingcamango yokuba sele sele esemdala, ibeka ithemba. Umnqweno wokuba "ophakamileyo" kunokuba ngabahlobo bakhe ubuncinane inyathelo elinye, uhambisa abantu abatsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzekayo kumntwana omncinci, kwaye engakhathazeki kakhulu, kukho uthando, okanye akunjalo, into eyona nto kukukunelisa i-ego yakho. Uze ungazibongi, kodwa ukuba ndiyazi, ndingumntu. Emva koko, abafana bakholelwa ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ukuba ulala nentombazana, sele usisindoda. Kwaye kungekhona umzuzwana ungacingi ukuba le nsizwa ayifuni ibhedi yamadoda, kodwa izenzo zamadoda kunye nomlingiswa. Kodwa ubuninzi bobunzima, obule ndawo, kunye nokuhlekwa kweontanga, banikezela umphumo. Ubungqina bokuba negunya lomntu liba ngaphezu kwayo yonke imvakalelo.
Kumantombazana, amava okuqala ngokwesini , oku kuyinto engaqondakaliyo kwaye engaqhelekanga. Bazinikela kunye nexabiso lentombi. Ukwabelana ngesondo, kungekhona igama olifunayo ukufumana isondo sokuqala ebomini bakho. Amantombazana avuma ulwalamano olusondeleyo kuphela xa bexhaswa yimvakalelo. Kwaye bayakholelwa ngokuphosakeleyo ukuba bayabuyiselwa. Yaye loo mntu, ngoku kufuneka abe ngeenxa zonke. Kodwa abaninzi abazi ukuba le ngxaki ibhinqa kuphela, ukuba uvumelene ngesondo, ayithethi ubuhlobo obude kunye obukhulu. Ngaphambi kokuba unqume kwisinyathelo esinjalo, kufuneka ucinge ngenyameko, uyayidinga ngoku, ixesha liya kuza kwaye kuya kwenzeka, kutheni ukukhawuleza. Gqiba yonke into, ufuna ukulala ngesondo nalo mntu. Ukuba lo luyisigqibo sakho sokuzibophelela, kwaye awusayi kuphinda uzisole ngoko kwenzekayo, ngoko ungalindelanga.
Ngenxa yobuncinci kunye nolwazi , abatsha abakucingi ngokukhulelwa nokukhusela. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba iqabane lakho lingenalo ubudlelwane bezesondo ngaphambi koko, kuyimfuneko ukunyamekela kuphela ukukhulelwa komzimba. Kodwa ukuba iqabane libenokudibanisa ngaphambili, ngoko kufuneka uqwalasele kwaye uxhatle ngesondo.
Iimeko zokukhulelwa phakathi kwentsha ziqhelekile. Ngokwenene, yonke into ivela kumagama amahle kakhulu, kuba okokuqala intombazana engazi, ifihla kubazali bayo, kwaye xa ithe yagqiba isigqibo sokuthi, ixesha lide ngokwaneleyo, ngoko ke kufuneka ilahleke okanye akukho nto iya kutshintshwa.
Ulwabelana ngesondo , ukhusele impilo yakho kunye nempilo yeqabane lakho. Ukuba iqabane lakho (intombazana) ayifuni ukuzikhusela, nangona unamava akho okwezesondo, wena ufanele uzinakekele. Ekubeni impilo yakho imele ibe ngaphezu kwayo yonke, ixhomekeke kwixesha elizayo. Ngethuba lethu, kukho iingozi ezininzi kangaka. Nangona uthembele ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakho ukuba akukho nto ithengiswayo kunye neentlupheko "ezihlangeneyo", awukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uninzi kangakanani unxibelelwano oluphambi kwakho, kwaye ngubani, oku kuthetha ukuba akukho ntembelo ekhuselekileyo.
Kungcono ukukhuseleka.
Nawuphi na ulwalamano olusondeleyo luyinxalenye yokudibanisa imiphefumlo kunye nemizimba. Yenza izinto ezinzulu kangaka, ufuna kuphela ukwazi oko ufunayo kwaye ungazisoli emva koko. Ukukhokelwa ngamagama athi "Bonke abahlobo bam (abahlobo) sele belele kunye namantombazana (amantombazana)", Oku akunjalo. Ubomi bakho, ulawula umzimba wakho kunye neengcamango.