Kuyinto enhle ukubeka ingubo emhlophe kwaye ufike kwimoto ekhuselekile kwaye uthi ngokuzithemba: "Ndingowesifazane oqhelekileyo! Andifani ngesondo lokuqala, andiyi kuba nolwalamano olungathandanayo ngaphandle kwothando, anditshintshi umyeni wam! "Kwaye unzulu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uvakalisa ngokucacileyo ukuba abantu" abasikizi "ngokwabo abangekho kwibanga lokuqala. Ubundlobongela ngaphandle kwembopheleleko sihloko esinesiqhamo. Phantse njengomxholo wezityalo, inkolo okanye amalungelo abantu besifazane ukukhipha isisu, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngaphandle komthando aluyi kushiya nabani na abachasayo. Kuya kubakho ukuba "abo" kunye nabo "bachasene".
Iipragmatists kunye neRomantics
Ewe, kuyaqondakala ukuba kutheni umntu akufanele abe nomdla "kwizesondo nje". Wonke umntu ufuna ukuziva ethandwayo, efunekayo, yedwa kwaye angachithelanga ubulili kunye namandla okomoya kwi-rascals. Oku akukona nje ukukhathazeka kwabasetyhini, kodwa kunye namadoda, nangona iimbono eziqhelekileyo zokulungelelaniswa rhoqo ukulungelelanisa.
Kodwa kukho abo "besini esilula" abaziboni nantoni na engxaki kwi-psyche. Abayidingi umthwalo entliziyweni okanye kwingqondo ukuze ujabule ngesondo. Ngokufanayo, akudingekile ukuba uthandane nomntu ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo, ukulungiselela ukutya okanye udaka. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi luqinisekile ukuba ukuba umntu unako ukuzonwabisa ngesondo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyabathanda okanye akunjalo, unengxaki ezinkulu. Mhlawumbi kufanele aphendule kwi-therapist? Apho baya kuphiliswa inzala yokuziphatha okubi ngokobulili! Emva koko, ukunyaniseka, kulungile ukulala ngesondo kunye nabantu abaqhelekileyo kuphela ngenxa yothando, kwaye bonke abakwenzayo ngenye indlela babizwa ngokuba ngamazwi aseRashiya anamandla.
Umdlalo
Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bubonisa: kwiqela elifuna isondo ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, babhala ngokungalindelekanga.
Uninzi lwabantu abazama ukulala ngesondo ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, ngaloo ndlela bachithe ixesha emva kokuhlukana okanye ngexesha lokuthatha umsebenzi - xa iingqondo ezingenalo ngokwaneleyo ukwenza umntu onwabileyo, kuphela ngokwabo kwaye atyikitye. Ubundlobongela obungenzi nzuzo lukhethwa ngabantu abazimeleyo abangazange babone uthando lokwenene, okanye ngokusemthethweni abafuni ukwabelana ngobomi babo nomnye umntu. Ubundlobongela ngaphandle kwembopheleleko njengoko kungenakwenzeka ngandlela: naluphi na ulawulo lweefowuni, umona kunye nemibuzo engabonakaliyo.
Akukho nto
Ukuqhawula ngokwesini akusilimazi. Ukungabikho kwesondo kakubi kwimpilo - ingxabano ayinakulungiswa. Kodwa kuyaziwa ukuba izenzo zesondo zomntu ziphucula kuphela isimo sakhe somzimba, kodwa nesimo sengqondo. Isiphetho silula: kubaluleke kakhulu ukulala ngesondo kunokungayinaki. Kodwa le ngxelo, kwimeko yesondo ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, yinyani phantsi kweemeko ezithile.
Okokuqala, ukhuseleko luphambili. Izifo zengxubevange azikho mfuneko kumntu okanye ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kumlingane, okungafanelekanga.
Okwesibini, amantombazana asebenza ngokwesini esingenasiphazamiseko, qaphela ukuba ingozi enkulu ekuthandweni ngokomzwelo kumlingane. Ukuze bangabi othandweni, bacebisa ukuba bashiye intloko kubanda, bangayeki ngokugqithiseleyo; Musa ukuchitha ubusuku ebhedeni elinye; Ungazivumeli ukuba ucinge ngomntu kwakhona; Ekugqibeleni, akufanele unike ngamehlo akho ukubaluleka kwaye uziqinisekise ukuba ukuba ubudlelwane bexesha elide abufanelekanga. Ungamanga - indlela ekhethekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba ngokubhekiselele kwimvelaphi yokutshintshisiswa kotywala, ingqondo engacatshulwayo ayifaki naziphi na izigqibo.
Okwesithathu, gcina umgama kwisini ngaphandle kokuzibophelela kuyimfuneko yonke ixesha. Ukuba ibhinqa ingowomntu kuphela njengomlingane wesini, kuye kufuneka kucace. Ukunyaniseka nokuthetha ngokuthe ngqiqo "akukho nto iphosakeleyo phakathi kwethu" ayiyi kuphazamisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, amadoda ahlale ekwazi ukuva isinyanzelo esinjalo.
Iintyatyambo kunye nezipho ezincinci njengempawu zokuqwalasela-zonakalisa umgama. Ukutyela, ukuya kwiifilimu, ikhofi kwindawo yokulala ekuseni - ukuba ifomathi "isondo kuphela" ayisebenzi. Zixininiswe kakhulu kwingqondo ngohlobo lweempawu zokunyamekela, okuzenzekelayo zibangele uthando. Ngako oko, kunye nezihlwele kufuneka zigcinwe phantsi kolawulo.
Ekugqibeleni kuloluhlu, kodwa into esemqoka yezocansi ezingalalwanga ngesondo iyimfanelo yokucinga ngemiphumo ngaphandle kokuvela kwezi zinto. Akunxulumene kuphela nomlingani, kodwa naye ngokwakhe.
Uxanduva lweemvakalelo zomntu luyimeko enzima kakhulu, ngoko ukuba akukho nto inokuqiniseka ukuba isondo ngaphandle kothando luyamnandi, akukho mntu unokuzama.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho abantu abangenanto yokwenza ngesondo esingabambanga - indlela yokuphila. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ulwalamano olunjalo luyinto yesikhashana ezalisa ubomi ngokubonakalayo, elinde into enkulu kunye ecocekileyo. Izinyathelo ezinqabileyo ziphukile njengewebhu, ngokukhawuleza ekugqibeleni. Ubunzulu, ukuthintela ubudlelwane bomphefumlo bubangela ubomi obonwabisayo kunokuba uxhumano olusisiseko olusekelwe kwizilwanyana zezilwanyana.