Zesondo kunye nemiphumo yayo
Emva kweyiphi ixesha emva kokuthandana, isibini esilungele ukulala ngesondo? Akukho ncazelo ecacileyo yalo mda: kwimeko nganye, indoda kunye nesibini ibonelela yona. Ngexesha elifanayo, kufuneka siqonde ukuba, ukuwela lo mgca, ngamnye kuba bathathi-nxaxheba uya kukwazi ukujongana nemiphumo. Kubonakala ngathi ukulala ngesimo se-physiology. Okwangoku, kukho ingcamango ebonisa ukuba injongo yesi sipho esingenasiphelo semvelo kukuqala ukuxhamla okunzulu phakathi kwabantu. Kwisenzo sesondo, kungekhona nje imizimba, kodwa nemiphefumlo iyathatha inxaxheba. Kungenxa yemfihlelo yothando abadibeneyo kunye nemicu engabonakaliyo. Yaye yabumba ubudlelwane babini, eyenzelwe ixesha elide. Njengoko uyakubona, imvelo yanyamekela yonke into ize idale amaqhinga amaninzi, esiwafumana ngokuvuya. Ngokufanelekileyo, isizathu sokuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kufuneka bube ngumthando onyanisekileyo, kwaye kungekhona imvelo okanye umdlalo "wezemidlalo". Emva koko, umntu ungomnye wezidalwa eziphilileyo ezintathu (ngaphandle kweedonphins kunye nezimpukane) ezenza uthando ngenxa yokuzonwabisa. Kodwa, ngokungafani nezilwanyana, sinokuzibandakanya kwi-sex consciousness! Kufuneka uqonde ukuba emva kobusuku bothando uya kuba noxhumano lwamandla nalo mntu. Yaye xa ungasayi kufuna ukwenza nantoni na, i-gap ingaba buhlungu kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo phakathi kwabahlobo bakho kukho izibini ezininzi ezinokuthi zigijime, ziphinde ziguquke. Olu dlelwane alubaniki nwabisa, akukhoxolo, akukho nethuba lokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha. Ngoko ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukucwangcisa ubusuku bokuqala kunye nomntu, zibuze: "Ngaba ndifuna ukujongana nesiphumo sobudlelwane obusondeleyo nalo mntu?" Cinga ukuba ukususela ngoku kuya kubakho into ebalulekileyo phakathi kwakho eya kuchaphazela bakho nobomi bakhe. Ulungele oku?
Sebenza ngaphandle kwe mpazamo
Siza kuthatha ukuba umbuzo wokugqibela uphendule ngawo. Ngoko, masiqhubele phambili kwisihloko esilandelayo kwingxoxo yethu: lungiselela enye yezona zihlandlo ezinomdla kakhulu. Njengomthetho, phambi kwesondo sokuqala kunye neqabane elitsha, sithathwa ngxhala, iingcamango ezixhalabileyo zixubile kwiintloko zethu. Sinoyika ukungafani nomthandi, sinoyiko iimvavanyo zakhe kunye nemibonakalo engathandekiyo. Ukulala ngesondo sokuqala akusiyo yokugqibela, zama ukuziphatha ngokwemvelo kunokwenzeka. Oko kanye akufanele uyenze ukuzenza. Ngokuqinisekileyo onke amabhinqa acinga ukuba ngumsebenzi wakhe ngexesha lobudlelwane bokuqala bokulinganisa i-orgasm. Ukuba uhamba ngale ndlela, ke ungamangaliswa xa intlanganiso yesibini esondeleyo iya kwenzeka ngokufanayo kwimeko yokuqala. Emva kwakho konke, umntu ufumanisa ngephutha ukuba sele sele ufumene isitshixo kwisini sakho. Ungabi namahloni ngokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye nokwabelana ngemvakalelo. Ukuba awuyithandi into, ndixelele ngenyameko: "Bathandekayo, masizame ngokwahlukileyo."
I-pancake yokuqala
Ixesha elizayo le sibini ngokubanzi ligqiba ingcinga yobusuku bokuqala bothando. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni? Zama ukuphatha imeko ngokuhlekisa. Awuyizihambi kunye kwaye unokuthetha ngokuthe ngantoni malunga noko kukuthintele ukuba ungonwabi. Mhlawumbi, oku kukuxinzelela ngokweqile, uxinzelelo, ukusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, imeko engakhululekiyo. Sonke singabantu abaqhelekileyo abanelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo. Ngako oko, ngexesha elizayo xa unquma ukulala ngesondo, lungiselela iimeko eziyimfuneko kulokhu - kwaye akuyi kuba khona "i-misfires".
Ukuba le ntombazana "ayivuthi"
Ukuba ibhinqa ivakalelwa kukuba ayilungele ulwalamano, ngoko kufuneka avumele ukuba alinde ngokukhawuleza njengoko kufuneka "avuthwe." Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo kunye neqabane, uthi: "Ndiphe ixesha elifutshane. Ngaba ndiyakwazi ukuhamba apha kungekukhawuleza njengawe? "Ukuba umntu unomdla wokwenene nolwalamano kunye nentombazana kwaye uyayihlonipha ilungelo" lokuhlehliswa, "uyavuma. Ngaphandle koko, cinga: mhlawumbi akuyena umntu onokufanelekile ukuba naye naye umzuzu obalulekileyo. Kukho amantombazana afuna iimeko ezithile ukuba azive ekhuselekile. Kule meko, iqabane kufuneka lixelelwe oku kulandelayo: "Ukuze kwenzeke oku, kufuneka ndiziva ndikhuselwe. Ndifuna ukwazi ukuba uza kwenza konke okusemandleni ukwenza ukuba intlanganiso yokuqala ibe negalelo lam elitsha kum. " Kwakhona, ukuba umntu uhlonipha iimvakalelo zekhethiweyo, uya kukunyamekela oku. Umsebenzi wabameli be-stalemate eqinile ukukhusela nokudala imeko ekhuselekileyo. Ngoku siyazi indlela yokwenza ubulili bokuqala buhle.