Njengaba nayiphi na inxalenye yobomi bethu, ubulili bubonakaliswa kwindawo engabonakaliyo kwaye engachangekiyo yengqondo-ngamaphupha. Iphupha eliziwayo linokuthi lihambelane ngqo neminqweno yethu yangempela, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwinto ephuphayo eyenzekayo ukuba asiyi kuze sicinge ngalo mhla. Ukuchazwa ngokuchanekileyo kwemibono yesondo, saphendukela kwiingqondo zeengqondo. Baye basinika incwadi yabo yesayensi "incwadi yokuphupha": ukuchazwa kwamaphupha kukulala ngesondo. Oku kusebenza kubo bonke ...
Wonke umntu ubona amaphupha angenangqondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo zibonakala ziphantse kusasa kwaye azingekho ngokugqithiseleyo. Ibhinqa liyakwazi ukuvusa ephupheni nangona nje ekhuluma nomhlobo wakhe, uyayixabisa yakhe okanye ... uyazala umntwana. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuchaseneyo, ngamaphupha senza ukuba ngaloo nto sivuke. Musa ukwesaba: umxholo wamaphupha awudingi ukutolika ngokuchanekileyo.
Yonke iphupha yinto ekhethekileyo yodwa kwaye isekelwe kwiminqweno yakho, amava, amava kunye nokwesaba. Kwaye ungahlali uhamba kwaye uphawule incwadi yephupha - akayi kuphendula. Nangona kunjalo, izazi zeengqondo zakwazi ukuchonga iziganeko eziqhelekileyo zamaphupha aphikisayo.
Izibhengezo ezidlulileyo
Ngaba kwenzeka ukuba ephupheni udibana nomngane wakho wangaphambili kunye nenye "etafileni" elandelayo ulala naye? Ngaba ngokwenene ukuba awukwazi ukulibala? "Ixesha elinye lezesondo zesondo elibandakanya umlingane owayengumlingani akufanele kuthathwe ngokungathí sina. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba, ezi ziyizikhumbuzo ezimnandi: ingqondo yakho engacatshulwayo "iyanqumla" kuwe into ekhangayo yezesondo kwixesha elidlulileyo. Kodwa ukuba iphupha liba nzima, kungafanelekile ukucinga, - uthi isifo sengqondo se-Olga Levinskaya. " Mhlawumbi, ngale ndlela, ingxaki engaxazululwayo izama ukuzibonakalisa yona, into ongayiyiyo, umzekelo, usenomsindo ngenxa yezikhalazo ezidlulileyo okanye ungagqibekanga isizathu esifanayo."
"Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nomntu owayengumthandi unokuba ngumzekeliso kwiminqweno yakho, ehambelana nomfanekiso wakhe, " wongezelela u-Vadim Piotrovsky. - Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uphupha umntu oye wahlala naye enkundleni yothando, oku kungabonisa uxinzelelo olufihlakeleyo: ufuna ukunqumla kwiinkxalabo ezikucinezelayo, uziphumule uze uphumelele kwi-euphoria engakhathazekiyo. "
Kwizandla zesetyhini
Xa ujongene nephupha lobudlelwane obusondeleyo nomfazi, musa ukukhawuleza ukubonisa ukuba ukufihla intlonipho. "Mhlawumbi ebomini awunayo ngokwaneleyo kwaye unomdla, uziva unesizungu kwaye ulahlekile, kwaye ungumfanekiso wendiza yowesifazane ukuba ingqalelo, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela okufunekayo, " kuchaza uVadim Piotrovsky. - Ukuba uphupha ngesondo nomhlobo wakho, umlingane okanye omnye umfazi oqhelekileyo, cinga ngendlela ophatha ngayo ubomi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, usebenzisa amaphupha angabonakaliyo abandakanya abantu esingaziboni njengento yesini, ngokwenene, ukuxhalabisa okanye ukunyaniseka. Ukwabelana ngesondo, ngoko, ufuzisela umnqweno wethu wokufumana loo mpawu yelinye iqabane esingenalo, umzekelo, ukuhlaziywa, ukukwazi ukuziphatha ebantwini, injongo okanye ukuphumelela. "
Inkathazo yasebusuku
Kuthekani kuthi xa uphupha umxhwele umntu ongekho nje ukuba enze iinjongo zesondo, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, uyanyaniseka na? "Nanku umgaqo ofanayo usebenzayo: nangomntu okhungathekileyo kunye naye, ummelwane onobungozi kunye nommelwane onobungozi ebhantshi, ngamanye amaxesha siyaziqonda iimpawu esizifunayo. Nangona lo mntu ephazamisayo, ngezinye iinkcukacha unokuba ufuna ukufumana into efana naye, ubuncinci ekungagcineni ingqalelo kwabanye imibono, "uqhubeka nokuchazwa kwamaphupha kaVadim Piotrovsky.
Iphupha elinjalo ngokuqhelekileyo lifanekisela ukunyamezela: umzekelo, umhlobo ongekhoyo ngumsebenzi otyhafisayo , "kuchaza u-psychologicalist Olga Levinskaya. - Njengomthetho, amaphupha ngokwawo ayanqabileyo kwaye azingabi nantoni, ubulili phakathi kwabo bubuhlungu, buba buhlungu kwaye bubacaphukisa. Kule meko, oku kungumqondiso oqinisekileyo ukuba lixesha lokutshintsha into ebomini bakho. "
Finyelela kwi nkwenkwezi
Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nodumo, mhlawumbi, luhlobo oluqhelekileyo lwamaphupha abuhlungu. Ukutolika kwakhe kuxhomekeke ngakumbi kumxholo wephupha kunye nolwalamano lwakho lomntu owaziwayo. "Ukuba igumbi lakho lokulala lixhomekeke kunye neefowuni ezibonisa inkwenkwezi oyintandokazi kwaye unokuba uyithandana naye, iphupha elinjalo luhlobo olusondeleyo lweminqweno yakho. Kwakhona kuthi ebomini awukafumani indoda yakho efanelekileyo. Ubuthongo obunqabileyo "bungabonakalisa uhlobo oluthile lwe-infantilism: awukaze uvelise zakho izinamathiselo kwaye usebenzisa imifanekiso ehlanganisiweyo eyenziwe, " uxelela uVadim Piotrovsky. - Ukuba iqhawe lephupha lakho alinakukubangela ukuba ube nemvakalelo ebomini, umzekelo, uyamazi njengomntu owaziwayo, uthetha ngomnqweno wakho wokufezekisa into ebalulekileyo ebomini. "
Ukulala ngesondo
Kuyinto emangalisayo ukubona kwiphupha indlela umhambi angakukhathaza ngayo. Amaphupha anjalo awanqabilekanga. U-Sex uhamba nomntu ongaqhelekanga uthetha ngengcamango yakho kwaye unxanelekile, "kusho uAlga Levinskaya. - Ngosizo lwamaphupha anjalo unqanyulwa kwiinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla kwaye ungene kwilizwe elonwabisayo lonwabo, ngenxa yoko awuyi kuba neempendulo kumnye umntu. Awunayo imvakalelo ekulungeleyo, iimvakalelo kunye neengxaki, oza kuphazamisa kwinkqubo, njengoko ungazi iqabane lakho, kwaye awuyikwesaba imiphumo yokusondelana ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, abaninzi baye bafumana enye ibali lebali, xa ufumana isondo kunye nomntu ongaziwayo kwindawo kawonkewonke, kwaye abantu abaninzi bakubonayo. Ukukhathazeka yiyona leitmotif eyintloko yamaphupha anjalo. Ingabangela ukungonwabi ekusebenzelaneni nomlingani oqobo okanye ukwesaba ulwalamano emva kokuxinezeleka. "
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U-Eugene Kulgavchuk, u-sexologist, u-psychotherapist, umongameli we-Russian Association of Sexologists.
Le nkcazo, njengamaphupha ahlukumezayo - enye yeembonakalo zobuntu zesini. Ngokwaziyo kwi-reception ne-sexologist kwikharityhulam yokugula, loo mibuzo ikhutshwa kwibhokisi ehlukile. Ngenxa yokuziyeka ixesha elide, inani lamaphupha ahlukumezayo landa. Ngoko ngoncedo lwabo, ingqondo yethu i-unobtrusively iyasikhumbuza into ebalulekileyo ebomini njengezesondo. Nangona kunjalo, amaphupho angaboniyo atyelela abantu abanomgaqo-siseko wesini obuthathaka, kuba amandla abo ngokwesini ayichazwa kakuhle.
Amaphupha ama-Eroti ayingqungquthela yeengcamango zomsindo. Kuphela, ngokungafani neyokugqibela, bavakaliswa ngokungazi. Iingcamango zilula kwaye zinzima. Ngamaphupha alula kunesicwangciso esinqwenelekayo kuphela - le yintsimbi yeminqweno yethu engafanelekanga. Kwiiphupha eziyinkimbinkimbi, isalathiso siyifumana iindidi ezahlukileyo, idibene kunye nesondo, kunye neengqondo, kunye nolwalamano.
Ukuchazwa kweephupha ezinobunzima obuphambili kukushiya ugqirha we-sexologist-yengqondo. Kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela iimpawu zengqondo zomntu othile, ukuhlalutya umxholo wazo. Emva koko, amaphupha afanayo kubantu abahlukeneyo anokuthi abe nenjongo ehlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ngokomzekelo, umonakalo wokudlwengula kwiphupha lentombazana encinci inokuthetha ngomntu onetyala (ozalwe ebuntwaneni) ngokunyuka komnqweno wesini.
Okwangoku, akufanelekile ukubandakanyeka kakhulu ekuchazeni amaphupha. Imbonakalo enempilo yesondo idinga imvakalelo emihle, kungekhona inzala. Ngaphandle kobubungqina obukhethekileyo oku kuya kuphazamisa indlela ohlala ngayo ngalo lonke usuku.
UMTHETHO WOKUPHILA KWEZINDAWO zichaza imiqondiso yamaphupha okukhupha ngendlela. Akukho imfuneko ukuba ufune ngokuchanekileyo kwincwadi nganye yephupha ukuchazwa kwamaphupha-kuyimfuneko ukutolika ngesondo kwiphupha elizimeleyo. Kodwa kunjalo, kukho ixabiso eliqhelekileyo kwamaphupha athile.
I-SEXY - ukhangelekile kwisini esinqatshelwe, ingozi kunye nokuzonwabisa.
I-THIRST - inqwenela ngesondo nokunganeliseki.
I-ORANGE - isilingo, lonwabo. Uvame ukuba neengcamango zesondo ngokuphathelele kumfokazi.
I-ARBUZ yinto enomdla. Ukuba uphupha malunga nendlela osika ngayo i-watermelon, ngokobomi boqobo, ukuzonwabisa okwenene ngesondo akufumaneki kuwe. Kufuneka wenze sengathi ungadumiseli iqabane lakho.
I-BAZAR - ubomi bokuziphatha ngokwesini.
UBANAN - isiqalo somntu, i-phallus.
UTSHINTSHO - ufuna ukutshintsha okanye ukukhankanya umntu wakho othandekayo wokungathembeki.
I-GORB iyimpilo yakho, eyokuthintela ukuba uzibone kakuhle kwaye ukhululekile.
I-Kabluk - ubungqina bokunganeliseki nendima yakho yesondo.
I-ICONA ithetha ukuba ulwalamano lwakho kunye nomlingane luyisono kwaye lungalunganga.
I-INVALID - uhlushwa yi-inferiority complex, kwaye oku kukuthintela ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba ulwalamano nolwahlukileyo.
AMANQAKU - uyaphatha kakubi isondo. Uhlala uzama, kodwa nangayiphi indlela awukwazi ukufumana oko uthandayo.
I-WINDOW - uhlala uvale kwiqabane lakho, uhoxiswe kuwe, ukuba kukho into eyenziwa ngokwahlukileyo kunokuba uyifunayo.