Futhi lo mdla uvela phi?
Ngoku abaninzi abaninzi beengcali zichaza indlela esiziphatha ngayo njengemvelo. Njengaye, kukho "amadoda amakhulu kakhulu" (ezininzi zininzi ezivela kwizintana, iinkawu), kunye nezifundo ezincinci-ezinjengeengqiqo, eziziintloko zokuziphatha, kunye nezifundo zisekondari. Okufanayo bathetha ngabasetyhini. Nangona kunjalo, le ngqungquthela ekuhloliseni okufutshane isondele kakhulu.
Umnqweno wokufumana izakhi zofuzo ezingcono, njengommiselo, awunamandla kangangokuba loo nto ibhinqa ingqalelo kuye, ikhokelwa nguye. Yaye ukuba umfazi otshatileyo unomdla kumntu - akuyona into yokukrokra, engabikhoyo okanye i-aesthetics. Ukuhle, ukuhlaziywa kwamathambo, abameli abakhethiweyo besini esahlukileyo basoloko bethanda ingqalelo.
Enye into kukuba le nkcazo eninzi kwiimeko ezininzi ayifumananga. Siya kugubha "ukugubha" amaqabane angabakhona, sichitha iqhezu yesibini kuyo. Kwaye ukuba umfazi otshatileyo emsebenzini unomntu obenomdla kuye ngokwesondo, malunga neliphi iphupha-ngoko, kwintsapho into engalunganga.
Musa ukuphefumula
Enyanisweni, kulula ukulandelela phantsi kwaye unqande umdla wesini esithatyathwe ngamadoda avela kumfazi otshatileyo "kwinqanaba lokuqala". Xa izinto zingekho okubi, kwaye intsapho ingazange ibhujiswe, ukuthembela kowesifazane kumntu ongeyinto engatshatyalaliswayo - lixesha lokuthatha amanyathelo angxamisekileyo.
Kodwa ukuba amaphupha sele adlulisele umlinganiselo othile-ke into enokwenzeka.
- Okokuqala, umfazi otshatileyo, ubonisa umdla wesondo ngomntu othize, uzibeka phantsi, ahlaselwe yintsapho yakhe kunye nekratshi.
- Okwesibini, umsebenzi ungabandezeleka ukuba kwenzeka ntoni emsebenzini. Okanye nayiphi na indawo ebomini apho ubulili buphazamisa khona.
Ubudlelwane kunye nezihlobo, kunye nabahlobo, kodwa ubuncinci kunye notitshala womntwana omdala, ukuba kunjalo kuvela-konke kubalulekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba baxubushe ngesini. Ubundlobongela ligama elibini, kwaye umfazi, ukuba uthe watshata, sele ekhethile ukhethe oko.
Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba uyaphawula kuwe ubuncinci bentshiseko, musa ukutshisa ilangabi kuwo - kuya kufuneka uzibeke emlilweni ekupheleni!
Ngoko ke, umthetho wokuqala: nantoni na ovakalelwa ngayo, akufanele uzingcolise ngokupenda izinto ezibonakalayo kunye neyinyaniso zomntu onomdla kuye.
Gcina ubuhlobo kuqala!
Ulwalamano lwangoku lubaluleke kakhulu, nangona kunjalo. Mhlawumbi ngezinye izinto ezimbalwa:
ukuba indoda ayinakulungeleka ("imifuno", uxanduva lokubambisana)
okanye xa ephula imithetho epheleleyo: ukuba angabethethi umfazi, ukuba angabathobeli abantwana. Ngokubanzi, isongela ubomi obuqhelekileyo bentsapho.
Kwamanye amaxesha, nayiphi na inzala yomntu kunesidingo kuye kufuneka imiswe ngexesha. Bamba amahashe, ubone ukuba yintoni indoda eyayifumana kuyo loo nto ibhinqa.
Kwimeko enobudlelwane obutsha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wayefuna kangakanani, umfazi uya "kunye nempazamo endala."
Kwaye kuphela ukuba wenza konke okusemandleni, kwaye uyaqiniseka ngale nto - unokunikela kwivalelo entsha.
Ugxininiso lobuciko ngenxa yokuba ungayithandanga nomyeni wakhe
Ukwakho kobulili akuzange kube yimbangela yokungavumelani kule ntsapho kunye nekamva lezinto eziqhubekayo nezingenasiphelo ebomini, umele uzame "ukugxilwa komlingo wokuthandana".
Zama ukunika indoda yakho ingcamango yothando kunye nolwalamano lwakho. Kulula kakhulu ukwenza oku kunokuba kubonakala. "Ugxininiso" kukuba abantu bathanda oko batyala kulo ubudlelwane.
Kodwa ngokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke, sikhohlwa ukubonga, ukuqinisekisa ukubaluleka kwegalelo labo. Njengokuba oko kwakubonakala.
Ndixelele, ngaba uya kuvuyiswa ukuba unconywa rhoqo kwisidlo esilungisiwe-sele sele ungenayo ukupheka ikhaya lakho?
Lapha kunye nendoda. Qinisekisa ubukhulu bakhe, indumiso, mbulelo - nje "ukuzula" kancane kancane.
Yaye yintoni eyona nto inomdla, le nto "ekhohlisayo" elula, eyanconywa kubo bonke abayeni behlile kunye, benza, njengoko bethetha, "kwindlela zombini." Oko kukuthi, ubonisa iimvakalelo ezifudumele-mhlawumbi ezo zingekho. Umyeni "uvuselela" kwaye uqala ukubona kuwe umfazi. Yaye inika ukutshaya ngokubuyisela.
Kwaye sele sele, kunye nokufudumala nesondo, ngaphezu koko, kwaye kubonakaliswe kumntu osondeleyo kunye nomntu osondeleyo oye wahlala kuyo iminyaka, akuyi kuba nexesha okanye umnqweno wamanye amadoda. Yaye yile nto esizama ukuyenza, akunjalo?
Inomdla kumdla, kodwa intloko "ifake" kubalulekile!
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umfazi uthe ntoni, bathi, "sihlala sihamba ngeemvakalelo" - kukho imfuneko yokuba yonke into eqhutywe yintando yesondo ifake i-logic, uhlalutyo.
Uhlalutyo olukhawulezayo lomviwa onokufumana incwadana encinane, nokuba ngaba zombini, ngokusemthethweni, bayavuma kwaye ubudlelwane abuchaphazelekayo, buya kulahla inqwaba ye-hsle.
Ewe, jonga phambili, ngaphambi kokuba ufune indoda: emsebenzini uhle, "ukhonkxwe" ngumfazi wakhe. Kwaye ekhaya uyalahla iisokisi, ifuna ukuba "idle ifike!" Okanye ucinga ngokukhawuleza ekhaleni, ehleli phambi kweTV kwiTekhthi elula.
Yintoni, awufuni kwakhona oku? Ngaba kukho ikhaya elinjalo?
Kuye okufanayo :)
Yona indlela umnqweno wesondo unqotshwa ngayo, ukuba kuyacaca ukuba umchasi-mngeni akayikho inkulu. Kwaye kuba zikhona ezimbalwa iinkosana zegazi lobukhosi, kunye neenlist zabo zikho kwi-intanethi, isondo epholileyo kunye "nendoda enomdla" iya kuba namandla kunamaxesha ambalwa - kwaye ke, ukuba uthanda naye.
Ngoko, nantoni na into ongayithethayo, ayifanelekanga. Kwaye kufuneka uzame ukubuyela ngesondo kuphela kwintsapho.