Ama-Asexuals: ubomi obungenasondo

Ixesha elinjenge "asexuals" lisandul 'ukufakwa kwisichazizwi sesini. Kodwa oku akuthinteli ukusasazeka kwamahemuhemu ukuba i-asexuality will be recognized as a new orientation. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukukholelwa ukuba kwihlabathi kukho abantu abangenamdla ngokupheleleyo kwimincili yenyama. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, kodwa uluntu lukhula ngokukhawuleza inani labantu abazithandela ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kobulili ebomini babo. Makhe sizame ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni le nto kunjalo, kwaye yintoni kanye i-asexuals ithatha indawo yesini.


Ubomi ngaphandle kwesondo: nidat, okanye uthathe

Njengomthetho, ama-asexuals ahluke kakhulu komnye. Phakathi kwabo badibeneyo kwihlabathi ngaba bahlala babini, benandipha i-platonics, kwaye kukho abo banokuqhaqhaqhayisa ngesondo kangangokuthi abanakho ulwalamano noluntu wesini esahlukileyo ngenxa yale nto. Kwakhona unokudibana kunye nalabo abathambekele ekuqhathaniseni ubomi kunye neziyobisi, kwaye ke oko kulandela ukuba abafuni ukuxhomekeka. Abanye babo baphila kuphela, kwaye abanye abahlali ngokuqhelekileyo kwabo bathanda ngesondo.

Ama-asexuals amaninzi athi ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kuphelisa ngokupheleleyo umhlaba kunye nokuphazamisa inkqubo yexabiso ngokubanzi. Ngaba aba bameli benkqutyana okanye abaninzi bathambekele ekuthandeleni izinto eziphathekayo ngokwenene ngokuzihlambalaza-imfihlakalo emva kwezihluthu ezisixhenxe. Ubuncinane, ngokuvakalayo bayayinqabela lo msebenzi.

Uphi isondo okanye ngaba behlala bekhona?

Okwangoku, i-asexuals ikhulunywe ngokuvulekileyo, ngaphezu koko, bona ngokwabo bathambekele ekutheni bakhulume ngokubanzi ngabo. Kwaye kwangaphambili, njengomthetho, kungekhona kuphela ngabachasi, kodwa abaxhamli beli sifundo abazange bamkelwe ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo. Ngoko ke, umbuzo othi xa abantu balahlekelwa ngumdla kwisini, abahlala bengaphendulwa. Kodwa ejikeleze kuye kukho iimbono ezininzi kunye nokucinga. Ngokomzekelo, omnye wabo waqhutyelwa phambili nguprofesa kwiYunivesithi yaseBrock eCanada Anthony Bogart. Ngokwezifundo zakhe zokufunda, kwafumaniswa ukuba i-1% yabemi behlabathi ayinandaba ngokupheleleyo nomsebenzi. Ngendlela, eli phesenti liyaqhubeka likhula! Kubonakala ukuba kukho izinto ezikhethekileyo ezichaphazela ukukhula kwama-asexual. Apha siyakwazi ukuchaza: uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, iingxaki ze-hormonal, iinkomfa, amava okuziphatha ngokwesini, okwenzele ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo - zonke ezi zinto zishiya umqondiso wazo ekudalweni kweenkolelo zesini.

Umbono wobuchule

Ngokwe-psychologist-sex-psychologist, umphathi wothando kunye ne-Academy of Real Life, uVictoria Alexandrova, kunzima ukuphika ukuba kubakho abantu abanjalo. Aba bantu banokudala ukudibanisa ngokufanelekileyo, ekuqaleni kokubona, izibini. Ukuba le ndawo ifaka amaqabane omabini, inokuphila ngokuvuya nangokuthula. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, aba bantu banengxaki yokugula nangokwengqondo abafuna uncedo lwenzululwazi.

Ngokubhekiselele kwimpilo yomzimba (ukuba umntu akahluphekanga kwizifo ezahlukahlukeneyo kwaye akayiyo i-monk), isondo singanika umntu amandla okuyimfuneko yengqondo yengqondo. Ihomoni ephuhliswa ngamandla ngexesha lokwenza uthando (endofirin) ngokugqithiseleyo iphakamisa imizwa kwaye inokunceda ukunqoba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, esiqingatha sinciphisa amathuba okuhlaselwa kwentliziyo.

Kodwa kuya kubasetyhini kunye namadoda ukuba banqume ukuba balala ngesini na okanye hayi. Kukho nawuphi na, uyabavuyisa, kuba bamkelwe kunye. Ngendlela, ezi zibini zifumana iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokusebenzisana, okusinika ithuba lokuba sizive sisondelelene nje ngeengxaki zezinto zomzimba: izinto ezidibeneyo, ukuphuhlisa ngokomoya, izinto ezithandwayo, njl njl njl. Zonke ezi zifundo kufuneka, ekuphenduleni kokuqala, zinike zombini indoda kunye nomfazi, ukusondelana kunye nokufuneka komhlobo kumhlobo.

Abantu bazalisekisa ama-asexuals

Ngokwezifundo ezifanayo, ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabachasene nesondo kunokunxulumana nabantu abanezemfundo ephakamileyo. Yaye yintoni eyona nto inomdla, ipesenti ethile yabantu isatshatile, apho sele sele ikhona abantwana.

Kodwa ngaphezu kwazo zonke iingcamango zenzululwazi, i-asexuals ngokwabo ibango lokuba beza kwesi sigqibo, besengqondweni ephilileyo kunye nengqondo. Abathathi-nxaxheba abakhulu kunaloo mbono uphupha olutsha, olulungekileyo ngengqondo yoluntu, apho kuya kuba khona ukungabikho ngokupheleleyo kobudlelwane bezesondo, kwaye abantwana baya kuveliswa ngokufanelekileyo.

Ngokuphathelele onke ama-asexuals ofanayo, isondo singathabatha i-multisil engathunyelwa kwinkqubela. Uthando ekuqondeni kwabo lufaniswa nokugula kwengqondo, ingqondo yengqondo ye-paranoid echaphazela izizathu zesini. Indoda ethandwayo inqatshelwe ukujonga okufanelekileyo. Ubomi ngaphandle kwesondo, ngokuchaseneyo, uvula ngelinye indlela kwihlabathi-iso kwaye uvumela abantu ukuba bathethe ngendlela ecocekileyo. Ngendlela, umnqweno wokufumana isiqingatha sam sesibini uthetha ukuzithoba.

Ngokombono wama-asexuals, ukukhula komntu kunye nokuqiqa kukufanele ukuma phakathi kwimbono yehlabathi ebalulekileyo.

Amaxesha amaninzi ama-asexuals anqatshelwe ngokwesini, ngenxa yokuba. abafuni ukuzibophelela kwabanye. Aba bantu banokuhlulwa zibe zimbini iintlobo: abo bangakhange bafumane ukukhwabaniswa ngokwesondo, kwaye abo baye baphumelela ukuyilahla (ukunyanzeliswa ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ukuziyeka ngokuzithandela ixesha elide).

Njengesiphetho, unokuthi ukuba awuyi kukhangela abantu abesini esahlukileyo, awunakuchulumanga ngokucinga ngesondo, ngoko uya kufana nentsingiselo yobuxhakaxhaka.

Nangona kunjalo, ukungabikho komnqweno wesondo kwabanye abantu baya kuthetha ukuba i-asexuals ayiboni njengento ekhangayo, yingako isimo sabo sengqondo sibuhluke kakhulu, malunga nokuba ngumculi wobugcisa obonayo imizobo kaLeonardo da Vinci.

Umgaqo apha kukuba bathambekele ekudibaniseni iimvakalelo kunye nomnqweno wokuba sisondele kumntu onemihlali yenyama. Ukususela kwimbono yabo-lo luhlobo lobuhlobo-uthando. Kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuba ininzi i-asexuals izakuqinisekisa umnqweno wokuthandana kunye nokuthandana, kodwa kungekhona emzimbeni.

Kwaye umnqweno okanye ukungafuni ukufumana abantwana, oku akunakho ukuxhamla. Njengoko sele sithethile, amaninzi ase-asexuals anabantwana. Ukuba azinjalo, ngoko i-asexual ingayama ukufumana ibini kunye noncedo lwesayithi elikhethekileyo lokuthandana nentuthuko edibeneyo yomntwana. Ngexesha elifanayo, kucingeka ukuba ucinga ukukhulelwa umntwana ngokwemvelo, kodwa ukhetho lunikezelwa ekutshitshweni kwangokwemvelo. Enyanisweni, abantwana bangabantwana, kodwa injongo ebalulekileyo yoluhlobo ngumhlobo, ukunxibelelana okuthakazelisayo kwizihloko eziphikisanayo, ukuphathwa ngokubambisana kwimihla ngemihla kunye nokuxhasana.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthini, okanye ngelanga, nokuba inhlanhla, i-yoursexxality iyayiqonda okanye icinga ukuba ininzi, okanye ngamakhulu abantu bacinga, kungekudala kuphela (ukuguquka kwesimo sengqondo, ubunzima bexesha eliphakathi, njl.), Kodwa kunye nabaselula. Kunzima ukuqikelela apho oku kuya kwenzeka khona. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kunokutsho ukuba, mhlawumbi, kuyimfuneko ukuphosa igobolondo yemfihlakalo kwisigaba sokwabelana ngesondo kwaye ngaloo ndlela uvuselele ukucwasana kwabesini ngesibini kwakhona?