Isifundo sokuqala, indlela yokuphumelela umntu, ubizwa ngokuba ngumngeniso.
Kufuneka uzibonele ukuba ufuna kangakanani ukuba nomntu oyithandayo. Ngaba akunjalo nje umnqweno wakho, ndifuna! Kufuneka wenze yonke into exhomekeke kuwe, ukwenzela ukuba iimvakalelo zomzimba zivele ngokwazo.
Isifundo sesibini, indlela yokuphumelela umntu, kuthiwa uhlalutyo.
Nawuphi na umfazi unemfuno yakhe okhethiweyo, kodwa ungakulibali ukuba umntu unemfuno efanayo nawe. Ukuthanda nje akuyona into engenakwenzeka. Sonke siyamthanda yaye siyamthanda iimpawu ezithile kuthi.
Ukufezekisa ukuba sifuna indoda enjengathi, simele sibe yinto yeminqweno yakhe. Sifanele sihambe ngokugqithisileyo kulo mbandela kwaye sihlalutye oko abesifazana bathanda indoda yethu, kwaye yiziphi iimpawu azixabisa kwintombikazi. Simele senze konke okusemandleni ukuze sibe yinto efanelekileyo.
Isifundo sesithathu yindlela yokuphumelela indoda, ebizwa ngokuthi ifowuni.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba abantu bathanda amehlo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ingaba njani, kodwa awukwazi ukuphikisana nale nto kwaye awuyi kwenza nantoni na, inyaniso ihlala. Ukuze ukholise umntu wakho, kufuneka usebenze kumfanekiso wakho. Ungesabi ukutshintsha ikhabethe lakho. Ungesabi ukudaya ubunwele bakho obubomvu okanye ubuninzi beenwele ezide, yenza iincinci ezifutshane. Khetha uhlobo oluthile lweengubo. Ungesabi ukuzama, jonga utshintsho lwakho lwangaphandle, njengomculi ukuba ubhale umfanekiso omtsha. Ndive ngathi ngumfazi ohluke ngokupheleleyo.
Isisine sesine, indlela yokuphumelela umntu, kuthiwa ingqondo yengqondo.
Kumele ungene emphefumlweni womntu wakho ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo ingqondo yakhe. Kwakhona, kufuneka ufunde kwaye uyayiqonda into ayithandayo okanye engayithandiyo, apho angakwazi ukucaphukisa okanye ngokuchaseneyo. Funda malunga nemikhwa yakhe kunye nokuba yintoni ebomini obungenakulindela. Yiba yingqondo yengqondo.
Ukuze unqobe indoda, kufuneka ukwazi ukuthetha naye ngokufanelekileyo. Kuye kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo ebomini, xa umntu enokuthanda intombazana, kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa eqala ukuthetha naye, konke ukufuna kwakhe ukuthetha naye kuye kwalahleka. Kufuneka ufunde, kungekhona nje ukuthetha, kodwa unokukwazi ukuphulaphula iqabane lakho. Yiba ngumnxibelelwano othakazelisayo kuye.
Isifundo sesithandathu, indlela yokuphumelela umntu, kuthiwa yifilosofi.
Nangona kunjalo kumangalisa kuwe, kodwa ekujuleni kwezinto ezihambelanayo zeeminqweno zikho ngokucacileyo ilitye lefilosofi. Emva koko, ifilosofi yobomi esinokukwazi ukumisela umntu, ukuba uyathanda ukufunda kakhulu, yintoni iifilimu zakhe okanye iinkqubo ezithandayo? Yintoni ayenzayo ngexesha lakhe elincinane?
Kungenzeka ukuba, ngoku ucinga, yintoni inqweno enokuyenza ngazo zonke ezi ngasentla? Kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba kunjalo, amathuba akho okutsala umntu kumncinci. Ukuba awunayo into engafanelekanga yefilosofi, ngoko awuyi kuba nesifiso esinamandla.
Isifundo sesithandathu, indlela yokuphumelela indoda, kuthiwa isicwangciso.
Ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukuphumelela umntu, kufuneka uzigqibelele iziphumo zakho zobudlelwane. Kukho iintlobo ezi-2 zokuthanda ukupela, uthando nothando lwezesondo. Ewe, ukuthanda ulwabelana ngesondo kuthathwa njengento elula, kodwa ukufeza uthando lomntu wakho akulula. Njengoko iinani libonisa, ininzi amadoda ayithandi ukulala ngesondo, kodwa intsapho, ubuhlobo kunye nothando.
Isifundo sesikhombisa, indlela yokuphumelela umntu, kuthiwa yi-tactical.
Iqhinga lokuqala ngamandla okujonga.
Ngokuncedwa ngolu hlobo, unokutsala ingqalelo nayiphi na indoda. Kodwa imbono yakho akufanele ibonakalise nje umnqweno, kufuneka ufunde ukunyaniseka kwakho kwindoda. Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo, ukubukeka sisixhobo esinamandla kakhulu somfazi.
Isicatshulwa sesibini yimeko ephosakeleyo.
Akukho nto inokukudonsa kunye kunye neziganeko ezimangalisayo. Kwaye akukho mfuneko yokubandakanya iingxaki. Unokukwazi ukuhlala uhamba phambi kwendoda ebunzima. Funda ukunqoba nayo iingxaki zemihla ngemihla
Isicatshulwa sesithathu yindlela yokuhlaziya.
Njengoko uyazi, ukuhleka kungekudala nje ubomi bomntu, kodwa kudibanisa abantu ababini. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba uhleka into kunye kunye, ngoko uvakalelwa ngomoya omnye. Ukuhleka akukwazi nje ukuzisa abantu ababini, kodwa nabo bayawachitha.
Iqhinga lesine yimbane yobugcisa.
Isifundo sesibhozo, indlela yokuphumelela umntu, kuthiwa unethemba.
Ukuba umthanda umntu, akufanele uhlawule, kuba akufanele kubekho izithintelo endleleni. Into ephambili kukuba kufuneka ukholelwe kuwe kwaye wazi ukuba uya kuphumelela. Kumele uchithe kumntu wakho kwaye ube yilo lonke iphupha lakhe, elalifuna ixesha elide.
Isifundo lesithoba, indlela yokuphumelela umntu, ubizwa ngokuba ngowokugqibela.
Musa ukuphoswa ngesifiso esinye. Umnqweno wokuba usondele kumntu akufanele uhambe kwi-fanaticism. Kubudlelwane bakho kufuneka kube nokuvumelana ngokupheleleyo. Mhlawumbi akukho mfazi ngamnye uya kufuna ukwazi zonke ezi zifundo, kuba kuye akukhona nje umnqweno onamandla. Kodwa ukuba akukho mfuno ekhethekileyo, ngoko akufanelekile ukuqala. Emva koko, ukuba sifuna ngokwenene abafazi, siya kwenza konke ukuqinisekisa ukuba siphumelele.
Izifundo ezithoba malunga nendlela yokuphumelela umntu uya kukunceda amaqabane amnandi, fumana indoda ngokukhawuleza kwaye ufumane oko ufuna ngako. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini, sifuna ukuba uyithande kwaye uyathandwa!