Imeko eqhelekileyo, ngokwenene nithandana, qalisa ukudibana kwaye ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, okumele kwenzeke, ngolunye ubusuku waniyisa ekhaya kwaye, emi emnyango, iminwa yakho ivaliwe kunye phantsi kwe "kiss". Kwaye nantsi ke - yakho yokuqala, ukumkelwa okungekho nto engamanga, emva koko intloko iyahamba, kwaye iimvakalelo ziphuphuma. Yaye yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, kukho enye inkinga - inhlamba yabantwana, apho wonke umntu wadlula. Ngaba uqala ukufihla amehlo akho, iingcinga entloko yakho ziqala ngokukhawuleza? kodwa ngokuzithemba udidekile kwaye umbuzo ngokwawo uvuthwe: "Indlela yokuziphatha ngethuba?" Masizame kunye kunye nokugqiba indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomfana emva kokumanga kokuqala?
Amantombazana amaninzi kuba aqala ukuba neentloni ngokwenene akakwazi ukuqonda "kodwa ngulo kubanga." Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kubangelwa ukwesaba inkqubo ngokwayo kunye nemiphumo yayo. Uloyiko lokubamba kokuqala lunokucaciswa ngokulufanisa nokoyika into into yokutshintsha, ukufunda into entsha, engaziwayo ngaphambili. Kodwa urhulumente emva kokumanga kufaniswa nokuvakalelwa kukuba ungenzi into engafanelekanga, into engavamile kuwe, kwinqanaba elithile okanye lihlazo. Uloyiko lokuba iqabane lakho liya kukumangalela. Oku, okwenene, ukwesaba okuqhelekileyo kukho konke oku koyikayo. Kwaye ngenxa yento entloko eqala ukujikeleza iingcamango ezahlukeneyo, kubangela ukuba neentloni ezicacileyo kunye nokwesaba ebusweni.
Okokuqala, uyeke ukwethuka, emva koko, awuzange wenze nantoni na ityala, yinto yonke yendalo eyakufuneka yenzeke, kuba kuhle kakhulu kumama wethu (masithi sibulele kuye ngeli thuba elingalibalekiyo). Emva kokuba udibanise kunye kunye nokugxotha iimbilini zakho kude, uzakuqala ngokukhawuleza ukucacisa kwaye ucacise ukuba ucinge. Ngokukhawuleza ukhulula kwaye unokwaneleyo ukuqonda imeko. Khangela kuyo ukusuka kwelinye icala - ngoku unento yokubonakalisa kwiintombi zakho, kodwa ke ekugqibeleni, wamanga okokuqala, nangona yena (isoka lakho), njengoko wacinga kwaye akazi ukuba ungayenza njani (ngendlela, malunga nayo ngoko uya kukhunjulwa ngokuhleka ngaphezu kwesinye), kodwa kwenzeka. Ngoko ke, "iimbulunga!" Kuya kuba ngumgaqo wethu wokuqala ukuze sigweme "emva kokumanga kwe-syndrome."
Ihlazo - ngokunjalo, njengokuba ndithe ngasentla, le nkqubo yendalo, ngendlela, ubusika sele usele, eselunamahloni, konke kwenziwa kwaye wonke umntu uyaphila. Into eyona nto oye wayifumana kumfana, kutheni ukhathazekile apha. Ngoko ke, nqama ukufihla amehlo akho, ukuwaphonsa emhlabathini, wakho umfana akakho - uphambi kwakho. Wena, ekugqibeleni, ngubani na onamahloni, okanye yintoni? Yeka, kholwa kwam, unentloni, umsekele ngamehlo akhe.
Bayihlela kunye nabo, kwaye ngoku ngoku kumntu. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokumanga kuzama ukunqanda ukuhleka. Lindela kude kube ngumzuzu apho ufumana khona ekhaya ekhaya, kwaye uya kuvelela, ukhona, ngenxa yendlela, ubusuku bonke (kholelwa ukuba ungeke ulale). Ngoko uhleka-shiya, faka oko kuza kuba yinkwenkwe yakho, xa uqala ukuhleka ukuhlambalaza, ndicinga ukuba akayi kuba nomona. Zibeke endaweni yakhe. Kungcono ukuhleka usulu, ukukhupha imeko kunye nokumomotheka, ngoko kunye kunye - phucula imeko yakho. Kwaye, kuya kuba mnandi ukuthetha amagama amnandi athile anjengokuthi "oku kukuqala kokumanga - ndiyakhumbula" okanye enye into enjalo, uyintombazana, kunye nefantasy, njengokuba siyazi, siyaziqhenya kuzo zonke iimeko. Ndilibale ukuthetha, kodwa ke, ekugqibeleni, niphuthumele ekhaya, uya kucinga ukuba uyabaleka kuye, kungekhona ekumangeni. Abafana, naphezu kokubamba kokuqala okanye okwesibini, banokukhululeka kakhulu ngale nto kwaye ngenxa yokuba nenzondelelo yokufihla ngaphandle kweendonga zendlu yakho, unokucinga ukuba uhlukile (ukuba ubalekela kuye, umzekelo, ukuba, kakuhle, nje, ukumanga kabi kakhulu).
Ngendlela, ukuba, ukuba iqabane lakho sele linamava ngendlela yokumanga ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ngokukhawuleza emva kokumanga kwakho kukukhumbuza ngesihloko ozenzayo kakubi. Musa ukuba neentloni, abantu basoloko bathanda ukubonisa ukuba bangcono kunamantombazana kukho konke. Ngoko ngokuzithemba kwaye uyiphendule ngesibindi into enje: "Akukho nto, kunye nomfundisi onjengawe, ndisenalo ixesha lokufunda ... ngoko yonke into ihamba phambili." Umfana uya kuthatha njengendlela yokuncoma okulungileyo kwaye ngexesha elifanayo nayihlazo kuwe. Ukuba lo mntu akazange athethe nantoni na, musa ukuzitshela ukuthi akayangeki kakuhle (kakuhle, ngaphandle kokuba uthanda indlela akwenzayo ngayo). Ndiyathemba ukuba ubuncinane bayiqonda indlela yokuziphatha nomfana emva kokubamba kokuqala. Khumbula, ukuqala kokuqala kukubamba okuhle. Uyenzeka ebomini kanye kwaye ungangonakalisi lo mzuzwana, kunye neentlobo zonke zobandlululo kunye nokuphula intloko yakhe, ukuba wenza okulungileyo, kwaye ukuba akayithandanga, mhlawumbi ndiyazi indlela yokumanga. Njengoko bethetha, iMoscow sele isakhiwe iintsuku eziliqela. Awazi ukuba njani ngoku - uya kufunda.
Ngamagama, emva kokubanga, ziphathe ngokuzinzile, zilinganiswe. Ungaze ube nexhala. Okokuqala, ndicinga ukuba akuyi kubakho ukukhumbula ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Ulibale ihlazo, qhubeka uyenza yonke into oyenzayo emihlanu imizuzu edlulileyo, de kube ngumzuzu owanga. Sumama kumlingane wakho, zama ukuthetha ngesinye isihloko, ngoko ukhulule bobabini kwaye ususe umbane. Ukuzicima ngokupheleleyo kwizinto ezenzekile, musa "ukuxhoma" ngeli xesha kule nto. Yeka ukucinga malunga nesoka lakho kumbono wokuthi akayithandi into okanye uyakugweba into ethile, kwaye wayitshintsha indlela yakhe ngayo. Emva kwezinto ezenzekayo wayenomdla ngakumbi kuwe, ngenxa yokuba waqala ukusondelana komnye nomnye, kwaye ubuhlobo bakho bube nombala ohluke ngokupheleleyo, ukuya kwisigaba esibi. Ngoko ungakhathazeki intloko ngeengcamango zentliziyo, kodwa kunoko, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ekhaya, wabuke kwakhona, ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ilungile kwaye akukho nto idlwengileyo ebomini bakho. Hlaziya, vumela konke ukuhamba, njengoko kuhamba ngokwakho.