Ngaba umntu uyakhathala ngumfazi omthandayo?

Umzabalazo wesini, uzama ukuqonda intsingiselo yomnye nomnye, ukufumana ukungafani kunye neengongoma zokudibanisa-le nto into enomdla ayiyi kudla. Indoda nomfazi ngumxholo ongunaphakade. Kukho imibuzo eninzi malunga nolwalamano lwesini, apho kungekho mpendulo engabonakaliyo, malunga nokuba kukho iingxoxo rhoqo. Kodwa kukho izihlandlo zengqondo ezingasetyenziswa kwizibini ezininzi. Namhlanje siza kuthetha malunga nokuba umntu unokudiniwe ngumfazi othandekayo kwaye kutheni iimvakalelo zakhe ziba nzima.

Iimbini ezifanelekileyo azikho, kuba kubambene ubudlelwane bobabini abazimeleyo badibana, oko kuthetha ukuba ubuncinane bokungqubuzana kwabantu, iimbono kunye nezinye izinto zenzeka kungekudala okanye kamva kunoma yiphi ibini. Ngoko ke, abantu bafuna ukwenza izinto ezizenzekelayo, bazilungiselelane. Kwiimeko ezininzi, elinye lamalingani lenza oku ngaphezu kwesinye. Nangona kukholwa ukuba lo mfazi ubuthakathaka, oko kuthetha ukuba uhlala esenza ukuvumelanisa, oku akunjalo ngokupheleleyo. Ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa ukuba amadoda angakwazi ukuphazamisa, ngenxa yokuba Ufuna ukuphepha ukuxabana, iinyembezi, ukucacisa ubudlelwane, njl. Abafazi banomdla wokubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezinobundlobongela kwaye balungiselele ukusebenza. Kufuneka kubekho umlinganiselo olinganiselayo kuyo yonke into. Yimiphi imithetho ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ibonwe ngokuphathelele kumntu?

Ixesha lomntu. Ukuba indoda yakho ifuna ukubukela ibhola, ukudlulisa, njl., Mnike ithuba lokuyenza. Mshiye indawo yokuzilibazisa, izinto ezithandwayo, izinto ezizithandayo. Okanye mhlawumbi umntu wakho uvela emsebenzini obunzima, ukhathele, ufumene umphathi wakhe kunye neenqwelo zakhe, unengxaki zemali okanye enye into? Mnike ixesha lokuba eze kwaye abe yedwa kunye neengcinga zakhe, ukuba ufuna. Ungakhathazeki ukubuza ukuba ubona ukuba akakho ukuthetha. Uya kuba yedwa kunye naye, kwaye ngexesha liza kuba likulungele ukuxoxa ngeengxaki nawe.

Yintoni enye ecaphukisa amadoda kwabasetyhini? Abayithandi xa besetyhini kakhulu. Kufuneka ube nguwe, kuba uyakuthanda, njengawe. Ukuba awukhululekile ngokubonakala kwakho, tshintsha into ethile kuwe, kodwa ungahambi kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unesisindo esingaphezulu, musa ukuzikhangela ngasinye kwisiqwenga esidliwayo, uzenze ukhulelwe. Ukulwa nobunzima ngeendlela eziphilileyo. Ukuba ayisebenzi, khumbula ukuba ibhinqa liyakwazi ukubukeka litshati kwaye lihle kwaye libunjwa obuhle. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, zithande ngokunyanisekileyo, ngoko abanye baya kukujonga ngenye indlela. Amadoda afana nabasetyhini, abazithemba ngokwabo kunye nokukhanga kwabo.

Amadoda ayeshukunyiswa ngumona onomona onomngcipheko onqamle kwi-paranoia, kubo bonke ngokulandelanayo nangaphandle. Ukungathembeki okunjalo kunako ekugqibeleni ukubulala nayiphi na ingqondo okanye ukunyusa umntu ukuba abe nomdlalo wothando. Yintoni ekhona apho, ukuba yonke into ephikisanayo ngaphandle kwezono zonke? Amadoda ayethusa ngovakalelo olunzulu, xa ibhinqa nganye imfutshane idinga ukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo: kumanga, ukumbamba, amazwi amnene, ifuna ukuba ihlale isondeza ngokomoya. Amadoda ayithandi xa owesifazane elambile inkxaso yesekondari yonke, ehlala ekhononda ngento enye okanye enye, "ukukhala," uyathukuthela ngenxa yezinto ezincinci ezifana nentambo ephukileyo, ukukhala okanye ukucaphuka malunga nantoni na njalo njalo.

Amadoda ayithandi ababuthathaka kakhulu nabasetyhini abasetyhini. Ba kha wuleza. Isondo esiqinileyo sithukuthelelwa ngokuzama ukuzama ukubuza iingcinga zabo, iimvakalelo, njalo njalo. Umzekelo, "Ucinga ntoni ngoku? Ucinga ntoni ngale nto? "Yaye yinto. Indoda iyethusa xa ibhinqa lizama ukufumana ngokupheleleyo indawo yakhe kunye nayo yonke ixesha. Ufuna ukuba asebenzise lonke ixesha lakhe lokukhulula kunye naye, afune izinto zakhe, iipokotshi, ibhokisi, ukutshintshela umntu kwizinga lepropati yakhe. Amadoda athukuthelwa yi-shopping rhoqo, ngakumbi xa kufuneka baye kwinkampani kunye nabafazi babo. Oku kusebenza kumatyala xa uhambo oluya esitolo alujoliswe kuyo into ethile, kodwa ngokungekho njongo, ngokucingisisa ngeefestile zevenkile kwaye uhamba ukusuka kwisitolo ukuya kwisitolo.

Abafazi abathandana nabo banokugqithiseka ngokugqithiseleyo amadoda. Ingxoxo ngaphandle kokuyeka, ingakumbi emva komsebenzi womhla inokukrazula indoda ngaphandle kwayo. Akunjalo ukuba le ndoda ayikuthandi ukuphulaphula, nje ngombono wakhe, iinkcukacha ezininzi ezingenakunceda zingabikho. Abantu bayamthiya xa bexhatshazwa ngesondo. Oku kungafanelekanga kwaye kuphazamiseka kwinqanaba elibuthathaka. Akukho mntu othanda oku. Andiyithandi abantu, xa ibhinqa lilungisa, limangalela ngazo zonke izono, xa "yintlanzi esicaleni."

Ukuthetha nemigqabha kuyacaphukisa isiqingatha esinamandla sabantu. Ngexesha apho abafazi bathanda ukubuza indoda ngeengcamango zabo neemvakalelo zabo, ngamanye amaxesha bathi izigodo kunye namacebiso, enethemba lokuba loo mntu uya kuqaphela yonke into. Kodwa abantu abanalo ikhono lwe-telepathic, kwaye ngenxa yoko bayacaphukiswa ngokungabi mvumelwano okanye bedlala ngokuthula. Ukuba umntu akaziqhelanga yena, umfazi unokukhubekisa, enze ihlazo okanye avakalise ngokucacileyo ukuba akasathandwa. Musa ukuhlazisa umntu, uvakalise ukungathandabuzeki ngobukhulu bakhe, ubuchule bakhe. Oku kukubetha ukuzingca kunye nesithunzi. Akukho mzekelo ungatsho ekutshiseni kwempikiswano oye wasichitha ixesha lakho kuyo, ukuba yakho yangaphambili ibekho into engcono. Qaphela ngamazwi kunye nakwizitatimenti ngethuba le-scandal, ngenxa yokuba uya kuzisola emva koko, kwaye emva koko "ilizwi aliyonto intlunkulu ..." Abanye abesifazana emva kwenkathi yobomi bentsapho baqala ukuphika umntu olala ngesondo kaninzi. Awunayo ukuba ulungele ngokupheleleyo ukulwa ukulungela iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku kwaye ulale ngesondo kuqala, kodwa umlinganiselo olinganiselayo kufuneka ube. Ukuba loo mntu sele sele elibalekile, xa elala ngesigxina sokugqibela, oku kuhamba ngexesha elinokuchaphazeleka ngemiphumo.

Ungalibali ngokubonakala kwakho. Zihlolisise, hla mbuluka. Indoda eqinisile iye yakhula ngokuthandekayo kwaye ulungele kakuhle. Akukho mntu ubiza umnxeba ukuba ahambe ekhaya kunye nokugqoka ngokuhlwa, kodwa ufuna nje ukuzibheka, gcina umzimba kunye neenwele zicocekile kwaye zihlambuluke, zihlambuluke kwaye zicoceke, zigqoke iimpahla ezintle zokubonakala kakuhle, njl njl. Awudingi ukugalela indoda ngothando lwakho, bonisa indlela oyika ngayo ukulahlekelwa nguye. Khumbula ukuba amadoda azingeli ngandlela-thile.

Kodwa kunjalo-soloko uzihlonela! Yiba nembono yakho, wazi indlela yokuzikhusela, ungazivumeli ukuba uhlale entanyeni yakho, kukuhlazisa, ukuphatha kakubi njalo njalo. Emva koko indoda yakho iya kukuhlonipha nawe. Ngaba umntu uyakhathala ngumfazi omthandayo? Ubudlelwane kufuneka busebenze kuzo zombini amaqabane. Kufanelekile ukugcina ilangatye yentsapho, ukuzama ukuqondana, ukuthandana, ukuzisola, ngamanye amaxesha ukuzibeka kwindawo yomnye. Thandanani kunye novuyo!