Ukungcola negolide
Nazi izinto ezimbini eziqhelekileyo kunye neendawo eziqhelekileyo apho amaqabane afunyanwe nawo kumacala ahlukeneyo kwimida yabo. Imbali kuqala. Unyanisekile kwaye uhloniphekile, kodwa uthobekile kwaye uhlazo. Uyintombazana enamandla eneempawu zobunkokheli. Intlanganiso, uthando, umtshato. Bobabini babeyintando yokuqala. Ekubhedeni, umyeni omncinci waba ngumnene kunye nobuthathaka, nangona engasebenzi. Umfazi wam akazange abe ne-orgasm, kodwa wagqiba kwelokuba akukho nto eyingozi kule nto, kwaye ukhetha nje ukuzonwabisa ngokusondelene nomntu othandekayo. Yonke into yayisichengile kwaye izolile. Kwaza kwangoko wadibana nendoda, isithandane kunye nokuzithemba, ebhedini naye ebenomdla okwenjenjalo, malunga nobukho engazange abuqonde. Eli bhinqa lagqiba ukuba unxibelelwano kwicala akufanele luqhubeke, kodwa uchaze ngenyameko umyeni wakhe ukuba ezinye iintlobo ze-caresses, ezivuyisa kakhulu, zinokwenzeka, ziya kuba luncedo kumtshato. Kwaye-engafanelekanga: iqabane liye laqwalasela ibango lakhe "lihlazo" kwaye "alivumelekanga kumfazi ohloniphekileyo," umfazi wafumanisa ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuphendula ngokuhlambalaza ... kwaye phantse kwaza kwaqhawula umtshato. Ibali lesibini. Intombazana engenamava yatshata-kwaye yafumanisa ukuba yayingenamdla ngokupheleleyo ngesondo, yayiza kumana kunye nokuwanga. Ulwazi olungakumbi kwimibhedlele, iqabane alizange lilahlekelwe ithemba lokuvusa ukuziphatha kwakhe, kodwa ngokucacileyo umfazi akazange akholwe kwi-caresses kwaye wakhetha ukuba isenzo sesondo siphele ngokukhawuleza. Wazama ukuzisa isondo ngomlomo kwisidlo "sesidlo" sesondo, kodwa wafumana ukuhlutha komsindo: umfazi wathi kwindlela ethile yokuchukumisa umlomo kunye nelungu lezonyameko zakhe, akazange aphendule kunye nemizamo yomyeni wakhe yokunyanzelisa i-clitoris ngolwimi lwakhe. Emva koko, umyeni wamvakalisa umthi wamanzi waza wathi uya kumshiya ukuba akazange aphendulele kwisifo somzimba wezesondo. Okokugqibela kwamabini amabini uphumelele: zombini izibini ziye zafikelela kwiingcali, zafumanisa ukuba akukho namanye amaqabane analo nantoni na izithintelo zokuphila, kwaye bafunda ukuphulaphula iiminqweno zabanye baze bazivumele ngakumbi kunaphambili. Kodwa ukuba ukuthatha inxaxheba kwabagcini bezocansi kule imeko kwakungekho - konke kuya kugqiba ukuwa kweentsapho, okanye imfuneko yokuba omnye wezo zibini enze "iphosakele" ukusuka kwindlela yokujonga ngayo, ngezenzo. Ngelishwa, iintsapho ezininzi zihlala, kwaye kwisizukulwana sabazali bethu, le nto yayivame kakhulu. Kwaye kukho nawuphi na umzekelo, uluhlu lomntu wokwamkelwa kwezesondo (uluhlu lwamkeleko lwe-caresses) ludlala indima yalo. Uncwadi lwezenzululwazi eli gama luchazwa ngokuthi "ubuninzi beendlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo kwiindawo eziseduze, ezingabangela ukuba iimvakalelo eziphazamisekile kwiintsebenziswano kwaye zithathwa njengento evumelekileyo." Iquka zombini iintlobo ze-caresses, kwaye zichaphazela oku okanye inxalenye yomzimba, kunye neentlobo zesini, kunye nesimo. Kulowo nalowo wethu, uluhlu lwesenzo sokwamkelwa kwezesondo luyimpumelelo, kwaye lukhawulelwe ngokukodwa ngokwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha, yokuziphatha kunye neyobuchule. Kwiimeko ezinqabileyo, kukho ukunciphisa umzimba. Kwaye sihlala siqwalasela ukungaziphathi kakubi kunye nokungahambi ngokungekho mthethweni (njenge-pedophilia okanye i-zoophilia), kodwa nayo iyamkelwa ngokupheleleyo kwaye imvelo kwezinye izibini zenzo zesini, zithi, isondo esilwe. Le yimiqobo yethu (siyakhumbula kwakhona ukuba isiqhelo asiyona nto, kodwa uluhlu?), Kwaye iqabane lifanele libaleke nalo. Njengoko kufuneka sikhumbule imida yawo. Kubudlelwane bomtshato kufuneka basebenze ngokubizwa ngokuba yi-golden rule of sex: kulala, unokuvumela yonke into efanelwe amaqabane omabini. Igama eliphambili "kokubili". "Ngokukhawuleza ukuba kukho ukuphazamiseka komnye wabalingani, le mpukelo ibonakaliswa kwenye. Ukwenza into engavumelekanga ebhedini ngokusebenzisa amandla, njengesabelo kumlingane, ufaka isenzo sam sokulibaziseka, esitshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye siholele ekudibaneni-ukuphulwa komsebenzi womtshato. " Ngoko ke, ukusuka kumgaqo wegolide ulandela isibini, "isilivere": ukuba uzive ungakhululekile - yithetha ngako. Ukuthula kubiza kakhulu.
Iintloni zamantombazana
Kwibini, kufuneka ulahle, njengommiselo, kumfazi. Esi sisiphumo sokukhuliswa kwabazali: "umfazi uyintombi ebuthakathaka, umsebenzi wakhe ukunyamezela nokunyamezela, lo bubulumko bowesifazane." Ewe, kwaye imvelo isungulwe ukwenzela ukuba ibhinqa elalunxilongwane lingabonakaliyo: akakwazi ukuthatha isondo sobuntu ngokubanzi, kuba i-orgasm yebhinqa yokukhulelwa ayifuni. "Phantse kuzo zonke iindidi zezinto eziphilayo, inkqubo yokutshatyalaliswa yindoda. Abesifazane bahlala bebonisa amadoda, banike ingxelo, bahlengahlengise, bavumelane. Ekubhedeni, phantse yonke into imiselwe ngumntu: ubude bezenzo zesondo, kunye nobude babo, kunye neendlela zokusebenzisana. Ingxenye yale nto ichanekile: emva koko, umfazi akakwazi, umzekelo, ukwandisa ukulala ngesondo kuphela kwintando, kunye ne-orgasm yomlingani, ngokuthe ngandlela-thile iphelile. Kwiimeko zesini zesimo, iqabane likhethe kakhulu. " Yingakho uluhlu lwesenzo sokwamkelwa kwezesondo kumadoda ngokuqhelekileyo lubanzi kunabesetyhini, kwaye inkqubo yokwazi phakathi ezininzi kwiibini zitshatileyo ukunyuka okuthe ngcipheko kunye nokuthe ngcembe kwinqanaba lomlingane kwimida yamadoda. Isondo esiqinileyo sikulungele ukuzama ukujongana nesimo esifanelekileyo sesondo. Kwaye ixesha elide lidibene kunye, elifutshane eliphambili - iintlobo zivame ukufunwa kwiintlobo zesini, izikhundla ezintsha, indawo ezingavamile zokwenza uthando, ukusebenzisa amathoyizi esondo. Kwaye ngoko kuxhomekeka kukunyamekela nokunyaniseka kwendoda, kwaye kulula kakhulu ukuba baxelele iqabane elinqabileyo ukusuka kulo okanye ukuba "isiphakamiso esingcolileyo" esicacileyo kunokuba ufumane ngokuchanekileyo isizathu sokuba engakhululeki ukwenza oku okanye isenzo socansi. Ngamanye amaxesha izithintelo zobomi obuqhelekileyo ngokwesondo azingalindelekanga. Yithi, uGeorge Selyukov wandixelela ibali lesinye sezigulane zakhe - umfazi onokuthetha nenzululwazi nakwezo naziphi na izihloko zesini, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo i-social phobia: uyabona kunzima ukwenza ulwazi olutsha kunye nokuhlakulelana ubudlelwane, oku kuthetha ukuba akukho buhlobo bobulili obunjalo. Kodwa ukuba ufike kumzantsi wezizathu kwaye uqonde indlela anokupheliswa ngayo okanye ukukhutshwa, kufuneka kubekho ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo phakathi kwabalingani, kwaye ngelanga, akubona ukuba isibini siqhayisa ngoku. Uninzi lweengxaki zivela kwinto yokuba elinye iqabane linombono ocacileyo woluhlu lokuvuma kwamanye. Ngokomzekelo, sihlala sizama ukuzithoba kumlingane kuyo yonke into ebhedini kwaye singabonakali naluphi na isinyathelo, kuba siqinisekile ukuba amadoda anjenge "ukuthobela", nangona ininzi yabo ifana nabalingani abakhutheleyo (into ephambili ayiyikugqithisa intonga: abalawuli abahlala embhedeni wabo sele Musa ukuvuya). Ngezinye izihlandlo amadoda ayengazi ukuba ngokwenene ubulili obukhuni, kunye neenkalo zokungeniswa, njengenani elincinci labasetyhini, kunye ne-orgasm kunye nesondo sangasese lifumana kuphela ngabamele abesini lesini. Kuloluhlu lwesabelo sokwamkelwa ngokwesini, umahluko kumgaqo-wesondo wabalingani nawo ubonakala. Ngomgaqo-siseko wesini obuthathaka, asiyi kuba nomnqweno ngokuphindaphindiweyo - kwaye esinye isizathu sokuba iqabane ligqibe isigqibo sokuba sinengxaki, ukuba, umzekelo, unomgaqo wesondo oqinileyo. Ulungelelaniso luya kunceda apha: umzekelo, awukwazi ukwenza uthando rhoqo, kodwa unokwenza umonakalo kumlingane "ngexesha elingenangqiqo" ngenye indlela, ucinge ngoluhlu lwakho.
Izithelo zokukhanyisa
Imida yoluhlu lwesigqibo sokwamkelwa kwezesondo luyakhiwa kwangaphambili, ixesha elide ngaphambi kovavanyo lokuqala. Ukulala ngethuba lokuqala, ngamanye amaxesha sele sele sichaze ngokucacileyo ukuba oku kufuneka kwenzeke njani - kwaye udanike kakhulu xa kuvela into eyahlukileyo. Inkulumo yobomi bentsapho bembhali yobugcisa bexesha lama-Victorian, uJohn Ruskin, yayiyinkulumo yedolophu. Ukufundela umzimba wesetyhini kuphela kwizithombe zamandulo, waxhalaka ngobusuku bokutshata bokuqala ngokufumanisa ukuba abafazi babezinwele kwiindawo ezithandana nabo, baze bagula ixesha elide. Oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, phantse i-anecdotal, kodwa amava okuqala ngokwesini ayakhawulezi aphefumle: phantse akukho namnye amantombazana aphantsi kwe-orgasm kunye neyokuqala kwesondo. Ukwakheka kweentlobo zokwamkelwa kwezesondo kuthintela konke esikufundile ngesondo, ukususela ebuntwaneni, kwaye le ngcaciso ayisoloko isayensi. Emva kwakho konke, ngezemfundo zesondo ezikolweni asizange sisebenze, kwaye abazali banqwenela ukuthula ngokuphathelele umbandela onobuchule okanye ukunyanzelisa i-tab ("ukubambisa ukukhuliswa kwabahlali"). Ngenxa yoko, utitshala uba sitrato, kwaye kwidologi yasezidolophini, isondo siphelele ngenani elingenangqondo leengcamango ezingenanto nantoni na. Iintombazana ezisebuntwini zihlala zenza umzekelo wobudlelwane obuhle kwiimvanoveli zothando kunye namafilimu. Emva kokuba ufunde iincwadi malunga nendlela i-horse ehlophe, umthandi onobubele kwaye onomdla, uthatha umfokazi omhle, amantombazana alindele ukuba izinto zokuqala zomlilo zichazwe - kwaye emva kokudumala kwamava akukwenzi ukuba ulinde. Ukwabelana ngesondo kwiimvanoveli zamathambo ashukela zichazwe kakhulu kwaye zithandeka, kunye neqoqo elifanayo le-caresses kunye nezikhundla. Ngaba uye wakha wadibana namabali anjalo, ukuba ibhinqa lithandwa ngumlingane kunye ne-caresses yomlomo, okanye ukuba abathandi bazama ezinye izikhundla kunabathunywa bevangeli, kwaye -nqabileyo - "umfazi ovela phezulu"? Ngoko akumangalisi ukuba amanye amantombazana angena kubomi bobulili kunye nokukholelwa ukuba i-blowjob ingcolile kwaye ayifanelekanga kwindoda ehloniphekileyo, ingakhankanyi indawo ye "indoda engasemva." Ulwahlulo lwazo lwezesondo zokwamkeleka ngokwesondo luqala ukukhawulelana, kwaye lungenangqiqo. Enye imithombo engenamsebenzi yolwazi ngezesondo iifilimu zoonobumba. Ukuba kwimilobano yesini esithandanayo isondo "ngokuhlambulukileyo", ngokokugqithisileyo, ngokuchaseneyo - inyanzeliswa kwaye iyancitshiswa. Ngoko, i-prelude ayikho okanye imfutshane kakhulu: kubonakala ngathi ibhinqa livuya ngokukhawuleza, kwaye nangona le nto ingekho kwimeko - ebhedini, kuthatha ixesha elide lokuba umnqweno wokufikelela kwindawo ephezulu. Ininzi yale nto iboniswa ngoononophelo yinto engafanelekanga: abaqhubi bayayazi indlela yokudala ingcamango yobukhulu becala besilisa, kwaye abahleli bahlanganisana ngesigamu seyure kwizenzo zesondo ukusuka kumacandelo amabini amabini anesihlanu esecaleni. Ngoko kuvela ukuba umgcini oyintloko wemida yemigangatho yethu yinto yokuqala yokungazi kwimicimbi yesondo. Olunye ibali elivela kumava kaGeorge Selyukov: indoda yakhalaza ukuba umfazi wakhe ngexesha le-orgasm ayenzi nasiphi isandi, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, ayinanto. Ngokucacileyo, amava anesondo esedlulileyo, kunye namafilimu e-pornography, amfundisa ukuba ngexesha le-orgasm ibhinqa limele limeme kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo lisabele ngokugqithiseleyo. Okwangoku, kukho uhlobo lwe-orgasm, xa ibhinqa "libaleka", kwaye akunakucinganiswa ngexesha elifanayo, kodwa izandi aziqali. Ingcali yayingayichaza le nto kwindoda-kwaye ingxaki yanyamalala. Ngethamsanqa, ngokuqokelela amava, ulwahlulo lokwamukelwa kwezesondo luyakwandisa. Ukuba kukho isithintelo esingenakunqandeka, i-sexologist iyomnceda ukuba anqobe, okwangoku edla ngokukwenza umsebenzi wokukhanyisa, ukubanceda abalingani bakhethe ukukhetha iifom zokusondela ezifanelekileyo. Konke oku kunokwenzeka ukuba eso sibini sinothando, umnqweno wokwakha rhoqo ubudlelwane kunye nokukhula kuzo-zombini kunye kunye kunye.