Ngokwemvelo, kule meko, uqhube isondo kunye nomthandwa wakho kwimvelaphi, ngenxa yokuba unezinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo zokwenza. Unamacala amaninzi anxamisekileyo kwaye phantse yonke imihla ibonwe ngcaciso emfutshane, kwaye ngokuhlwa ungeze ufike emlanjeni uze uphume ngokukhawuleza. Unxibelelana nomhlobo wakho kuphela ngeSMS.
Indlela ephazamisayo
Uninzi lwethu, ukuze sikwazi ukugxininisa ngokupheleleyo kulo mbandela, sinelisekile ngokulala ngesondo kunye nomntu obathandayo emva koko. Ngokomzekelo, abagijimi ekulungiseleleni i-Olimpiki bathabatha "isifungo sokungabikho," izazinzulu ekufunyanweni zikhohlwe "ithole lenkwenkwezi", abantu abashishini abanomdla wokwenza imali kunye nokugqitywa kwemali-mboleko bahlehlisela zonke ezinye izinto ezithandekayo ekuhambeni kwexesha ... Kubonakala ukuba iimfuno ezifunyenweyo zesondo nomntu obathandayo kubonakala ziphazamisa gxininisa into ebalulekileyo, iphazamise, ithathe amandla. Ngaba kunjalo?
Nawe, unokuziqhayisa ngesondo kunye neyakho othanda ukuyifumana emva koko? Ndiyazibuza ukuba ulahlekelwa yintoni, ukuba oko kwenzeka? Ngendlela, iilahleko zincinci kwaye zizinzakalo njengoko ungacinga.
Izidingo zomntu zomntu (ukulamba, ukoma, ukukhangwa ngokwesini), iingqondo zeengqondo zibhekisela kwizinto eziphambili. Nangona behlala benganelisekanga, zonke ezinye iimfuno (umzekelo, ngokukhuselekileyo, uthando, inhlonipho, ingqiqo kunye nobuchule) usenako ukuqonda ngokuzeleyo. Ngelizwi, de kube ufumane ukuzonwabisa ngokuthandana rhoqo nomthandayo, unganakuneliseka ngobomi bakho ngokubanzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo unomvakalelo ongacacanga ukuba into ephosakeleyo kuwe. Kwaye naphezu kwezimpumelelo ezimangalisayo kwintsimi yobugcisa okanye ubuhlobo obuhle nabanye. Kuyavuma, amathemba anjalo akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi ahlelekile.
Inkathazo eqhubekayo!
Kodwa enyanisweni, ukuba uyaphinda uxoxe ngesondo kunye nomntu wakho othandekayo ngeenyanga ezimbalwa, akukho nto eyoyikwenzekayo? Ukuzilahla akuzuzisi umzimba okanye umphefumlo. Ngethuba lo mjikelo, umlinganiselo wesifiso somfazi uguquka. Umzimba ulungiselelwe ngokukhethekileyo ukuba usondelane. Yaye ukuba uyayigxina "isicelo" somzimba wakho kwaye uhlehlise isondo ngesithandwa sakho emva koko, kuyasicasula. Unakho "ukuphindezela" izifo ezibangelwa yi-hormonal disorders, isimo sengqondo esibi, ukungonakaliswa kwesikhumba kunye neenwele. Musa ukulibala ukuba iminqweno engavumelekanga ibuyele kwiphupha. Ngaba ulungele inyanga yamafilimu e-erotic?
Ukukhangela uvelwano
Kwaye, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuziyeka kwakho kuyingozi kuba ngaphandle kwakho umlingane wakho naye uhluphekile. Kwaye kuye? Akazange ahlehlise isondo kunye nomthandayo wakho kamva! Ngokuphambene noko, uyakuxabisa kwaye uyakuxabisa, kodwa awukwazi ukuyithanda yonke into yegama! Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyaqonda ukuba awukwenzi konke oku ngaphandle kokulimala, kodwa ngenxa yokungabi nesikhathi, kodwa ngaba yinto elula? Zikhathalele, kwaye ngokukhawuleza! Umsebenzi kunye nokufundisisa kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ukuba usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, akuyi kubakho mntu ukujongana nabo. Musa ukulibala malunga namanyathelo okukhusela. Ukusebenza kwakuvuyayo, ufuna ngokwenene ukulala, ukutya okulungileyo kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uthando! Musa ukulibala ngesondo kunye nomthandayo, kuba sonke singabantu kwaye sifuna ukukhutshwa. Ngako oko, thabatha njengomgaqo wokuba ubusuku obuthathu ngeveki wena kunye nomthande wakho kwaye uzame, ungalokothi uhlehlise isondo kunye nomthandayo wakho kamva. "Nangona esi sibini sihlanganiswa ngoshiseko, baya kuhlala behlala kwihlabathi, nangona baxabana." U-Emile Zola, umbhali waseFrentshi.