Ngamanye amaxesha yonke inkqubo yokulala ihlala iibini ezimbini. Incwadi iphinda ifundwe, i-lullaby ihlaziywe kathathu, kodwa umntwana akalala. Unokufundisa umntwana ukuba alele yena ngokwakhe. Yaye oko kwenzeka njani? Ukwenza oku kuyenzeka ngokwenene. Nangona oku kuya kufuna ulwazi nolwazi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke abantwana bahlukileyo, ngoko ke, ngamnye kubo uya kufuna indlela yokuzimela.
Nangona kungekho iresiphi enye yezenzo zendalo yonke, kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali bacebise isicwangciso esithile esinokutshintshwa ngezikhathi ezithile. Ukongezelela, abazali kufuneka bazive ukuba umntwana wabo ukulungele ukwenza okuthile okanye unokulinda.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba indlela eya kumntwana kufuneka iboniswe ngokuzalwa kwayo. Abantwana abaninzi banokulala ngokwabo kwiinyanga zokuqala emva kokuzalwa. Njengomthetho, aba bahamba ngokukhawuleza, abantwana abathulile. Abantwana abanomzwelo nabaselula abakwazi ukulala bodwa. Umntwana omncinci akasenako ukulawula imeko yoxolo kunye nokuzivimbela ngokwakhe, ngoko ngokuhlwa, umntwana akayi kukwazi ukuzimela. Naliphi na imizamo yabazali yokuyeka le nto iya kuhamba kunye ne-vagaries kunye ne-hysteria.
Nangona iintsana zilala eengxenyeni zomama, zisondele kwisifuba. Oku kungenxa yokuba umntwana ufuna ukufudumala komama. Ezingxenyeni zikamama, uvakalelwa kukuba ukhuselekile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo akunakunceda ukwenza nantoni na, silinde kangcono de ukuba umntwana akhule kancane.
Uneminyaka engakanani ongayifundisa umntwana ukuba alele yena ngokwakhe? Malunga nomnyaka kufuneka ufundise umntwana wakho ukuba alele yena ngokwakhe. Kunzima ukucacisa ngokukodwa ukusuka kwiphi ubudala ukuba uqale ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alele ngokwalo. Omnye umntwana kwiminyaka emithathu sele edlala i-chess, kwaye enye iqala ukuthetha. Oku kufuna indlela eyahlukileyo. Okokuqala, kufuneka nje uqale ngenkqubo yokulungiselela ubhedi.
Kusondele ngokuhlwa, umntwana kufuneka adluliselwe kulawulo loxolo kunye noomdlalo ongaphantsi. Ukufumana inkunzi yebhokhwe ngoncedo lwama-toys aqhelekileyo kunye namabali okanye amabali. Kwiinkqubo zonxibelelwano ngezihlandlo, umntwana kufuneka ashiywe yedwa kwigumbi. Abazali kufuneka bahlale bebeka iliso kwimeko yomntwana, ukuze angabi nexhala, kwaye akayikho umlutha kumdlalo. Zonke iintshukumo zentsana kufuneka zenzeke kufuphi nomkhumbi wakhe. Ngaphambi kokuba ulale embhedeni rhoqo xa umntwana ekwazi ukunikela umdlalo negama elinomxholo we "Good Night". Umntwana kunye nomnye wabazali bafaka iibheyi ukulala, thumela zonke iimoto kwindawo yokupaka imoto, yonke le midlalo kufuneka ibe "izikhombo" zokulala. Ewe, ibhola lebhola okanye iimidlalo zamathoyizi ziyaqedwa.
Akunakutsholwa ukuba inkqubo iya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Abazali baya kufuna ukufumana umonde omkhulu. Ukongeza, kufuneka zibekwe impumelelo, kuba isimo sabo sengqondo siya kudluliselwa kumntwana. Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo siza kubakhokelela kuphela umsebenzi wabazali. Ngoko, zonke iidodoli kunye neemoto "zibeke" ukulala. Wayesele enqwenela ukulala ubuthongo, wacula i-lullaby kwaye wamanga. Ngoku ungashiya umntwana ukuba alele. Abazali bafanele bakhumbule ukuba into ephambili kule nkqubo yinkqubo ethile yezenzo ezingaphuliki nangayiphi na indlela. Zonke iintshukumo zabantu abadala zifanele zicacise ukuba umntwana usuphelile kwaye ixesha lokuphumla lifikile.
Kwiintsuku zokuqala "zokufunda" omnye wabazali unokulala ngasemva komntwana. Ngeli xesha, kungcono ukuba ungaboni emehlweni omntwana. Ukunxibelelana okunjalo kunomsebenzi onzima kubazali. Kungcono ukubeka umntwana ubuso nobuso. Amabali kunye namabali afunwa ngumntwana ukuba ibali limele lilula kwaye lifutshane. Ubungcono kukukhubaza, icebo elincamisayo linokukhupha umntwana. Kancinci, kuyimfuneko ukulungisa umntwana ukuba sele sele ekhulu kwaye emele, ngoko kufuneka alele yena ngokwakhe. Ngoku ungashiya umntwana. Ukuba ubiza kwakhona, ngoko kufuneka ubuyele, umanga uze udilise, uze ushiye kwakhona.
Kunokwenzeka ukunikela umntwana ukuba alale "ngendlela endala". Uyamenywa ukuba angalali embhedeni wakhe, kodwa ebhedeni. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zaphawula ukuba kwezinye iimeko, iingxaki zokulala ziyakwazi ukulala emva kokutshintsha indawo yokulala. Umntwana unokubekwa nguyise, ongaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi. Okumangalisa kukuba, kunye neepapa, ezinye iintsana zizintlu. Kulungile, xa umntwana enombuso wosuku, wenziwe ngokuqwalasela ukuzimela komntwana. Kuphawulwe ukuba umntwana olala ngexesha elifanayo, uhlakulela ukuzimela. Ngendlela, umntwana olele ulala ngokuzimeleyo ulala ebuthongweni iminyaka emi-5 okanye 10.
Khumbula, ukuba umntwana unxamnye nezenzo zabazali kwaye akafuni ukulala ngaphandle komama, omnye makangacingi. Ungakwazi ukubeka bucala iinjongo zakho ngexeshana. Mhlawumbi kwiiveki ezingama-2-3 umntwana akayi kunqanda kakhulu. Ngaphambi kokuba ulale embhedeni, le midlalo elandelayo iphakanyiswayo: ukufunda iifayili ezithandayo, ukubeka amathoyizi ukulala, ukudweba okanye ukuqoqa iipuzzle, ukuqoqa ibhoyi ebhokisini, njl. Ngaphambi kokulala, akukhuthazwa ukuba ujoyine kule mi sebenzi elandelayo: udlale imidlalo emnandi, funda amabali amatsha uze udlale amathoyizi amasha .
Ukuba umntwana ekucela ukuba ushiye ukukhanya, ungakhangela isibane sasebusuku ngokukhanyisa. Umnyango wee-nursery ungashiywa uvulekile. Abazali mababe kufuphi xa umntwana ekhawuleza. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka ufike kuye, ulamle uze umanga, uze ushiye kwakhona. Abazali kufuneka babe nesineke, kuba ekuqaleni baya kufuneka babuyele kumntwana amaxesha amaninzi, kodwa ekugqibeleni umntwana uya kufundiswa, kwaye ngokukhawuleza balele belele. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba abazali bafanele bakhumbule ukuba bonke abantwana bakhula kwaye bakhule ngokuhlakanipha. Ukufundisa umntwana kufuneka uhlale ezolile kwaye unethemba, kuba kungekudala zonke izenzo ziya kuzisa umphumo obalaseleyo.