Unyana wesiqingatha seyure usombulula ipastiki elula? Intombi igqoke ixesha elide kwaye ilala phezu kweplate nge-porridge? Musa ukuthukuthela! Ukuphuculwa kwabantwana kungenziwa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo. Kwaye ukuba akusiyo isifo esinciphisa isantya somsebenzi, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba, ngokulandelayo ... Kwintsapho yakho, kwenzeka ingxaki: umtshato, ukuhamba, ukuxabana phakathi kwezihlobo - oku kunokuchaphazela umntwana. Emva koko, ngokuxhalabisa kwakhe, uzama ukujamelana nokunciphisa umsebenzi. Akuyingozi kakhulu xa zonke izinto ziqhelekileyo, umntwana uya kusebenza. Uxakeke kakhulu, kwaye umncinci ushiywe kuye. Kule meko kunokwenzeka ukuba unyana okanye intombi iphuza ukutsala ingqalelo yakho, oko kukuthi, bazama ukunyusa ixesha lokunxibelelana. Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana onesilumko kunye ongenakukhathazeka iminyaka eyi-8 ngumbhikisho ngokuchasene nokungabikho komoya. Kwaye unokunceda apha kuphela ngokwenza umzamo: ukubonisa rhoqo umntwana ukuba uyathandwa.
Umntwana ufundiswe ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye ufunde ukulawula abantu abadala - ukunciphisa inkqubo yokufezekisa imisebenzi eyabelwe yona. Ukuba intombazana iyayizonda i-violin, kwaye uzama ukumenza adlale, kucacile ukuba kutheni uza kukhangela amanqaku malunga nesiqingatha seyure. Ngexesha elifanayo kwisitalato iya kudibana ngemizuzu emihlanu. Ibhunga apha linye - lihlolisise iindlela zezemfundo.
Ukuba oku kungentla akufaneleki, ke umntwana wakho uhlalutye. Uyabonakaliswa ngu: imisebenzi ephantsi, ukungabonakali kokubonakalayo kunye nentetho ekhohlisayo. Ukulwa apha akunakuncedo, ukuziphatha - ukungaguquki, njengombala wamehlo nokuma kwempumlo.
AKUKHO NJENGOBA.
Umntwana osisigxina akanakukwazi ukunyamezela ngokukhawuleza, nangona ukuphuza ngokuqhelekileyo kuyahlukahluka. Nantoni na akwenzayo, ukhetha iindlela ezibonakalisiweyo kwaye wenza konke ngokucokisekileyo, ngokukhawuleza ukujamelana nobunzima. Ukuzama ukumphazamisa kwi shishini kuye kwaqala kunzima. Akatshintshi izigqibo zakhe. Ukuba kufuneka zikhusele, ngoko wenza ngokukhuphaza. Akayisebenzisi ngokutsha kuyo yonke into emitsha, kodwa uyaxhatshazwa ngengqondo nayiphi na into engaphandle. Akunakwenzeka ukufumana umntwana onje. Abantwana abanjalo banqandwa kakhulu ekubonakaleni kweemvakalelo, kodwa bahlala behlala becala. Akunakufumana abahlobo, kodwa ngobudlelwane babonisa ukuzinikela nokuqhubeka. Aba bantwana babengeyona nto ingqubuzanayo kwaye bengenabundlobongela, bakhetha ukuphepha iingxabano kwaye kungekho kanye mngcipheko. Uninzi kunabo bonke, ubomi buyesaba utshintsho oluphawulekayo kunye nokuhamba kwisigxina sobomi. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana abaneminyaka engama-8 banobunzima kakhulu kunontanga, basebenziselwe ukufundela abantwana kunye nesikolo.
UYA KU FUMANA.
Into ephambili - musa ukukhawuleza umntwana wakho. Ukuba nomsindo kwaye ulungelelanise umntwana onokuphuza kwaye onganamdla kwiminyaka eyi-8 uthetha ukucotha ngakumbi. Kwakhona, musa ukwenza impazamo yabazali abaninzi bezama ukwenza yonke into yomntwana onobungakanani ukuze benze ngokukhawuleza. Awufuni ukuba akhule axhomekeke kuye? Kungcono ukulandela iingcebiso ezilula. Bhala phantsi iimvumba kwinqanaba lezemidlalo, apho kukho ukhuphiswano.
Abafundi be-Phlegmatic abaxhatshazi kakhulu, ngoko fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba aphendule kwaye abe neengxaki, anikezele ukunceda abanye. Xa umntwana eqhuba izifundo, iiyure ekhangela omnye umsebenzi, zama ukuvumelana naye: "Ndikuthatha ekhaya kwireyora nje kwaye ubeke i-timer!" Ukuba umntwana udibana naye ngexesha, qiniseka ukumdumisa.
Ngomzekelo ngamnye.
Intombi yam eneminyaka engama-8 iphuphe kakhulu: siya esikolweni, enemizuzu emi-5 ubude, siyitampu engaphantsi kwe-15. Uhlala efumana into yokuphazamisa: ubona ikati, ijika nje. Ekuqaleni ndandithukuthele, kodwa ke ndacinga ngale nto. Ngomhla wokuqala sasihamba imizuzu eyi-15 eqhelekileyo, elandelayo, ngomzamo, wagijima iminyaka engama-7, kodwa ngosuku lwesithathu bashiya ekuseni baza bahamba ngesigama seyure. Ngoko ndibonise i-Anyuta ukuba into efanayo iya kwenziwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye savumelana: siza kukhawuleza sibalekele esikolweni, kodwa siya ku-Grandma kungekudala ukuhamba ngomnye.
Елена, iminyaka engama-31, uRyazan