U-Jolie, ngenxa yolu hlobo, kuyingozi nakwabasetyhini - akayikufihla ubunqunu bakhe. Ukhethilekanga, kodwa, okwesibini, akayi kudibanisa. Ibali elimangalisayo likaBrad Pitt kunye no-Angelina Jolie baya kusitsho into eninzi, inomdla kakhulu ...
UJolie umfana ozondayo, uJolie lo mfazi uhlala enganelisekanga naye. U-Angie oneminyaka elineshumi elinesihlanu uthembisa ukuba akhulise i-sociopath enobuhlungu kunye nengqondo engozini - watyhila iibhokisi kunye neminqamlezo kwiincwadi zokufunda zesikolo, aqoke amaqhekeza aze afaka umzimba wakhe ngaphandle kwayo. Ngelidala le-Angelinin, ukoma kwegazi akuzange kuphele - emtshatweni nomyeni wakhe wokuqala, umlingisi uJohn Lee Lee Miller, umtshakazi wabonakala ephakamileyo yeranki emhlophe apho wayichaza igama lomfazi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo. Ngowesibini umhlobo wobomi, inyana efanayo uBilly Bob Thornton, batshintshana ngeebhotile ngegazi labo ngexesha lomtshato. Ukunyamekela malunga nosapho olukhulu aluzange luqhube ukuqhutyelwa kolutsha kwixesha elidlulileyo: unyana wabo omdala, uMaddox oneminyaka esithoba ubudala, u-Jolie sele esithenga iimpawu zokuqala.
Ukusuka kwimbali efanayo "yembali yezobugqirha" - ukuthanda kukaJolie kwiidattoos: ngoku sele unabantu abangaphezu kweshumi elinamibini, imithombo eyahlukileyo ibonisa inombolo yabo eyahlukileyo, kuba umdlali owenzayo uyasusa zonke iifotos kwaye enze ezitsha. Enyanisweni, lo mzimba unokufundwa njengencwadi, kodwa kuphela ukuba umnini wakhe uya kuvumela.
Siphinde siphumle kwintambo engabonakaliyo yokuba u-Angelina ukhusele ubomi bakhe bokwenene kwimbali kaBrad Pitt kunye no-Angelina Jolie: ama-scandal kunye namahlazo-ebusweni, ekhupha kuyo yonke i-tabloids; izizathu zabo zangempela - ezinzulu kwizantsi lomlambo omanzi, zithwala ilitye lokunyaniseka. Ukuzilimaza kunye nokuthambekela kwe-sadomasochism, ukutshaya iziyobisi kunye nokusetyenziswa kotywala, imizamo yokuzibulala (inokuqala komsebenzi wakhe, umdlali weqhinga waze waqesha umbulali, wamyalela yena, kodwa wakwazi ukumkhusela) - eHollywood baya kwiiklinikhi zengqondo kwaye kungekhona , kodwa u-Jolie akaqinisekanga. Uyakwazi ukulahlekelwa ingqondo yakhe, kodwa kungekhona ubuso bakhe. Emva kokuqhawula umtshato wakhe kuBilly Bob Thornton, wonke umntu wayesazi ukuba ikati lethukazi liguqula izithandwa ezifana neiglavu, kodwa akekho owaziyo iiglavu ngamagama abo: UJolie wahlangana ngokufihlakeleyo kunye neenqweno zakhe, kwiihotele ezincinci ngaphandle. Kutheni? Ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubomi bomntwana osandul 'umntwana osandul' umntwana asandulwanga ngabangaphandle.
UPapa u-Angie, umdlali we-Oscar owawunqoba uJohn Voight, washiya unina xa intombazana yayisemncinci, kodwa iyanqanda. Kwizinto ezininzi zokuphendula ngengqondo yakhe, umdlali wesigxina uyamgxeka uyise, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, akazange afune ukuba umntwana wakhe enze njalo-makangabi nako uyise, uYolie wanquma. Ngendlela, ngandlela-thile wachaza ukuba waqala ukufumana abantwana, kwaye akaze azalwe, nangenxa yokuba wayengafuni ukuqhubeka kweengcambu zikayise. Ukuzalwa kwamabantwana abo kwintanda ethandekayo kwakuyinyathelo lokuqala ekuthotyeni "isiqingatha" saloo nto - kubonakala sengathi u-Angelina wayeyithiyile xa ezinikele ekutshatyalaliseni.
Ukususela kwiindaba malunga nomfazi uJolie - Pitt, oonotywala abhala "uBrandelina", aphefumli - ayingekho ngaphantsi kweendaba malunga nemisebenzi ka-Angelina njenge-ambassador ye-United Nations. Ekuqaleni konyaka, kwafuneka baphikise amahemuhemu alandelayo malunga nokupheliswa kobudlelwane. Ngoko-malunga nokukhulelwa kuka-Angelina. Ekugqibeleni, kwaziwa ukuba abaxhasi abanenzondelelo kwimitshato yaseburhulumenteni basithi banqwenela ukulungiselela umtshato ukukholisa abantwana. Jonga oku nandiphayo, njengoluhlu oluthandayo. Kunomdla ngokulinganayo ukuzama ukuqonda oko kwenzeka ngokwenene.
U-Angelina, bathetha ukuba ubomi bentsapho yakho yintshukumo eqhubekayo. Nangona, kubonakala ngathi, kakuhle, yintoni oyifunayo nomyeni wakho ukuze uhlale u-idyll? Mhlawumbi, kwakusungulwe kwangaphambili ukususela ekuqaleni. Khawukhumbule nje, kwisethi ye-movie, mna noBrad sadibana! Ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane phakathi koMnu noNksk Smith, nabo, bebengabonakali. Nangona, ndivuma, ebomini bethu boqobo asihambisani emva kwezixhobo. Kodwa ngaba uyawabetha iiplate?
Akukho ngaphandle. Kodwa akusiyo iphoso likaBrad. Ubomi bam bonke ngumxhasi wecala. Mhlawumbi, into enzulu kum inzulu kakhulu engapheliyo. Kwaye awuzange uzame ukuqonda oko kukuthi? Inokwenzeka ukuba, isizathu sihlala ebuntwaneni bam. Ubaba wamshiya umama xa ndisemncinci kwaye umama wasikhulisa nomzalwana wakhe yedwa. Kodwa kungekubi kakhulu, kuba izigidi zabasetyhini ziphakamisa abantwana ngokwabo. Ndiphakamisa ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba uPitt abonakale ebomini bam. Kodwa ndabona indlela ubaba ayenzela ngayo umama, ukuziphatha kwakhe, ukuqonda kwakhe kunye nobomi bakhe bonke. Kuya kuba ngcono ukuba wahamba ngoko! Ukususela ngoko, ndiye ndixhaxhekile. Kwaye nabani na - izinto, ingqondo okanye imvakalelo. Ngako oko, andiyi kuva ne-100% ezolile kwaye ikhuselekile. Kutheni oku kubangela ukuba ubudlelwane obunqabileyo kunye nabamelwane?
Ndicinga ukuba onke amaxesha ndiziva mna kunye nomlingane wam, ndifunda ngantoni na ukuba ndiyihlolisise kunye nam? Ingaphi indawo yokubilisa? Kuza kube nini? Kutheni ufuna le nto?
Andiyenzi kakuhle. Kufana nengqondo yam engaqondayo ifuna ukuqinisekiswa kwenyaniso endiyifundileyo - akukho nto ihlala ngonaphakade, akukho nto inokuthenjwa. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa ndizisa ulwalamano kwindawo efanayo yokubilisa, kwaye zixhaphaza, ndikhawuleza ndize ndithi kum: "Ewe, ndikuxelele! Ndiyazi! "
Ndiyicinga ukuba, ngelanga, ungekho kuphela umfazi oziphatha ngayo ngale ndlela! Yingakho andifihla imeko yam. Ndimele ndithethe ngale nto ngokucacileyo ukwenzela ukuba abanye abafazi abaphethwe sisifo esifanayo sengqondo banokuzithelekisa kunye nam kwaye baqonde ngokukhawuleza ukuba bodwa bodwa kwingxaki yabo kwaye yonke into ingagqitywa. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukufumana nokuqonda isizathu sokuba ungakhathazeki ngokuzinzileyo, okubonakala ngathi kumoya. Ngaba kuyingozi kangakanani le meko, ngaphandle kokuba iindleko kunye nawezinye iintlobo zabasetyhini kunye nabathandekayo bakho?
Eli lizwe elibhubhisa. Okokuqala, utshabalalise wena, kwaye ke abo basondele kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, u khangela ingongoma yokubilisa kungekhona kuphela ebuhlotsheni bakho namadoda, kodwa nakwintetho yokuthetha kunye nabalandeli bakho. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba ngokwenene ufuna ukuvuma ukuba ngezinye ixesha wazama zonke iziyobisi ezaziwayo kwihlabathi?
Andizange ndenze oko kwakulindelwe kum! Ngokuphambene noko. Ngaloo ndlela, ndakhuselwa kwiimpembelelo zangaphandle. Njengokuba kukho ilizwi elingaphakathi lixhala kum: "Ewe, ulindele le nto kum? Kwaye nantsi into echaseneyo. " Kwaye konke oku kulindelwe kum kungaphezu kokuphathwa. Bonke bam bavukela kulo. Kuyaziwa ukuba ebusheni bakho wawuthanda imfundiso kaMackebe, inkolelo yegazi. Bathatha iintlanzi kunye nabo ukuba balale, kwaye xa bethata nomyeni wokuqala, babhala igama labo kwi shirt yabo emhlophe, ababeyigqoke ngexesha lomkhosi. Xa betshatile okwesihlandlo sesibini, baxhoma i-vial yegazi lakhe entanyeni yakhe. Ufumene phi le nto? Kunzima ukusho apho yonke into ivela khona. Kodwa ebomini bethu, njengokuba sisengqondweni yethu, yonke into iyadibanisa.
Yaye ukuba uyaphawula izinto ezinjalo zokuzilibazisa phakathi kwabantwana bakho, uya kuthini ukuphendula? Kubonakala kum ukuba ukuxhomekeka kwintsomi, inzala ebomini okanye kwiindawo ezingaziwayo, iyinto ebalulekileyo kubo bonke abaselula. Bahlala bezama ukufunda into entsha kunye engaqhelekanga, ukuzihlola kunye nabanye. Kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba emva kwexesha abantwana bam abayi kuba mnye. Baza kuqala uvavanyo. Enye into yokuba ndiza kubeka iliso kwizinto ezithandwayo kwaye ndizame ukuzigcina zingenangqiqo. Xa umntwana eqala ukubandakanya kakhulu into engayisebenzisiyo enyanisweni, kufuneka iphazamiseke ngenye into, yangempela. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuphazamisa. Kule meko, wena ngokwakho ulahlekelwe into. Kwaye andinalo. Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyesaba, ndicinga malunga nexesha apho abantwana bam baya kukhula kwaye, njengabo bonke abaselula kwihlabathi, ngolunye usuku baya kuvukela - abazali. Yaye ndikholwe, baya kufumana into yokusigxeka! Mhlawumbi ezi ziza kuba yiindima zethu, xa sihamba esikrinini ngezixhobo kunye nokudubula kubantu, mhlawumbi baya kuhlaziswa ngamathambo. Kunokwenzeka ukuba baya kusihlambalaza ngokuba neemoto nezithuthuthu. Eli xesha alibaleki! Kodwa ngoku bancinci. Okwangoku u-Zee wethu othukile akayithandi, xa utata wakhe eqala ukudansa. Emva koko umemeza aze ameme aze ayeke. Kwaye mna ngamathuba athile ufuna ukuhleka, okanye ukukhala. Ukuthetha ngabantwana. Usuvele unesithandathu, kodwa uceba ukwenza enye. Ngaba akunzima kuwe?
Umama ngamnye wabantwana abaninzi uya kuvuma kunye nam ukuba ubunzima banda kuphela kumntwana wesithathu. Emva kokuba baqale ukuhla. Umahluko omkhulu uvakalelwa phakathi kwabantwana abathathu kunye nantathu, kodwa xa unayo ezine okanye ezintandathu - sele isondele. Ngokukodwa ukususela ekubeni unyana omdala sele sele sele endibanceda ukuba ancede ndincede abantwana. Kungekudala intombi endala iya kukhula. Ngaba awucingi ukuba ngale ndlela uyabanciphisa ubuntwaneni obungakhathali?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, andiyikhanyeli nayiphi na injabulo okanye umsebenzi oyingqayizivele kwiminyaka yabo. Xa abadala ba ndinceda ukuba ndinyamekele omncinci, bahlakulela umthwalo wokuxanduva kwabanye. Nguwo kanye umvakalelo owenza umntu abe ngumdala. Ngoko ke, kuya kubazuzisa kuphela ukuba loo mgangatho ikhula ngokukhawuleza. Ngenxa yokuba zilandelayo - uxanduva lwabo kunye nezenzo zabo! Wonke umama unqwenela ezi mpawu kumntwana wakhe. Emva kwakho konke, umntwana owanikezelwa ngabo akunakwenzeka ukuba angene kwinkampani embi okanye enze isinyathelo sokukhawuleza. Bonke abantwana bakho bazalwa kumazwe ahlukeneyo. Uphi umntwana wakho wokugqibela ovela kuyo? Ukusuka eHaiti. Ndandilungiselele ukuthobela ixesha elidlulileyo, kwaye ukutshatyalaliswa kwenjenje kwakusisigxina esivela ngasentla. Xa uthe uthe ngokubeka iinjongo, ufuna ukufezekisa kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba bafezekisile oko bafuna, balahlekelwa ngumdla kuyo. Ngaba uye wakha wacinga ukuba ukwamkelwa kwamkelwa ngu-aria kwi-opera efanayo? Ewe, wena! Ndingayilahlekelwa njani inzala kubantwana bam?
Akunjalo oko ndithetha. Kodwa kutheni nje emva kokuzalwa komntwana omnye, ngaba ulapha, ngaba ulungiselela ukutholwa komnye olandelayo?
Kungenxa yokuba kuphela kwisangqa seentsapho zam enkulu ndiziva ndiqinisekile. Kuphela nabantwana ndingakwazi ukuphumla. Akundixhaphazi, kwaye abayi kundingcatsha. Andiyena mna owabazuzayo, ethatha kwiimeko ezibuhlungu apho babezimisele ukukhula, kwaye basindise ekubeni ndedwa kunye nam. Thina liqela elikhulu elinobungane kunye nabo sonke sikulungele ukufumana elinye ilungu. Ekubeni sineengxoxo ezinjalo ezingqinileyo zentombi kunye nawe, sinokubuza ngakumbi malunga nale nto. Emva kokuba uzele abantwana abathathu ababenakho ngokwezinto zezinto eziphilayo, ngaba awunesibindi sokuba iimvakalelo zabo kunye nabamkeli bamkela ziyahluka?
Kujikeleze oku ku malunga nayo. Kwaye kuninzi ukuba sele ndiqala ukucinga: "Ngaba kukho ukungafani okunjalo?" Kodwa ukuba ngaba kunjalo, oko kubangelwa ukuba ungubani na ukuba ndingumama wezinto eziphilayo, kodwa kungubani na? Ngokomzekelo, ababini abantwana bam abadala beza kum ngeenyanga ezintandathu ubudala. Oko kukuthi, ngaphambi kokuba babe nobomi babo, kwaye bangenasiphelo. Khawucinge ngendoda eneminyaka ezintandathu ubudala sele sele "idlulileyo". Nangona abatsha bam beqala ukuhlala kunye nam, babengenayo ibali eyahlukileyo kwaye, ngaphandle kovuyo, babengazange bafumane nantoni na. Ngoko, ukuba ndiloyiko into ethile, ke oku kuyinto endiya kuba yikho, mhlawumbi, ixakeke ngakumbi kunabantwana abathandayo. Ngaphandle koko, uMadd unyana wam omdala, owokuqala, kwaye sinobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye naye. Ngendlela, wena noBrad akazange babhalise ngokomthetho umtshato. Kutheni?
Inyaniso kukuba sonke sibini sitshatile kwaye sitshatile. Sonke siqonda ukuba asiyi-autograph egcina abantu ndawonye. Akukho mqondo kwiintsebenziswano ezisemthethweni. Akukho mntu wakwazi ukugcina oku ndawonye. Kodwa abantwana nothando-baya kubamba!
Kungekudala, ngendlebe nodliwano-ndlebe ngolunye uhlobo, uthe ukunyaniseka akunyanzelekanga kwintsapho. Njani?
Ndithetha ukuba xa abantu beqala ukuhlala ndawonye, oku akuthethi ukuba baboshwe. Wonke umntu ukhululekile ukuzikhethela. Kodwa ukuba uyayithanda kwaye uyayihlonela intsapho yakhe, ukhetho luya kuhlala lulungile. Emva kweminyaka emininzi usenza uxolo noyihlo. Yintoni eyathintela isigqibo sakho? Bam bantwana. Njani? Ngaba bafuna ukubona umkhulu? Hayi, ayikho. Bandifundisa ukuba ndixolele.