Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo, ngokuziphatha okumzekelo, njengomthetho, iingxaki eziphambili zeengqondo zifihliwe. Lo luhlobo lwam lokulibaziseka kwam, kwaye ukuba aluqatshelwa kwaye lukhutshelwe i-disinfected ngexesha, ukuqhuma kweemiphumo ezingathandekiyo kuya kulandela ngokulandelelanayo: ukusweleka kobuqu kunye nezobuchwepheshe kwiingxaki ezingenakulinganiswa, izifo eziphathekayo kunye nezixhomekeke ezihlukeneyo. Ngako oko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uziva njani, kuyamnandi kwaye kulungele inxaxheba yabazali bebhokhwe ethobelekileyo, kuyafaneleka ukufumanisa ukuba yisiphi isizathu salo mkhuba, kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuyiqeda. Imiqathango yokwakheka koqeqesho lokuthobela emntwaneni ilawulwa ngokuzalwa.
Lehlabathi eliyingozi ...
Ukwesaba ihlabathi langaphandle lenye yezona zizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuthobela abantwana ngokungavamile.
- Ubonakala ngathi? Umntwana onamahloni, onamahloni, oyika ukuba yedwa kunye neengozi zehlabathi langaphandle, uzama ukuhlala esondelene nonina, akayidlala imidlalo eyingozi, agweme yonke into emitsha engaziwayo, engangeni kwiintlanganiso ezizimeleyo kunye noontanga.
- Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Ukuxhalabisa okwenyukayo kungenzeka ngenxa yokungazinzi kwenkqubo yeentlanzi, ihlupheke ebuntwaneni bentlungu yengqondo (umzekelo, ukuba emva kokuzalwa okunzima umntwana akazange anikezwe ixesha elide). Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabazali ngempumelelo "ukulungisa" le meko, ekholisa ukuba, ukuphulaphula kuphela abazali, unokuziphepha ingozi: "Uyabona, umama akaphulaphulanga waza wawaphula!"
Naka ingqalelo: izibonakaliso ezingezona izityholo ziyingozi nakakhulu kunamazwi, kuba zichanekile kwizinga elingenasicatshulwa. Umzekelo, xa umntwana efunda ukuhamba kwaye unina uhlala emxhasa emva kwentloko yakhe, engamvumeli ukuba awele, iirekhodi ezingenasicatshulwa: "Ngaphandle kwamama, andinakunyathela."
- Oku kubangela ntoni? Ukuba kwasebuncinaneni umntu engabhekana neengozi ezincinci kunye neengxaki, akafundi ukuchaza iziphumo zezenzo zakhe, khangela ezinye iindlela zokusombulula iingxaki, oko kuthetha ukuba xa ekhulile uya kuphepha iimeko ezifuna ukuqala kunye noxanduva, kwaye ukhethe abalingani ukuba baphathwe indima yomzali.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo?
- Zama ukujamelana nokukhathazeka kwakho. Musa ukunyanzela umntwana wakho ngoloyiko kunye nokungabaza.
- Ukususela ebusheni, gxininisa umntwana kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, apho unokukwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo kwihlabathi elikufutshane naye. Oku akuthethi ukuyigcina kwibala. Ifulethi kufuneka ifanelwe ukuhamba ngokukhululeka kwamaqabunga.
- Khuthaza nayiphi na isicwangciso somntwana.
- Hlaziya ukusilela kwakhe. Ngexesha elifanayo, gxininisa ingqalelo ekuthobeleni, kodwa uxanduva lomntu siqu: "Ukuba ubonile umgodi ngexesha, xa ugijime, awuyi kuwela phantsi" esikhundleni sokuba "uMamma akaphulaphulanga, ngoko ndawa phantsi."
- Kwiimidlalo ezenza umdlalo, kwaye ngoko ebomini, zifane neemeko apho umntwana kufuneka akhethe ukuzikhethela.
"Ngokukhawuleza baya kundiphulaphula?"
Esinye isizathu sokuthobela ngokungenamthetho kukuba ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumzali,
- Ubonakala ngathi? Ukuba umntwana akaqinisekanga ngothando lomzali olungenalo mqathango, unokuzama "ukufanisa" ukuziphatha kwakhe okungahambi kakuhle, ukuzalisekisa ngokupheleleyo iimfuno zomzali okanye ngokutya ukubonelela ngeminqweno yabo. Abazali bakwenza kucacise ukuba umntwana ufanelwe kuphela xa behlangabezana nokulindela kwabo: musa ukwenza ingxolo, musa ukungcola, musa ukuphazamisa nantoni na.
- Okwesibini, ukuba kungenakucacisa kwaye kunzima ukuphatha izifo: kungenakho ukulawula ulwaphulo lokulwa, umntwana othobelayo uphendukela kuye.
- Okwesithathu, ukungahlali kwintlalo: abantwana, abajwayele ukuthobela ngokungenamthetho, baba ngabantu abadala, bahlala bexhoba lobundlobongela kwintsapho, amahlelo amabi.
- Okwesine, kwi-"pendulum syndrome": ukufikelela ebuntwaneni, abathandi bezingane bahlala bewela ezinkampanini eziphantsi, njengokungathi bazama ukujonga ukuba ngaba abazali babo baya kubabathanda.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo?
- Ungalokothi utsho okanye uvumele umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba uyamthanda ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okubi.
- Gweba eso senzo, kungekhona umntu: "Kubuhlungu ukuba ugqibe ingubo oyithandayo" kunokuba: "Hamba, andifuni ukubona izinto ezingcolileyo."
- Ukuba umntwana wenze into engalunganga, musa ukumgxeka, kodwa, ukubonisa ukucaphukisa kwakhe, kumncede afune indlela yokuphuma: "Kunzima kakhulu ukuba unomsindo kumakhulu wakho. Makhe sicinge ngendlela yokumcela izikhalazo. "
- Musa ukufuna ukungabonakali kakuhle emehlweni omntwana: xelela ngokuzenzekelayo ngempazamo yakho, unganqikazi ukukhohlisa kunye nokuxabana naye.
Ukuthobela njengempawu
Ukuthobela ngokweqile kungabonakalisa ingxaki zengqondo kuphela, kodwa nokugula. Ngexesha elifanayo, umntwana ubonakala evuya gqitha kuba ixesha lokuba abazali abazi lutho.
Autism
Abantwana abancinci nabantwana be-autism babonakala banjengeengelosi ezincinane: abazikhalayo ngaphandle kwesizathu, abaceli ipenki, bakulungele ukuhamba iiyure zokugqithisa umshini wokubhala okanye baqwalasele i-ray kwi-wallpaper. I-Denerger Syndrome. Ukukhathazeka okubuhlungu komyalelo kunye nokugcinwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwemithetho kubonisa le ngxaki yesifo esithile. Izifo ze-Cardiovascular, izifo zegazi, zanciphisa umzimba. I-Lethargy, i-phlegmatic kunye nokulumkisa ngokugqithiseleyo kunokubonisa ukuvakalelwa kwimeko ngenxa yeengxaki zempilo ezinzulu.