Ukunyaniseka akuyona iphoso, kodwa ingxaki yomntwana


Ukuba ebuntwaneni bam ndiyazi ukuba "ukunyaniseka nokukhathazeka" Mhlawumbi ndingenakuxhonywa nazo zonke iibhile ezivakalayo: "ukungaboni, ukunyaniseka, ukuxhamla." Umhla wam wokuqala kwi-nursergart yaphela kwikona. Amaphepha encwadi esikolweni awakhankanya amazwi athi: "Inkukhu ibhala, kungekhona isikolo esikolweni!" Kuthiwani malunga nedayari: "Ndagijimela kwiidesi kwaye ndikhala," "Ndimemeza kwisifundo somculo." Wayememeza ntoni? Kutheni? Andikhumbuli ...

Akukho mntu wayefuna ukuba ngumhlobo nentombazana engaqhelekanga, engathandekiyo, oya kuqala ukuhleka ngaphandle kweendawo, aze aphazamise abanye ngamabali angenangqiqo, ngoko wayeza kuphuma iinyembezi kungekho sizathu ... andiyedwa. Kuzo zonke iiklasini okanye i-kindergarten iqela kukho inzondo enjalo. Kubalulekile ukuba i-Ĺ ustricka encinci iwele umnqamlezo wesikolo okanye i-kindergarten, ukuhlambalaza kwehla kwintloko yakhe. Kwabazali abakhathazekile ngabazali abakwazi ukujamelana nobudlova bomntwana. Ngenxa yoko, idibanisa idumela elingenakulibaleka, elichithwe, elinzima ukulifunda. Kodwa "umntu ohlwempuzekileyo" kuphela kukuba unobungozi bokungabikho komzimba, kungeyona nto ixhaphakileyo yinkqubo yesantya. Kodwa ukunyaniseka akuyiyo iphoso, kodwa intsalela yomntwana. Kwisigqeba sakusasa eMoscow, "Ukukhusela impilo yabantwana baseRashiya," kwaziswa ukuba kuphela kwilizwe lethu i-syndrome yokuxhatshazeka nokukhathazeka kwengqondo (ADHD) ibhalwe kubantwana abayizigidi ezimbini!

Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali baqala ukuqonda ukuba kukho into enomntwana, malunga neminyaka emine ubudala. Ingane ibonakala ikhulile ihlakaniphile, ibuza, kodwa ayikwazi ukugxila kuyo nayiphi na into: phulaphula umxholo wenkcazelo - kufuna ukuba upende, ngoko, ungagqiba, umklami owaneleyo. Kule ndawo ayikwazi ukuhlala isesibini okwesibili: ukujikeleza rhoqo, ukunyuka, into echaphazela ngezandla zakhe. Kwaye nangona ehamba emini yonke imihla, uhamba ngendlela engaqhelekanga: uyangena ngokukhawuleza, i-jerks, iwela emithintelo. Okubi nakwiimeko ngeendlela zokuziphatha: izibambiso zokuzonwabisa ezingapheliyo zithatyathwa yintlanzi. Intsana ikhawuleza iyakhathala, kodwa xa ukhathele ngakumbi, iyancipha. Ubonakala efuna ukuthetha, kodwa akwazi ukuba sakhe ubudlelwane obude, ujoyina imidlalo yeqela kunye nomdla, kodwa ngokukhawuleza kubanda. Incoko ayiphuliphuli umxhasi, uyaphazamisa. Kodwa, njengomthetho, konke oku kubhalwe phantsi kwiimpawu zengqondo, ubunzima bexesha elibunzima, imfundo embi. Ngomlinganiselo opheleleyo, abazali baqonda ubunzulu beengxaki, xa umntwana ewela umda weklasi yokuqala. Imfundo yethu yasekondari yenzelwe umyinge ophakathi, ngaphandle kwanoma yimaphi ama-syndromes. Kodwa isikolo esincinci kakhulu abantwana abangenasiphene: umsindo, uhlaziyi, ungakhathazeki. Ewe kukho isikolo! Abaphazamisi bokuzola abayi kunyamezela okanye kwicandelo lezemidlalo okanye studio yobugcisa.

Yingakho kufuneka uqale ukulungisa imeko ngokukhawuleza. Okokuqala, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba umntwana wakho uyingqayizivele, kwaye akukho mntu uza kubeka ityala ngaye: akunjalo wena, naye, akukho mntu. Ungashiywanga wodwa ngeengxaki zakho. Zama ukubonisa umntwana kwizakhono ezilungileyo, kwaye ngokukhethekileyo zimbini: i-neurologist ne-psychotherapist. Ukuba akukho ziingcali ezifanelekileyo ezikufuphi - khangela uphando oluthe baninzi malunga nale meko. Sifanele siqonde ngokukhawuleza: ukunyanzeliswa kwesifo akusisifo, kodwa isimo sengqondo esikhethekileyo esingasilungiswa, kodwa esingalungiswanga ekupheleni, kwaye awukwazi ukuguqula ukunyamezela kwakho. Oko unokukunceda ngokwenene kukufundisa umntu omncinane ukuba aphile ngokuvisisana naye kunye nabanye, ukumnika ithuba lokufunda ngokuqhelekileyo.

Indlela elula yokulungiswa yileyeza. Kodwa i-psychotropic kunye ne-nootropic iziyobisi ezichazwe kwi-ADHD zinemiphumo emibi kakhulu kunye neyinkimbinkimbi yokuchasana. Kwaye kubalulekile ukukhumbula: emva kokuba iimpawu zabo zokurhoxiswa zingabuya ngamandla aphindwe kabini. Ngokubanzi, zinokuthathwa kuphela phantsi kolawulo olugqithisileyo logqirha kunye nezibonakaliso ezinzulu. Kukho iindlela ezintle. Eyona nto inceda kakhulu i-gymnastics yokulungisa, evumela ukuba "rewire" yonke imoto yendawo yomntwana omtsha, ukuqala ukuphuhliswa kwayo ngendlela eqhelekileyo. Kwaye ukususela ekuphuhliseni ingqwalasela kwimpendulo yeengxenye ezifanayo zengqondo njengemoto yombutho, ukunyuswa kwengxaki yomntwana kukhula, ukuxhalabisa kunciphisa, ukuphazamiseka okuqhelekileyo kunciphisa. Kodwa ukuze kufezekiswe umphumo, kuya kubakho ukuqhuba iklasi imihla ngemihla kwiminyaka emibili ukuya kwimithathu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, i-gymnastics ixhaswa kunye nezifundo kunye neengcali zentetho kunye ne-defectologist, ikhosi yamavithamini kunye namayeza asekhaya. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukunceda umntwana ococekileyo kuphela ngokuguqula indlela yakhe yokuphila. Yenza usuku olumnandi lomntwana uze ulwalandele ngokucacileyo. Zichitha ixesha elingaphezulu emoyeni ovulekile, apho akudingeki ukuba unciphise inkululeko yomntwana. Jonga ukutya. Abantwana abanjalo banqatshelwe kwikhofi, iziphuzo ze-carbonated, i-tshokoleta. Kukho isiphakamiso sokuba ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo kweswekile, iimveliso eziqulethe ukulungiswa kweekhemikhali (glutamate sodium), kunceda ekuphuhliseni ukuxhatshazwa. Zama ukuphepha iindawo ezininzi, ukuhamba rhoqo kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke. Misela umsebenzi wesikolo esikolweni. Ungamvumeli ukuba umntwana enze umsebenzi. Njalo uzama ukukhusela i-flash ezayo.

Umntwana wakho ufuna imida eqinile kwinto evunyelweyo. Kodwa ulungele into yokuba iya kuhlola rhoqo amandla. Ungamvumeli ukuba umntwana akusebenze ngamaqhinga. Gwema uxwebhu olude. Zonke izimvo zakho kunye neemfuno kufuneka zibe zicacileyo kwaye zicacise. Ukusuka phantsi kweentliziyo, mdumise umntwana nangayiphi na impumelelo, nokuba yincinci. Qinisekisa ukufumana indawo apho umntwana wakho uya kuphumelela. Yaye khumbula: kukho iimeko ezininzi apho umntwana wakho onokukhubazeka uya kukwazi ukuphumelela okungakumbi kunabantwana abafunda nabo abathulile: kwinqanaba nakwi-geological expedition, kwi-journalism nakwizemidlalo, ukukhangisa kunye nezopolitiko-naphi na ukunyaniseka, uthando lomngcipheko, ukukwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezingaqhelekanga , ingcamango kunye neengqondo.