Kuhle ukuba yonke into yancedwa ngumama. Ufunde, usebenze naphina nawuphi na, zonke iiveki ezinikezelwe intombi yakhe, kwaye xa kwakukho umvuzo ozinzile unomsebenzi kunye nentombi. Awuzange uyiqwalasele ubomi bakho, ukulindele ukuba intombi yakho ikhule.
Le yimeko eqhelekileyo yabaninzi abangabhinqa kwaye iyanciphisa. Yaye xa intombi yajika u-14 udibana nomfana oselula. Ekuqaleni sadibana ngokufihlakeleyo, kwaye ke wanquma ukuxelela intombi yakho. Awunakuze ucinge ukuba yintoni ingxaki enzima nentombi ekhulileyo eya kuba sisigqibo. Intombi yayingathandanga, kwaye utshatile, umyeni wasuka waya kuhlala nawe. Intombi yayimangalisa ngokukhawuleza emtshatweni wakho nakubakho boo-stepfather yakho kwindlu yakho. Uvuyisiwe kukuba intombi ekhulile iyayiqonda kwaye ayizange ikhokele kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki enzima, njengoko umhlobo wakhe ecinga ukuba. Ngethuba lokuqala ebomini bakho, waziva uvuyo ngokwenene. Kodwa ulwalamano lwentsapho lwaba lukhulu.
Intombi ibonakala ngathi iqhubisana nawe ngamabomu , waqala ukuthetha ngetoni engenakufikeleleka. Iimbono zakho malunga nezifundo zafunyaniswa ngobutshaba, ukubuyela ekhaya ngokukhawuleza kwaba yinto evamile. Waqala ukugqoka ngokunyanisekileyo, wabuya walungisa iinwele zakhe kwaye wayenentlonipho kuwe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Wazama ngokukhethekileyo ukunikela ngokungacacanga kwakhe phambi koo-stepfather wakhe. Ngoku uye waqonda ukuba ingxaki enkulu kunye nentombi ekhulileyo ayikwazi ukunqandwa. Kodwa awuzange uqonde uhlobo luni lweengxaki enokuthi ube nalo nentombi yakho ekhulile.
Ngethuba lokucaciswa okulandelayo kwintsebenzo intombi inikezele ukuba wayithandana noyise wakhe kunye nokuba wayemthanda kwasekuqaleni, ngokukhawuleza xa ebonakala. Yena, ngokusobala, wabonisa umdla kuye, kwaye uphazamisana naye kuphela. Ngamanye amagama, banomntwana wenzala. Emva kokukhupha konke oku, intombi yabalekela ekhaya, kwaye emva kokuba uninzi lwe-sobs, wanquma ukuthetha nomyeni wakhe. Incoko yayinzima: umyeni wenqaba yonke into, wathi wayenokubeka indlebe yakhe entle intombi leyo. Waye wamkela waza wafungela wonke umntu ehlabathini ukuba akazange amnike intombazana isizathu. Awazi ukuba ucinga ntoni kwaye ngubani omele akholelwe. Ukuba intombi ekhulile yathandana noyise, mhlawumbi indlela yokuziphatha ngayo?
Indlela yokuhlala phantsi kophahla olulodwa nentombi eyanithiyo, kuba ungumfazi womntu ayithandayo? Yaye ke umyeni wakho waqala ukuthembela ngokuncinci, ukungathandabuzeki, ngenxa yokuba ukumelana nobuhle kunye nentombazana yentombazana enomtsalane kunzima ...
Ngoku awuhlali nje ngengxaki enkulu, ngoku uhlala esihogweni. Uzenza ngathi akukho nto eyenzekayo, intombi ibuye yamkela imithetho yomdlalo: ngokuqhelekileyo ayikhulumi nawe, iya kufika ekhaya ngokukhawuleza kwaye ilala ngokukhawuleza. Uyakuqonda kakuhle ukuba le meko ayiyi kulungiswa ngokwayo. Intombi yayinokuyilungisa konke oku ngenxa yomona, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ingazi kakuhle. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuzenza ngathi akukho nto yenzekile yindlela yokuphumelela. Ngoko kungekudala kwaye esibhedlele ukukholisa ngokuphazamiseka kwemiba.
Akukho mntu ufuna le miphumo . "Ubomi esihogweni" bunokumiswa ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufuna uncedo kwisazi senzululwazi esisebenza kunye neentsapho. Ingcali onamava iza kukunceda uqonde imeko enzima. Kodwa ukulungiselela "ukubheja ubuso nobuso" kuphela akufanelekanga. Imizamo yokuzisa "inetyala" yokucoca amanzi ayiyi kupheliswa kakuhle. Ukusebenza okunjalo kumatishi kuya kubakho kuphela ukuxabana okukhulu kwaye, kwenzeka, ukuwa kweentsapho. Iiseshoni zokulungisa i-Psycho kufuneka zihambe kunye. Ukuvakalisa ingxaki kunye kunye nokufuna isisombululo sayo kuya kunika imiphumo emihle. Kwiintlanganiso, i-psychologist igwema ukunika iingcebiso kwaye ayithathi indima yejaji. Ukhuthaza kuphela umntu ukuba abe nencoko ekhuselekileyo kwaye athole ukuxhatshazwa okufanayo.