Musa ukukhathazeka, umntwana wakho akaba ngumshicileli omncinci. Yintoni eyenzekayo kuye, yindalo yemvelo yokuphuhliswa kwabantwana. Ngomntwana nje uqala ukuqonda ngokugqithiseleyo into ebalulekileyo yedwa, "mna". Kwaye indlela engcono yokubonisa ngayo ukungathobeli.
Indlela yokwenza umntwana alalele?
Sebenzisa isiluleko seengcali malunga nokuziphatha komntwana. Okokuqala kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi apho imida yokuziphatha evumelekileyo. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, akunakwenzeka ukukhulisa umntwana othobelekileyo. Sebenzisa onke amathuba ukuphinda ufunde oko unokukwazi kwaye awukwazi ukwenza. Chaza kuye imithetho ekhoyo kwintsapho yakho. Jongana nomntwana ngolwimi olulula nolucacileyo.
Naphezu kokubhikisha nokungathobeli, abantwana kule minyaka banesidingo esikhulu semigaqo emfutshane neqondakalayo. Nangona ekuqaleni umntwana ufuna ukuba uyazi ukuba yintoni ekulindeleke kuye ngenxa yokungayifezekisi le mfuno. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuba "ungaboni", emva koko kuya kusetshenziselwa ukuthobela.
Ungesabi ukuba umntwana uya kukubona njengotshaba
Ukuba umntwana uhlala engathobeli ixesha elide, umntu kufuneka acinge ngezizathu zokuziphatha. Mhlawumbi unenkxalabo yokungabi namalungelo kwabazali bakhe okanye ukwesaba into ethile. Zama ukuzibeka endaweni yakhe kwaye uqonde umbono wakhe. Ngeke kube lula ukuyenza, kodwa ufanele uzame.
Xa, umzekelo, ucela umntwana ukuba azinqamle kude kwiTV aze afike esidlweni, uthi awufuni ukuphazamisa, uyaqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuphazamisa ukubukela, kodwa isidlo sasemini kuyimfuneko. Khumbula, umntwana wakho uya kuba nokuthanda ukulandela imiyalelo yakho ukuba ubona nje ungumlingani. Naphezulu. Zama ukuhlala uzinzile, nokuba umntwana ubonakala efuna umonde wakho. Ukuba uyacaphuka kwaye uphakamise ilizwi lakho kumntwana, oku akunakwenzeka ukukunceda, kodwa kuya kubangela nje ukucasuka kwamacala omabini.
Ukunxibelelana nomntwana wakho, ungalibali ukuba igama elincinci lingenza imimangaliso yangempela kwaye lenze ubani uthobele. Njalo kufuneka ubulele umntwana ngenxa yimuphi umsebenzi owenziweyo, umdumise ngokuziphatha kakuhle kwaye umxelele ukuba uyamthanda. Umntwana usoloko efuna ukuvakalelwa kubaluleka kubazali, ukwazi ukuba bayayithanda. Emva koko uya kuzinikela ngokuzithandela izabelo aze aphendule izicelo zabazali ngokuthobela. Iingcali zengqondo zigxininisa nje kuphela umphumo oncomekayo wokudumisa, kodwa kunye nemiphumo engathandekiyo, eyingozi yokugwetywa nokugxeka abantwana. Ukuba umntwana wakho uziphatha kakubi, mhlawumbi uyaziva. Ngoko ke, intukuthelo yakho kunye nokumemeza kuya kuphucula nje ingxaki.
Nika umntwana ithuba lokukhetha
Buza umntwana into enokuthanda ukuyidla isidlo sakusihlwa, oko akufunayo ukugqoka ukuhamba, njl njl. Ngoko umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba unokwenza iinqunto zakhe aze aphendule imibuzo ephathelene naye. Makuze alandele kuphela imiyalelo kunye nezicelo zabazali bakhe, kodwa naye uyasombulula ezinye zeengxaki zakhe.
Abazali abaninzi banomsindo wokuba umntwana wenqaba ukulala okanye uhlambulule igumbi. Okanye mhlawumbi awuzange umfundise ukwenza oku? Emva koko, ntoni kumntu omdala - ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokulula, kuba umntwana ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kunzima kakhulu. Mhlawumbi ukungathobeli umntwana wakho akuyona inkalo yobume bakhe obubi, kodwa nje ukungakwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukwenza umntwana alalele aze enze izigqibo malunga nezenzo ezithile, chaza (kwaye ngaphezulu kweyodwa) indlela yokwenza ngayo. Yenza oku kunye kunye, kwaye umntwana ngokwakhe uya kuzalisekisa isicelo. Yaye ukuba uyamkhuthaza ngexesha, ngoko uyavuya.