Makhe sithethe ngendlela yokuxelela umntwana apho abantwana bavela khona?
Iingcali zengqondo zezingane zincoma: into yokuqala - ukususa itabhu kwi sihloko. Qaphela ilungelo lomntwana ukubuza imibuzo malunga nokungafani ngesondo kunye nobomi bezesondo. Kwiintsapho ezininzi, yonke into ephathelele kwisini ivalwe kwaye ayixoxwanga kunye nabantwana. Abazali baphambukela impendulo ekuphenduleni imibuzo, okanye baqine ngamandla umntwana ukuba ayeke ukubuza imibuzo ngesihloko esingathandeki kubo. Ukuziphatha kwabazali kubeka umntwana ekupheleni kokufa, kunciphise ukuthembeka kukaMama noyise, kwaye, xa uneminyaka emdala ubudala, kubangela abanye ukuba bafune. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonakalisa umntwana ukuba umama noba sele bekulungele ukunceda ukuqonda nayiphi na isihloko sesithakazelo.
Ukufikelela kwiminyaka ethile (iminyaka eyi-1,5-2), abantwana abanamahloni ngobunqunu babo kwaye abanomdla kumntu ongaziwayo. Xa uneminyaka engama-3 umntwana ufumana ukufumanisa: amantombazana ayilungiselelwe njengamakhwenkwe, kwaye oomalume akafani no-aunts. Abantwana abanomdla baqwalasela abameli besini esahlukileyo kwaye babuze imibuzo yabo yokuqala malunga nokuchasana okucacileyo kwisakhiwo sezitho zobulili. Phantse ngexesha elifanayo, umntu kufuneka alindele umntwana ukuba abuze ukuba waba njani. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi indlela yokuxelela umntwana apho abantwana bevela khona.
Ukuba inkunzi iphakamisa isihloko esithi "i-ticklish" ekutyeleleni, kwibhasi okanye kwindawo engafanelekanga kuyo-kufuneka uthembise ukuba, kuthi, ngokuhlwa, xa usubuyela ekhaya-cacisa yonke into kuye. Kwaye (QAPHELA!) Qinisekisa ukugcina isithembiso.
Akunakuqonda ukuba uthethe nge-sorkork neklabishi phantsi kwengalo yakhe, ekhupha esitolo, apho abantwana "zanedorogo" bathengiswa khona. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko - umntu ufunda indlela yonke into eyenziwe ngayo. Kwaye, kumntwana okhulileyo, kunokubakho ukuphazamiseka kwengqiqo: abazali bathetha ubuxoki. Akuyimfuneko ukuchitha ukuthembela kwabantwana ngokugqithiseleyo. Akunzima kunzima ukuxoxa ngemiba ephambili yesondo nomntwana, ukuba uyilungiselela kwangaphambili - emva koko, iimpendulo zabazali kufuneka zithembeke kwaye zithembeke.
Ukuthetha ngokungafani kwezesini, malunga nokukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana kulandela ulwimi olufikeleleke kwixesha apho umntwana ekhona khona: ngokomfanekiso, ngokucacileyo kwaye ngaphandle kokulayisha iinkcukacha ezingadingekile. Umntwana ukhula emathunjini omama, unjengendlu encinane yabantwana abancinci kakhulu, kwaye xa ufumana umncinci omkhulu-uphuma emzimbeni othize "- umntwana oneminyaka engaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu uhlala eyaneliswa ngcaciso enjalo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba banomdla kwindlela abantwana abangena ngayo isisu somntwana, umntwana uqala kamva-ukuya kwiminyaka emi-5-6. Apha, amabali aya kuba ngokoqobo ukuba xa umntu omdala efuna ukuzala umntwana, uyise "uguqula imbewu kumama, apho umntwana eqala ukukhula khona." Xa uneminyaka engama-7-8, umntwana usenokuba unikwe ulwazi oluncinane - ukuchaza intsingiselo yamagama "ipeni", "isibeletho", "isisu", "isisu", "iqanda". Inkqubo yokukhulelwa ingachazwa malunga nolu hlobo lulandelayo: "Ibhinqa kunye nomntu othandanayo kwaye bafuna ukuba nabantwana ngaphambi kokuba bahambe belele embhedeni baze baxhamle. Emva koko-indoda ifaka ipeni kumfazi wesifazane kunye ne-sperm idibana ne-ovum." I-spermatozoon esheshayo idibanisa kunye i-ovum, ukusuka kule nto iqala ukukhula ibe yintsana. "
Ngexesha elifanayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumntwana womntwana, iimpendulo kufuneka zibe yi nyaniso kwaye zichaze ngokucacileyo intsingiselo yalo mbandela.
Akuyimfuneko ukungahoyikisi ngesihloko sokwahlukana kwezesondo, ukukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa, nangona umntwana engazange abuze imibuzo engama-6-7. Kuontanga unokufumana ulwazi olunzima kakhulu. Kungcono ukuphakamisa isihloko ngokwakho, usebenzise ithuba elifanelekileyo, umzekelo: "Khangela - Umama kaMary Masha ukhula - kuba banomalumekazi uLyosha uza kutshatana nje umntwana." Kupholile! Uyazi ukuba abantwana bazalwa njani? ".
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umxholo oyintloko kwingxoxo ngobudlelwane bezesondo uluthando.
Ngethuba le-adolescence, umntwana kufuneka akhuphe ingcamango ecacileyo yezinto eziphambili ze-anatomiki kunye neenkqubo zenyama ezihambelana nokuzalwa kwabantwana. Ngeli xesha, kwiingxoxo nabazali, isihloko esona sifanele sibe sisihloko soxanduva. Thetha ngento yokuba abantu abadala bangena kwiintlobano zesini, bayazi ngemiphumo kunye nokunyamekela impilo yabo kunye nabantwana abanako. Xoxa ngezinto ezisongela ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili kunye nezifo ezithathelwana ngesondo. Sitshele ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhulelwa. Kodwa, kufuneka kugxininiswe ukuba akukho ndlela ikhulu leepesenti. Phakamisa kwakhona umxholo wothando ngobudlelwane besini. Qinisekisa umntwana ukuba angene ebomini bobulili "ngenxa yelukuluko" kunokukhuphaza nje.
Iminyaka eyi-12-15 - ixesha lokutshatyalaliswa kwexesha kunye neyona nkalo "ebuthathaka". Kuyinto enhle ukuba umntwana osemtsha uyathemba ngokupheleleyo abazali bakhe. Nangona kunjalo, amantombazana - kulula ukuxoxa ngezihloko "ezinzima" kunye nonina, kunye nenkwenkwe - kunye noyise.
Iincwadi kubantwana malunga nomzimba wabantu kunye nobomi bobulili babonakala kwilizwe lethu kwi-90s, kwaye, ngexesha langoku, i-assortment yabo ingangena ukudideka kwabazali "abaphambili". Ngaphambi kokuba uthenge enye "i-Encyclopedia yobomi bentlobano yesini kubantwana," qiniseka ukuba ufunde umbhalo opheleleyo wencwadi ukukhusela "iindumntla" ezingenakucwangciswa. Musa, kwakhona, ukuguqula ngokupheleleyo umsebenzi wokukhanyiselwa komntwana kwimicimbi yesondo kwiincwadi. Ingxoxo enomdla kunye nabantu abasondeleyo iya kuvumela umntwana ukuba acacise yonke into engaqondakaliyo.
Jabulela, xa umntwana ebuza imibuzo "enyanzelisayo" - ngelixa wenza njalo, unokuqiniseka ukuba uyilungu lokuqala lokuthembela. Musa ukuyitshilela kulo mzuzwana. Ukholo olulahlekileyo lunzima ukubuyisela. Igunya kwizinto ezinjalo kufanele kube ngabazali ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye ingabi ngabahlobo abasuka kwiredi.