Unokuhlula njani umama wakho ezimbini? Ukulinda umntwana wesibini luvuyo olukhulu. Kodwa apha abazali ba lindele ubunzima obuninzi. Umona wabantwana ekuzalweni kwabanye abantwana yingxaki ininzi iintsapho ezijongene nazo. Awukwazi ukuphepha umona, kodwa unokunciphisa le ntliziyo ubuncinane. Emva koko abantwana abayi kukhuphisana nothando lwenu, kodwa baya kuba ngabantu abemi bomthonyama kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo.
Kubalulekile ukuxelela malunga nexesha elizayo, kodwa kufuneka lenzeke kwinyanga yesihlanu, ngokuba ilanga leenyanga ezilisithoba lide kakhulu kumntwana omncinci. Kungcono ukwenza oku kunye neqabane lakho, njengalokhu: "Sifuna ukunitshela iindaba ezimangalisayo, kungekudala uza kuba nomzalwana okanye udade." Musa ukubuza ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyavuya. Mxelele ukuba incinci kangakanani umntwana, ukuba uya kufuna njani ukukhathazeka kwakho. Kufuneka kucaciswe ukuba umntwana oza kuzalwa akayi kudlala imidlalo kwaye akhulume, kodwa ekuqaleni nje kuphela ukulala. Thatha umntwana kunye nawe kwisitoreji, xa uya kuthenga i-dowry, ncokola naye, bulela uncedo. Xa umntwana ephosa kwisisu, makumthinte umntu omdala.
Kukho nawuphi na umzekelo, musa ukuvumela ukuba amabinzana athile ekuzalweni komntwana malunga nomdala aya kulibala, okanye uya kufuneka ancedise ngemisebenzi yendlu yonke ixesha. Oku akufanele kuthiwe kwintlekisa, kungenjalo ukucasuka kunye nomsindo kungenzeka.
Ngomhla wokuqala emva kwesibhedlele, ingqalelo bonke abantu abadala baya kugxininisa kwintsana, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uza kuthatha ixesha elizibulo, kuba ulahlekelwa kakhulu. Hlala ecaleni kuye, thetha, mvumele athathe umfanekiso okanye adubule kwikhamera yomntwana, ngoko uya kuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bentsapho. Kwaye kwenzeka, ngokokuba umntwana omdala, enethemba lokubuyela elidlulileyo, uqala ukucela ipeni, ukuphazamisa amagama aze abhale nakwi-panties. Zama ukungabi, kodwa udlale kunye. Ufuna ukutshintshwa kunye nokugungqiswa, utshiswe kwibhotile, ungamkeli, ngenxa yokuba ufezekisileyo, umntwana ulahlekelwa ngumdla kuyo. Kwaye ugxininisa ukuba unkulu kwaye sele esazi indlela yokwenza izinto ngokwakhe, kwaye umntwana akanako ukwenza. Ungakulibali ukunyamezela umdala, ngakumbi ukuba uyinkwenkwe. Izifundo zibonise ukuba ziyayidinga ngaphezu kwamantombazana, uthathe umgaqo wokutshiza kunye nokumanga umdala okungenani ama-12 ngamaxesha, nangona ukuba uyihlo unokunceda nawe.Ubomi bonke bomama omncinci malunga nomntwana: kufuneka uhlambe, upheke ukutya. Kwaye emva komntwana omdala, naye ufuna ukudlala. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Fundisa umntwana wakho wokuqala "imidlalo emidala." Ungalungiselela ukuhlamba okudibeneyo, kwaye ngelixa ulungiselela isidlo, isifundo sokudweba, umzekelo, i-beetroot, vele ubeke ioliyile phantsi uze ufake iingubo ezingenakuzingcolisa. Ngexesha lokuhamba, xa ubuthongo obuncinci, unokunikela ixesha kumdala, onokwazi ukuhlola zonke iilayidi kunye nokuguquka.
Musa ukuthelekisa abantwana bakho. Ingabangela umonakalo umntwana, kuba ngamnye kubo ulungile ngendlela yakhe. Sonke sahluke kwizakhono kunye neetalente. Simele sigxininise ngokwahlukileyo isidima ngasinye sabantwana.
Yenza imeko apho kufuneka intsebenziswano, umzekelo, ukuqokelela amathoyizi ndawonye. Unokuyilula imidlalo equka ukucinga: ukudlala esitolo, ukwakha inqaba, njl.
Abantwana baya kuxabana, bafundise ukuphulaphulelana, okanye basasaze amakamelo ngendlela eyahlukeneyo, bayeke bodwa baze bathuke. Ukudumisa ukuba bakwazi ukulungisa ingxabano. Musa ukukhuthaza ubuhedeni omnye komnye, kodwa ukuba umntwana ufuna ukuthetha oko akwenzileyo ngokwakhe, phulaphula kwaye udumise ngokungazenzisiyo. Into ephambili kukuba uqinisekise ukuba abantwana bakho bayayiqonda: ukuba umntu omazi okanye engengozini, kufuneka ufumane oko ngokukhawuleza.Iingcali zengqondo zithi umona wobuntwaneni ekuzalweni kwabanye abantwana ngumvakalelo onempilo. Kodwa kutheni sifuna iimvalo ezingadingekile, akunjalo?