Kutheni ukuqalekisa kubi?
Lexicon ekhohlakeleyo nehlazo ikhona kwiilwimi ezininzi kunye neenkcubeko. Ukufungela kuneengcambu zasendulo kunye nezizathu ezibalulekileyo zokuba khona. Ifilologists kunye neengcali zixoxa ngengxaki yokugxeka kwinqanaba lezesayensi. Kubo, "intetho yomama" akuyona into engaphezulu kwimibuzo yokufunda, njengabo bonke abanye. Kodwa kwinani elikhulu labantu ebomini bemihla ngemihla, le ntetho iba ngumgangatho wobomi. Liyisela kwizinto ezinqabileyo zezinto ezixhunyiwe, njengomthetho, ngobomi besondo. Ngoxhaswa ngamagama ambalwa athethekileyo achaza izitho zesini okanye izenzo zesondo, abaninzi abantu badlulisela uluhlu lonke lweemvakalelo zabo namava. Amagama afanayo athetha ukutyhafaza ngaphambi kokuxothwa kunye nokuxhaswa kwelanga. Emva kwexesha elunzima kunzima ukuhlula ngokucacileyo la mava. Kwaye nangaphezulu, ukuzithumela ngamanye amagama. Kwiinkqubo zonxibelelwano, kuphakama iingxaki ezibangelwa ukungaqondi kunye nokuchasana. Yaye ukuba ungeze "umyalezo" womzwelo wamagama ahlambalazayo, ngoko imeko ngokubanzi idideka.
Qaphela kwaye wenze izigqibo
Ukuba ubona amagama agxekayo, qaphela kakuhle umntwana. Kufuneka ufumane:
• Ngamaphi amatyala asebenzisa amagama amabi?
• indlela echazwa ngayo ngokucacileyo;
• Ingaba usebenzisa ulwimi oluhlaselayo;
• Ngaba oku kwenzeke yedwa (weva into ethile ngengozi ngelixa kwelinye igumbi okanye ngaphandle kwintsimi yombono womntwana) okanye ngenjongo yokuba ithathwe ingqalelo kuluntu;
• luhlobo luni lokuphendula kumagama akhe alindeleyo, nokuba ufezekisa oko akufunayo, ukuphinda ngokuphindaphinda "iintetho ezingavunyelwe";
• ingaba uzingelela ngokwakhe emva kokuba enze ingxelo;
• ufuna "ukuthetha ngawo" okanye ukuphelisa intetho kunye neqhelekileyo "Andiyi kuphinda";
• Indlela ayenzeka ngayo xa eva ukuthetha kakubi kwabanye (uyayigxeka, ibonisa ukunyuselwa kwenyameko, iphinda iphinda evezwe). Ngaba umehluko phakathi kokuqalekisa abantwana kunye nabantu abadala?
• ukuba uyayiphendula njani, ukuba iyaba ubungqina bendlela abantu abasondeleyo abaphikisana ngayo;
Ukuqulunqwa kwezi ngqalelo, unokufika kwizigqibo ezingaphezulu okanye ezingaphantsi kweenjongo malunga nezizathu zokusetyenziswa kakubi kwintetho yomntwana. Ngoko ke ukusebenzisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujamelana nazo. Kutheni umntwana efunga? Kulo lonke ixesha, abantwana banesizathu esingafaniyo sokuhlambalaza.
Iminyaka emi-3-5 . Amagama angamazwi ayinto engalunganga, aphindaphinda nje, njengamanye amagama.
5-7 iminyaka . Abantwana basebenzisa, njengomthetho, nawaphi na amagama ngokungaqhelekanga, oko kukuthi, ngokuzikhethela, ngentando. Esi sisisigama esisigama, okanye ukuvukela isiseko, kuxhomekeke kwiimeko. Musa ukunyanzelisa ubulili, okokuba, xa kunqatshelwe, kuxoxwa kwaye kugxininiswe kuphela ngamagama angavumelekanga kunye namazwi. Nangona kunjalo, ngokukodwa oku azinakuphetshwa. Into ephambili ukufaka umntwana ngengqiqo yenani kunye nesidima kule miba.
Xa uneminyaka eyi-8 ukuya kwi-10-12 ubudala ubudala , bonke abantwana sele beyazi ngokugqibeleleyo ukuba baya kuphi na apho bengenako ukufunga khona. Bangakwazi ukuzibhokoxa kwiinkampani zontanga, ukutshitshiswa kwabantu abadala. Ewe, ezi zikhokelo zihamba kakhulu, kuxhomekeka kwiimeko zangaphandle nangaphakathi.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana efunga
Musa ukungena entlantwini nonke. Ukuhleka kulunge kwakhona ukubamba. Impendulo kufuneka ingabonakali, kodwa ingabi ngogonyamelo. Ukugcina uxolo, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuvavanya imeko kwaye ugqugquzele ukuzithemba ngokuchanekileyo kwesimo sakho kumntwana. Ukuba ucinga ukuba amagama athethwa ngengozi, musa ukusabela nonke uze uphindwe kwakhona. Ukuba umntwana usebenzisa ngokucacileyo ilizwi ngaphandle kwendawo, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo - ngoko umchazela ngokucacileyo kwaye uqinile impazamo yakhe. Bacele ukuba bangasebenzisi amagama anjalo kwixesha elizayo.
Enye inkwenkwe, ekuphenduleni umlambo wokuxhaphazwa kwinqanaba lakhe, watsho ngokudabukisayo ukuba "uyabetha emlonyeni wakhe" xa ethetha amazwi ambi, kwaye ngokunyaniseka, wayicinciza impumlo. Ngaloo ndlela, ukunyamezela kuka-motherfucker kuye kwancipha. Abantwana banentlonelo enjalo ngamazwi. Apha, umkhonto udibaniswa ngumbumba, kuphela ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka kwi-lexicon ehlazo. Ukuba ngexesha lethu ngokwabo luyiso lokuziphatha.
Ukuba kuyacaca ukuba inkwenkwe iyakwenza kakuhle, kodwa ingabi yingozi, mvumele ngokufutshane kwaye uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba awunqweneli ukuva amazwi anjalo kuye ukususela ngoku ngoku. Musa ukubeka ityala kwaye musa ukusola, kodwa uchaza ukuba kutheni ungahlali ujabule. Icala elibi kakhulu nelinzima xa umntwana ezama ukuzitshitshisa kunye nentukuthelo. Okanye uyibeke ekukhanyeni okubi. Njengomthetho, ukunyaniseka, kungabi yingozi nje, kusongela imeko. Kuhlala nje ukuzenzela kunye kunye nokwenza ngokweemeko. Unokushiya indawo kunye noluntu apho kwenzeka khona. Ingakumbi ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe unomdla kulo. Okanye sebenzisa ubugcisa "bomlomo ongcolileyo". Unokuhlwaya umntwana ngokumhlukanisa nabanye abantwana kwaye ufune ukuba aphinde amazwi amaninzi kangangoko anako amandla aneleyo. Ingaba le ndlela ibuhlungu kuwe? Kodwa izazi zengqondo zithi, xa unelisekile ukusilela kwesidingo somntu, umntu uqala ukuziva engathandabuzekiyo, aze ahlazeke.
Kukho nawuphi na, musa ukuthotyelwa kunoma yiyiphi into engcolileyo. Ukuba umntwana akayiqondi kwaye akawamukeli nkcazo, ngokusoloko efungela ngokuzibandakanya, ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba lixesha lokungenelela kwi-neuropsychologists. Ngenxa yokuba ingxaki inokuthi ilele kwiindawo ezingaphezulu kunokuba ziqhelekileyo.
Chaza intsingiselo yamagama ahlaselayo xa umntwana ebuza ngqo ngoku. Ungamkhohlisi. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba umntwana uqhuba nje uvavanyo lokunyaniseka, uya kuphelelwa yithemba. Ukuba ukholwa ingcaciso engafanelekanga, wena ngokwakho unokuzifumana kwindawo engafanelekiyo kunye neyobuhle. Kukho imizekelo eninzi. Musa ukunyibilika xa uthe amazwi amaninzi achaza izitho zesini okanye izenzo ezinxulumene nokuqhagamshelana ngesondo. Sebenzisa ulwimi kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa kungekhona isitalato. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uphakamise ingxaki yesondo ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva. Ngoko, makube njalo, njengoko besithi. Qinisekisa ukuba ufumanisa indlela umntwana ngokwakhe eqonda ngayo intsingiselo yamagama anjalo. Mhlawumbi ukusetyenziswa kwabo kuyingozi.
Ngubani omele uxanduva lokuba umntwana ufunga
Kuyaziwa ukuba "kwisibuko akukho nto ityala, ukuba ubuso buphosakele." Ukuba ufunga njengesihlangu, akukho nto inokumangaliswa kuyo. Abantwana bamane bakopishe indlela yokuziphatha kwabazali, bengayahlulelanga ibe yinto emihle neyobubi. Ewe, abasenanto yokuthelekisa! Kodwa ke, mhlawumbi, le ngxaki ayikuvuyisi abazali. Intsapho ithetha ulwimi olufanayo, oluqondakalayo komnye nomnye.
Enye into, xa wena ngokwakho, ngaphandle komntwana okanye kunye naye, sebenzisa "igama elinamandla" ngamanye amaxesha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuphucula imibala engqondweni yokuthetha kunye nenkolelo yabo enkulu kwabanye. Kutheni unothuka kakhulu xa umntwana "ebuya" yakho irepertoire? Unako, kodwa akakwazi? Ukugqiba, umntwana akayiqondi le migaqo yemigangatho emibini! Ukuba ufungela uva, okokuqala, ukusuka kuwe, ngoko ke akakho amathuba okuthetha entle. Ngaba unethemba lokuba ebusheni bakhe akayi kufungela kuwe? Ngaphandle. Ngeli xesha, ezinye, imizekelo engekho ngaphantsi kwegunya lokuxelisa iya kuvela. Ngoko, ukuba awufuni ukuya ku ... kunye ... kwixesha elizayo kude kube ngumdala, qalisa wena.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Vumela ukufunga! Ukuqala, ubuncinane ekhaya. Akulungele ukuyeka ukutshaya, uya kubona. Njalo uqaphele intetho yakho kunye nomoya wakho. Ngoko kulula ukuba uzibonele wena xa ufunga ngobubi, kwaye xa-ngaphandle komkhwa. Ukuba uhlangabezana nawe, uya kuba nelungelo lokuthemba kwaye ufune ukuphelisa ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwamalungu entsapho. Kwiintsapho apho abazali nabazali bathemba khona, ubudlelwane obunobungane, abakhelwe kuphela kwiminyaka yobudala, kodwa nakwimvakalelo yokudibanisa kunye nehostele, unako ukunika umxhaphazi ongeyena mandla ukuba athathe inxaxheba ekufundeni kwakho kuphela.
Umama wenza inqaku kumntwana, kwaye waphendula ngokummangalela ngokusebenzisa amagama amabi. Ekubeni loo myalelo yayingenakulungeleka, umama akazange anqabe, kodwa, xa ecela uxolo, wanikela umntwana ukuba amncede ukuba asuse umkhuba omubi. Umama akaqhelekanga ukwenqaba ukunikela imiyalelo. Kodwa umntwana wayefanele ahambisane nomsebenzi, kwaye wayenomdla ngokutshintshela umkhwa wakhe wamazwi angcolileyo ngamava axabisekileyo.
Kakade, umyinge wokuvunyelwa kwezilingo ezithile uzimisele ngaphakathi kwintsapho. Kodwa thabatha inyathelo. Emva koko, ukusetyenziswa gadalala akunakonakalisa! Umthamo wentsapho uyonakalisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo uqinisekisa ubungqina bokungabaluleki, ukuhlonipha, ubudlelwane bokuqapha phakathi kwabantu basekuhlaleni. Ekubeni amagama ahlukumezayo, njengomthetho, athatha umthwalo ongeyingozi, umkhwa kubo ubangela isimo sengqondo esinjalo nesimo sengqondo. Kwaye akukho nto ifilosofi malunga "nobuzwe" beli bakala ayilondolozi.
Impembelelo elibi
Ukungakhuselekanga ukuhlambalazwa kuqala kuhlanganiswa kwintsapho. Ukuba intetho yabazali ayigcwele "amazwi anamandla", amalungu omndeni athathana ngokuhlonipha, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela - akukho nethuba lokuba umama uya kuba ngolwimi lwesibili ngolwimi lomntwana. Nangona kunjalo, kubantwana abaninzi ukusuka kwimeko yengane yakho, ukuhlambalaza kuye kwaba yinto evamile yobomi. Mhlawumbi awuyi kukwazi ukulahla la magama ngokupheleleyo, ngaphandle kokuguqula uluntu oluqhelekileyo (umyezo, isitalato, iklasi). Kwaye oko akunakwenzeka.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kubazali kukuxelela umntwana ukuba le ndlela yokunxibelelana ayiqhelekanga. Kwaye akunandaba ukuba wonke umntu oshoyo utsho njalo. Ngelishwa, oku kuyinkimbinkimbi yinto yokuba wena ufanele ucinge njalo. Ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukuyeka ukuqalekisa phakathi koontanga (oku kufuthi kusetyenziswa kubantwana abadala, ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-8 kuya kweyama-9 ubudala), ngoko ke akufanele ukuba afunge endlwini. Umntwana kufuneka acacise ngokucacileyo umgca phakathi kweendlela ezahlukeneyo zonxibelelwano. Kuthiwani ukuba umntwana unxanelwe ukuxhathisa amaqabane afunga? Zama ukumxhobisa ngeengcebiso, ukulahlekelwa ziimeko okanye eziqhelekileyo.
Amanye amagama
Igama elithi "i-pancake", elingenasici ngokwalo, ngaphezu kweyodwa sele liba yintetho yokuxoxa. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana (kwaye kungekhona kuphela), baqonda ngokugqithiseleyo ukungaphumeleli kokuxhaphazwa, zama ukuphelisa umkhuba ombi. Bafaka amagama angalunganga ngokungaqondakaliyo, kodwa angabandakanywa kwiluhlu lwamagama. Kodwa ukuba umntwana uthi "i-pancake", phantse akukho namnye ongathandabuzekiyo-magama. Kwaye nabazali abanenzondelelo baxhomekeke ekutshutshiseleni amagama kuntshatshazo engaphantsi kweyodwa.
Apha awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokubaluleka okubalulekileyo. Amagama amfutshane ahlambalaza ahlala esomelezwa kwintetho njengamazwi-ama-parasites. Bathwele umthwalo we-semantic ngaphezu kwamazwi athi "ithetha", "apha", "mfutshane". Kubantwana abathethi babo abasakhulayo, eso sifo sibeka ingozi enkulu. Yonke into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba amagama adumile aleta leta zintathu avelise umphumo omkhulu kunomphulaphuli kunokuba ukuxhatshazwa, ukuvakalisa amagama kunye nokufakwa kwamagama aqhelekileyo.
Emva koko umntwana kufuneka anqunywe ngokuthe ngqo kwintetho "yokutshatyalaliswa", ngaphandle kokugxininisa ingqalelo ekhethekileyo ukuba akulungile ukufunga. Emva koko, kulo mzekelo, akukho mntu ucinga ukuba afunge! Ukuba ufumene kunye nomntwana ukuba amagama angalunganga asebenze injongo ekhethekileyo, kodwa asetyenziswa njenge "parasites", ngoko kuqala ucebise ukutshintsha kwabo ngamanye amagama. Kwaye ke kuphela ukuya ekupheliseni "ama-pancakes" kunye "nemithi." Kodwa ungalindelanga ukutshatyalaliswa ngokupheleleyo. Emva kwakho konke, awukwazi ukunqanda ixesha elizeleyo ukuba uthi "ah!" Okanye "ooh!".
Wonke amalungu osapho, kuquka uotatomkhulu, oomama kunye nonina, kufuneka bathathe inxaxheba ekupheliseni inhlamba. Ukuba izalamane zihlala ziphikisana ebusweni bomntwana wakho, ngubani omele uxanduva kunye nento enokuyenza, akunakuphikisa. Chaza kwaye ulungelelanise imigaqo-nkqubo yabo. Mhlawumbi uza kufuneka uqine, ufune ukuba izihlobo ziphathe ngokufanelekileyo, kwimeko ebusweni bomntwana. Yaye ke, zama ukungafungi ngexesha elifanayo!