Ungayifumana njani igolide? Indlela yokuqeqesha abantwana, ukuze ungadluli? Inqaku lethu liya kunikezelwa kulo. Okokuqala, makhe sibone ukuba kutheni kubalulekile ukuba uqeqeshe abantwana, nokuba yintoni na? Ekugqibeleni, akukho bantu abafana ngokupheleleyo, bahlala kwihlabathi kwaye bazaliswa ngentsasa, kodwa bahlala, njengaye, kwaye baninzi banelisekile ngokwabo. "Kodwa hayi!" - uphikisana neengqondo.
Kukho ubuncinane izizathu ezibangela ukuba kuyimfuneko ukufaka uqeqesho nokuchaneka kubantwana. Okokuqala, ukugcinwa komyalelo kuphuhliswa. Kucaciswa ukuba ukucinga komntwana kuqulethwe ngendlela eqhubekayo ngokulawula yonke into efunyanwa yinkalo yombono. Kwimeko apho ehlala ephazamisekile ingxaki yokuzithela, kwaye ukubunjwa kwakhe kuyancipha. Okwesibini, umntu kufuneka afunde ukuhlala kwindawo ephucukileyo. Ngexesha lobomi bakho, umntwana wakho uya kubakho amaxesha amaninzi kwiimeko apho kuyimfuneko ukuba abekho ngapha nangapha nabanye abantu. Ngamanye amaxesha, yena ngokwakhe uya kucatshulwa ngokwemigangatho yolawulo kunye nokuziphatha okungenakunikwa ebuntwaneni. Ukususela kumntu omdala sele sele kwenzeka kwinqanaba lezandla, kwaye kuya kuba nzima ukuba umntwana wakho athathe izakhono zokuqala zokugcina umyalelo.
Ukukhupha, abazali abavela kwiminyaka emincinci banyanzelekile ukuba banikele abantwana imigaqo yokuziphatha.
Iingcebiso zokukhulisa okulula kwaye kulula.
Xa unika umyalelo wokwenza into ethile, kufuneka uyiqulunqe isivakalisi ngendlela engabonakali ngumyalelo. Umzekelo: "Ndifuna uncedo lwakho. Yiba nomusa, thabatha izicathulo zakho emnyango, nceda. " Ingongoma ephambili kwimeko enikwe ngayo isicelo sokuncediswa.
Xelela abantwana kusengaphambili ukuba bafanele balungiselele umsebenzi obonisiweyo (umzekelo, ukutya) ngemizuzu emihlanu.
Nika abantwana ubuninzi bezinketho zokukhetha. Xa bengenayo isidlo sesidlo, xelela abantwana ukuba banokukhetha xa beza: emva kwemizuzu emibini okanye emithathu. Ukuba ngaba ngamabomu bavusa kwaye bavavanye umonde wakho, unganiki isivumelwano sokutshintsha lamathuba. Kodwa, ukuba, abantwana banika enye indlela, evumelekileyo, ngoko xa bebuzwa ukuba bangaza kusihlwa-ndlela ukuba bahlambulule njani amathoyizi, qi ni sekise ukunika imvume kule nto.
Ngamanye amaxesha, vumela abantwana baqonde kwaye bachaze ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni ufuna le nto okanye loo msebenzi uyenze.
Banike umyalelo omnye wexesha elimiselweyo ukuze bangaziva badidekile kwaye bangagxininiswa nenani elikhulu lezabelo.
Thetha nomntwana wakho.
Ukuthetha nabantwana kufuneka bahlale behlonipha. Bayeke kunye nawe baqonde izenzo ezimbi nezilungileyo. Incoko yakho ayifanele ithathe ifomu lokunyaniseka, ufune ukunyusa umntwana ukuba uluvo lokuba yena ngokwakhe ubeka izigqibo. Kwakhona, zama ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze izigqibo malunga nezenzo okanye ukuphendula kuzo zonke iimeko.
Ngaphandle kweemeko, phantsi kweyiphi imeko, musa ukuhlazisa abantwana!
Ukuchasana kuchaza kubantwana kutheni kwimeko ethile ethile kubalulekile ukwenza ngendlela ethile, kwaye kungenjalo. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, jonga oko utshoyo, iinkcazo ezinjenge "kuba ndifuna kakhulu" okanye "ngenxa yokuba kuyimfuneko" inobuthathaka, kwaye mhlawumbi abayi kuyiqinisekisa umntwana. Abantwana abaninzi abanakuyinyamezela imiyalelo kwaye banokuqala ukuyeka ukuthetha nawe.
Ingxoxo efihlakeleyo, inkolelo, incoko yeengxoxo ngokulinganayo, iya kuhlala ikunceda ukuba ufumane igunya kumntwana.
Ungasebenzisi itoni ye-decoy. Njalo gcina izithembiso zakho.
Kwintetho kunye nabantwana, xubusha ndawonye oko kuya kufuneka bathathe amanyathelo okubuyisela ekuziphatheni kwabo. Ngokomzekelo, zithi: "Unendlela yokuphosa izinto ezungeze indlu, kwaye kufuneka ndihlale ndihamba nazo. Yintoni esiya kuyenza nale nto? Mhlawumbi wena uya kundinika isisombululo, ndimele ndenze ntoni ukuba ungahlambululi izinto zakho? "Emva kokufikelela kwesivumelwano, ngokuzayo, ngaphandle kokushiya imigaqo, gcina isivumelwano sifinyelelwe kunye.
Ungaphuthelwa umzuzu kwaye uqaphele xa abantwana bakho benza kakuhle, ungakhohlwa ukubamdumisa ngokuphendula kwizinto ozilindeleyo. Ngokomzekelo. Unokuthi "Ndivuyiswa kukuba wena ..." okanye "Kuhle ukuba wena ...".
Gcina imeko ilawulwa.
Zama ukulinganisa imeko ukuze umntwana akhuphe umzekelo wokuziphatha: "Sasha, kukubi ukuhamba ngeenxa zonke egumbini. Ndibonise, nceda, ukuba wenze ntoni kulo mzekelo. " Umntwana uthatha izicathulo zakhe. Ndiyabonga, ndiqinisekile ukuba unokukwenza. Kungcono. "
Sikucebisa ukuba umele kunye nawaphi na amanani (umzekelo, i-asterisk, iibhloko) okanye ishedyuli apho amanqaku malunga nokuziphatha kakuhle komntwana kuya kwenziwa ngexesha lokumiselwa. Ngethuba elifanayo, kufuneka ubeke imeko yokuba xa inani lala manqaku liboniswe nguwe lifakiwe, abantwana banokufumana isikhuthazo esongezelelweyo, umzekelo, ukuhamba, ukuhamba kwindawo ethile, okanye ukuthenga umdlalo ofunwa ngumntwana ixesha elide. Le ndlela ilungileyo, kwaye iyalinga indlela yokulawula ngokuziphatha.
Akunjalo, ungalilahli ngenjongo yakho yokunika abantwana isiyalo. Musa ukubuyela emva, nangona uvakalelwa kukuba unayo imikhosi eyaneleyo yokufezekisa izicwangciso zokuzenzela abantwana. Kwimeko echaseneyo, abantwana baya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba akufuneki ukuba balandele imithetho, kuba batshintsha lonke ixesha.
Ezi ngcebiso ziphumelele ukuba wena ngokwakho, ukugcina umyalelo kwindlu, kwaye ubonise ukuxinwa okuphezulu kunye nokucoceka. Iingcamango malunga nokuziphatha zingenziwa nakwizinto ezincinci: ukuba kukho into ethathwa, yifake kwindawo yayo, okanye uvale yonke into ovule ngayo ngaphambili. Zilawula kuphela wena kwaye umntwana uya kunceda ukufezekisa iziphumo ezifunwayo.