Ngoko, bafazi abathandekayo, banele ukuphosa iingqondo ezikhohlisayo, baye kwiinqwelo ezinamandla kwaye umphumo awuyi kukugcina ulinde. Ndiqinisekile amaxesha amaninzi ebomini bakho awuzange ujonge ukudlala ngothando nomntu oyithandayo, uhlazo kunye nokungaqiniseki ukuba uya kuphendula ngokufanayo, wakugcina. Ngoko khumbula inyaniso enye, akukho baninzi kwihlabathi lethu: bonke abantu bathanda ukuthandana nabasetyhini, ngaphezu koko, basuka phezulu. Ababoni nantoni na isenzo sobugebengu ngokudlala ngothando, nangona abo bafana batshatile okanye banolwalamano olunzulu. Kuhlala kukuhle ukuthetha nabantu abanomdla kuwe.
Phantse onke amantombazana ayesaba ukukhishwa kwindoda, engaqiniseki ukuba unalo mntu. Khumbulani, amadoda, enhle kakhulu, abavumi ukuzivalela, ukuzingca komfazi akumvumeli ukuba abonise ukukhanga kwakhe. Kukho uhlobo oluthile lwabasetyhini abanokumthanda abanye abantu. Njengomthetho, amaninzi amantombazana abe yinto yokudlala ngothando kwabanye abantu. Ukudlala kwabo ngothando, banika, njengeminikelo, bengabi nantoni na into endaweni. Oku kubangele amadoda njengempukane kubusi, bahlambalaza kubafazi abanjalo kwaye banandipha.
Wonke amalungu enesondo esomeleleyo ayathanda ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nabasetyhini abangacinezeli, kwaye abonakalisi umnqweno wokuba ngamaqabane angunaphakade. Ukudlala ngothando nabantu abamsulwa kwaye banobungane.
Khumbula ukuba indoda yokuqala iya kucingisisa ngesizathu sokudlala ngothando lwakho, ngoko ungawudluli kwaye ukungathandabuzeki kwakhe kudlula ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa ukuba umfana usuhle kakhulu, kwaye ufuna ngokwenene ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho ngothando lwakho, ngoko awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokufakela ezithile. Qinisekisa kwangaphambili ukuba unxibelelwano luya kuba mnandi kwaye luza kubangela ukuzonwabisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni umphumo. Bonisa intlonipho yakho nokuqonda, ngethuba le ngxoxo amehlo kufuneka akhanye. Yiba nethemba, uyintombazana enomdla kwaye inomdla, lo mntu kufuneka akhale ngovuyo, ukuba uyihlawule. Khawucinge nje u heroine oyintandokazi, unokuzama ukusebenzisa imifanekiso eyahlukileyo, kodwa mhlawumbi kunye nabangamaziyo. Bahlobo abadala, ngokuqinisekileyo, bayazi kakuhle, kwaye ukuba sele bekhona, ngoko unokuqiniseka ukuba unomdla wokuthetha, kwaye ubugcisa bokudlala ngothando nabantu abakuwe bubekwe ngumntu wendalo. Ngoko, se benzisa impilo yakho, bhuqa wonke umntu phantsi kwakho ngokukhululeka kunye nokukhubazeka, kodwa ungayikhohlwa malunga nemfihlo yokuba ngamnye umfazi kufuneka abe nayo.
Ndiyakwazi ukuxelela ibali elincamisayo, njengomnye wabahlobo bam, intombazana enesizotha, ixesha elide alikwazi ukufunda ukuzithoba ngothando kunye nabafana, oku kwaye bekunqongophala kwindoda. Ngoko, kwiqela elilandelayo le-bachelorette thina, sitshintshe umhlobo ngoncedo lwezonyango kunye nezixhobo zokusebenza, wamnika imiyalelo ecacileyo. Inkontileka yile ndlela elandelayo: siyibheke ngokusisitya ebhentshini elilandelayo, ngelixa ikhupha ngamehlo kwaye iyancwina ngokukhawuleza. Ngokunyanisekileyo, andikhumbuli ukuba baninzi abafana ababonisa umnqweno wokudibana naye, baninzi babo, kunye nabanye baqhubeka bethetha. Bonke babeneliswa ngumphumo, ngakumbi intombi yethu eneentloni. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaziphathela into enjalo, phinda amava ethu kunye nabahlobo bethu. Umdlalo onomdla kunye ongenatyala unokukunceda kangcono kunanoma yiphina i-psychologist. Kwaye, emva kokuqeqesha, ngaloo ndlela, unokuhamba ngokuzingela kwangempela, kunye nesisombululo esiphezulu kwihlabathi lamadoda, udlala ngothando.