Xa ufunde umzimba wakho kunye nekhono lakho, awukwazi nje ukutsala ingqalelo kwindoda kumzimba womzimba, kodwa kwakhona ulahlekise abalandeli abanengxaki.
Khangela . Zama ukusungula iliso lokuhlala kwindoda nomntu oyithandayo. Unokuqala ngokubukeka okungabonakaliyo, ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuseka uqhagamshelwano ngqo. Kodwa, ngokukhawuleza xa umntu evakalelwa ngamehlo akho, thatha amehlo akho kunye nokumomotheka. Uthini lo mqondiso? Okokuqala, le ngenye yezindlela ezifanelekileyo kakhulu zokutsala ingqalelo yomntu. Kwakhona, uya kuqonda into enomdla kuwe. Emva koko, ube nomonde uze uzame ukumelana nokubonakala kwendoda. Kwaye kungcono ukuba uyammotheka.
Ukuba, kuwe ukhankanya indoda engapheliyo kwaye ingathandeki, jonga phambili. Zama ukungakhangeli kwamehlo akhe. Ukuba indoda ingacatshulwa ingqondo, iya kuqonda ukuba ayikuthandi nonke.
Jonga ukubonakala kwakho . Wayeqhele ukuba kwenzeke ukuba xa uvela kwiqela okanye nayiphi enye i-reception, ngokukhawuleza xa uvela, akukho mntu uhlawula ngqalelo kuwe. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Konke ngenxa yokuba ungakhangeli indlela efanelekileyo. Izambatho ezikhethiweyo ngokufanelekileyo-isiqinisekiso sokuphumelela kunoma yiphi indawo. Funda ukugxininisa ngokuqinisekileyo isidima sakho kwaye ufihlile iimpazamo zakho ngoncedo lwezambatho. Unokutsala ukuba ukhange umntu xa ukhangela amaphuzu ayi-100.
Ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu ngolwimi lomzimba, sebenzisa izandla zakho . Kukho inkqubela ezininzi kunye neendlela zokutsala ingqalelo ngempawu. Umzekelo, uya kubonisa ukuba unxibelelwano ovulekile ukuthetha, ukuba izandla zakho aziweleki esifubeni. Ungabi namahloni xa uthetha, uthabatha iinwele zakho, utyumle i-bezel yeglasi-yenze ngokukhawuleza kwaye ukhululeke. Ezi zixhobo zonwabile. Kwakhona, unokuthinta indoda. Ngokomzekelo, susa intsiba enamathele kwijacket yakhe. Ukuthintela, ngokukodwa kungagcini, kuyindlela enhle yokwenza uqhagamshelwano olusondeleyo.
Yiba ngqalelo kwingqalelo . Hlalani nisoloko nilungile. Xa uthetha nomntu, vula umzimba wakho ngokupheleleyo kuye, ulungele umva, ufake iinyawo zakho ngokuchanekileyo. Woguqule umzimba wakho kuye. Ngale ntshukumo, uya kuzisa ukuba unomdla kuwe. Enye indlela yokwenza ingqwalasela yendoda kumlomo womzimba kukugxotha intloko kumntu, uphakamise isifuba phambili (kuphela le ntshukumo akumele ibonakale ingabonakali).
Ukuba, awunomdla wokutsala indoda, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, ufuna ukulahla umqhubi. Khumbula oku kulandelayo: kukulungele ukubonakalisa kungekhona umnqweno wokunxibelelana ngeengalo eziwela esifubeni; wakhulisa iglasi kwinqanaba lobuso; ukususwa komzimba kwi-interlocutor.
Ukugqitywa kwesihloko esithi "njani ukutsala ingqalelo kumadoda kulwimi lomzimba," kukufanele ukuba uqaphele ukuba xa usenza ubungane nomzimba wakho kwaye ufunde ukuthumela iimpawu eziyimfihlo kumnxibelelwano, ngoko uya kumangaliswa kwisiphumo. Kwaye akukhona nje amazwi, kodwa sele sele ebonakaliswe ngabangqina besininzi.
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokugqibela. Ukukholisa nokutsala ingqalelo, funda ukuba isibuko, oko kukufunda ukukopisha ukuhamba kwamadoda.
Khumbula ukuba ukuba ushiya umsi okanye uzama ukubonakala ulungile kwaye ungenasono, jonga kude-ke awuyi kukwazi ukutsala umntu ngeelwimi lomzimba.
Zihlakulele kunye nomzimba wakho, uze uthobele nayiphi na indawo ephakamileyo.