Wazala umntwana ephupheni: yintoni na?
Uninzi lweenguqulelo ezinxulumene nenjongo enjalo zithwele intsingiselo efanelekileyo kumntu ophuphayo. Ngokomzekelo, ngokutsho kwencwadi yephupha likaMiller, ukuzala umntwana ngumqondiso olungileyo, uvelise ukuchuma kwintsapho, ukuzinza kwemali kunye nenkqubo yokuzalwa ngokulula ebomini bokwenene. Kodwa yonke inkcazelo itholakala kwiminyaka emingakanani umphuphi, yintoni isondo apho umntwana, nokuba kwakunzima ukuzala, njl.
Masiqale ngeminyaka yephupha eliphuphayo. Amantombazana amancinci abe ngumama ephupheni anentsingiselo emibini. Ngokutsho kwengcaciso enye, ukuba le ntokazi ibele umntwana, ngoko kungekudala uza kutshata kwaye imeko yephupha iya kuzaliseka ngokwenene. Umtshato uthembisa ukuba uyavuya, uqine kwaye ude. Kodwa kwezinye iinguqulelo kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane inkcazelo ehlukileyo kakhulu yephupha, ngokutsho ukuba intombazana iya kuba yintloni yokukhohlisa kwaye ingcatshiswa ngumhlobo osondeleyo okanye okhethiweyo, onomthandayo. Kwiinguqulelo zeMedea, umntu unokufumana ukutolika kuchaza eli phupha njengengozi yokungena ebuhlotsheni obuqhelanisayo obungayi kubakho nantoni na. Utshatile isicwangciso esifanayo sithembisa ulwalamano olunzulu neqabane kunye nosapho lwakhe. Kodwa ukuba abaphuphi bahamba ngokulula kwaye bengenazo iingxaki, ngokukhawuleza unokulindela ukuphuculwa kwimiba yezemali. Kwabesetyhini abadala, iphupha elinjalo lingamisela impilo engcono, ukuphelisa izifo.
Ukuba intombazana inikezelwa ephupheni, ke yimiqondiso yeengxaki ezintle, intlanganiso kunye nabahlobo. Akunakunyulwa ukuba emva kwephupha elinjalo umphuphi uya kuziva ukuncoma okanye ukuvuma ukuvela kumntu omhle. Kwezinye iincwadi zephupha lo mqondiso uchazwa nje ngokucacisa ngokukhawuleza kolwalamano okanye isityholo. Ukuzala umntwana - umvuzo wokufumana imali okanye ukuthenga okunenzuzo kakhulu. Esi sicwangciso sinokufanisela amandla okunyamezela nokunyamezela, okuya kukunceda ukunqoba nayiphi na ubunzima.
Ukuba kwakunzima ukuzala abantwana ephupheni kukubonakalisa ukunganeliseki ngobomi, ubomi obuthathaka. Abasetyhini abaphuphayo icebo elinjalo baphelile ubomi boqobo, baninzi imisebenzi kunye neengxaki kumahlombe abo.
Ukuhlaziya iprojekthi, oko kukuthi, ukuzalwa okulula, uthi ebomini bakho kukho umninimzi oza kusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho ngokuzonwabisa, akukhusele ebunzima.
Ukutolika xa omnye umfazi ebeleka ephupheni?
Ukwamkela okanye ubuncinane ukubona ukuzalwa ephupheni ngumqondiso omhle kumphuphi. Kwaye akubalulekanga ukuba ngubani lo mfazi ebomini bokwenene. Oku kungaba isihlobo sakho, umhlobo okanye umfokazi. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, eli phupha lifanekisela impilo enamandla, ukuphuculwa kobudlelwane kwintsapho. Emva koko usibonile, unokucwangcisa ngokukhuselekileyo uhambo olufunayo ukuya ezweni elikude. Nabani na oqalayo, ohambelana nezoshishino okanye umnqweno, uya kuphumelela.
Ukuzala abantwana ephupheni akuthethi ukuba ngokukhawuleza uza kufunda malunga neemeko zakho ezimnandi. Kodwa nangona uguqulelo olucetywayo lunokutshintsha ngokubanzi inkambo yobomi kwixesha elizayo elizayo.