Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nomhlobo: i-pros and cons

Kukholelwa kakhulu ukuba akukho buhlobo phakathi kwowesifazane kunye nendoda ecocekileyo kwaye, ngandlela-thile, yonke into iya kuncitshiswa ukuya kwisondo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthetha ukuba oku kuyinyani okanye akunjalo, kodwa kuyaziwa ukuba empeleni, ubulili bobubele yinto engayi kuthiwa yinto engabonakaliyo. Kwaye kuyaqondakala kakuhle - ukuthanda izinto zomzimba kunamandla kwaye kunokukhokelela ekubeni abantu baquka kwi-intlanethi yobudlelwano bobuhlobo obuhle kakhulu kunye nommandla osondeleyo. Ukongezelela, ukuba ibhinqa elifuna isondo, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nomhlobo ongcono, ngokungabikho komlingani osisigxina, luyinto efanelekileyo yokukhetha. Uninzi lwabantu luhlanjululwa ngumbuzo omnye kuphela - buya kuba yintoni ubuhlobo babo kulo mzekelo kwaye ngaba ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo buya kutshabalaliswa ngokukhawuleza?

Ukwabelana ngesondo nomhlobo: inzuzo

Enye yeenzuzo ezibaluleke kakhulu zesini esinobuhlobo kukulula kunye nokukhululeka kolwalamano olunjalo, ukuba zombini amaqabane ayaqonda ukuba ulwalamano lwabo alunakunyanzelisa nantoni na. Balala omnye nomnye kuphela xa bethandana nale nto kuphela ukuze wonke umntu athabathe. Iintlanganiso zesondo ziqhutywa ngaphandle kokuxhatshazwa, ngaphandle kwemimiselo kunye noxinzelelo, ngaphandle kokufuna nayiphi na imvakalelo yothando. Oko kukuthi, ngokwemiqathango elula, ubulili bobuhlobo akuyona into efana nokusetyenziswa komzimba, kwaye kuphela.

Kwakhona, ukusuka kwisini esifanelekileyo, unobungane unemiba eyahlukileyo. Okokuqala, akukho nqanaba lokudlala ngothando, kunye nokwesaba ukuba isondlo siya kuhamba njengoko ifunayo kumadoda nabasetyhini, kuba bayazi kakuhle. Baziva bekhululekile kwaye belula, banako ukufumana nayiphi na indlela abayifunayo, ngaphandle kokunyamekela, ukuzonwabisa okanye ukuzibonakalisa bebhetele kunabo. Nangona kukho iingxaki kwinkqubo, amaqabane angakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kwaye mhlawumbi kamva baxoxisane ngokungaqhelekanga kunye nokuzama ukuxubusha.

Nangona kunjalo, imeko enjalo inokwenzeka kuphela phantsi kweemeko eziziphatha ngokukhululekile nangokunyaniseka komnye nomnye. Akukho namnye kubo kufuneka athembele ngasese ukuba ubuhlobo babo emva kobudlelwane obusondeleyo buya kuphuhlisa kwisithuba esondeleyo. Ukuba indoda okanye ibhinqa (ingakumbi abasetyhini) inayo, nokuba yincinci kwaye ingenalwazi, ithemba lento engathí sina kunokuba ngumhlobo, ngoko ke emva kokulala, ubuhlobo buya kulahleka ngonaphakade. Njengoko iinkalo zibonisa, emva kokuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo umntu intombi yakhe kaninzi akaba ngumthandi okanye, ingakumbi, indoda. Yaye ukuba imeko enjalo, emva kokulala ngokwesibini, intombazana izama ukuzenza enye indima, ngaphandle kwendima yomhlobo, umntu uya kutshabalalisa ebomini bakhe. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuba bonke abantombazana nabasetyhini bakhumbule ukuba isondo asikwazi ukuthintela ubungani kuphela kwaye kuphela ukuba bafuna ukwanelisa umnqweno wesini, kwaye akukho. Ngaphandle koko, kukho umngcipheko omkhulu wokulahlekelwa ngumhlobo.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nomhlobo: ingxaki

Ingxaki ebalulekileyo yobulili bobuhlobo kukuba amaninzi amaqabane aqala ukuxhamla komnye, ngokukhawuleza efika kwingcamango yokuba ufuna into engaphezu kobuhlobo kuphela, kwaye ukuba injongo yakhe evela kwelinye ayiphenduliwe, uqala ukukhubeka ukukhuphisana.

Ngexesha elide, ukulinganisa okunjalo kummandla wobudlelwane kunye nothando lwabo bonke, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukhokelela ekutshatyalalisweni kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kwaye, njengoko sele sichazwe ngasentla, ukugqithisa okupheleleyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Kubuhlungu ukuyiqonda le nto, nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi iziphumo zesini ngobudlelwane buhlobo olufanayo.

Enye, ukungabi nakubungqingili obuninzi bobulili obusondelene naloo nto ingabangela impembelelo ebusweni bexesha elizayo kunye nabathandekayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umfana ufumanisa ukuba wayehlala elala nomhlobo wakhe, nangona engamlahli, uya kuhlaselwa kuya kusayi kuba nomona kubo bonke abahlobo bakhe, abasebenzisana nabo, njalo njalo. Ngokufanayo, akunakwenzeka ukuba umfazi uya kumthemba indoda ngokupheleleyo xa efunda ukuba walala nendodakazi yakhe enhle.