Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nomntu owayengumfana

Le ntokazi yaqhekeza indoda, kunye nendoda, yaqhawula indoda yakhe ... Kunoma yintoni na, ixinzelelo kuye, nokuba ngaba nguyena owaqalisa ukuhlukana. Yaye ukuba iqabane lilinikezela inxalenye, oku kunzima kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukho inkululeko yenkululeko, okanye ayikho, kodwa akukho nto, umfazi uqala ukuqonda ukuba kukho into ekhoyo ekhompilweni yakhe enokuthanda ukuba nayo indoda. Njengomthetho, awufuni nje ukukhawuleza ukukhangela umthandi omtsha, kwaye awuyi kuwufumana ngokukhawuleza, kodwa indalo ithatha indlela yayo-intokazi ifuna isondo. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kuza kwiingcinga malunga nomntu owayengumntu wokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abasetyhini abazivumeli bona bona balahlekelwa ngumthandi wabo wangaphambili, bembiza ngokuthi "ngumthandi nje." Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa alikhumbuli nokuba yintoni ephule nalo mntu. Imemori yethu yenzelwe ngendlela ekhunjulwa ngayo into edlulileyo, ukulibala elibi, kulo mzekelo - iimpawu ezihlazileyo zomntu wangaphambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuyenzeka ukuba umfazi unesicatshulwa, ufumana ngokukhawuleza into eyenzekayo ngaphambili, kwaye umphefumlo wakhe ufuna kwaye awufumani ukushisa. Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba oku kuphela iimvakalelo zakho. Khumbula izizathu zokuhlukana kunye nemiba yazo engalunganga. Inokwenzeka ukuba, ayibalulekanga kakhulu ukuba iholele ekugqibeleni.

Esinye isizathu sokucinga kwakhona malunga ne-ex-boyfriend yakho yizikhumbuzo zokulala naye. Akayena kuphela uhle ebhedeni, naye uyazi umzimba wakho, njengabanye. Ewe, ukuba awunomntu ovakalelwa kakhulu kwaye ungesabi ukuba emva kokulala naye uya kugxinwa ngumtsalane wezinkumbulo, unokumbiza ngokukhuselekileyo. Ukuba uye waba ndawonye ixesha elide - uyazi kakuhle into oyifunayo ngesondo. Kodwa lungilungelelanisa ukuba ubulili obuthe xaxa kunye nomntu owayengumntu kule ndawo akuyi kuqhubeka.

Ngamanye amaxesha ibhinqa lizibuza loo mbuzo: "Ungandikhohlwa njani?". Lobu bukhwele bokuqala. Ungabi nomona ngesithandwa sakhe sangaphambili, musa ukuchitha ubusuku ucinga ngendlela alala ngayo nomnye umntu okanye indlela ahamba ngayo nomntu owamkelayo. Ukuba uyeka ukusebenzisana naye, ngoku oku akufanele kukukhathalele. Nangona wahlukana nentombazana entsha kwaye ukhethe njengendawo yokuzimela, cinga-ngaba ulungele ukuhlala ukhululekile?

Enye inketho inokwenzeka - ukuba unikwe inxalenye, indoda inokuba nomona kuwe. Kule meko, iingcamango zakhe zibukeka ngathi: "Andizange ndibe nexesha lokuba ndihlukane nam, kwaye ngoku sele ecinezelwa kuye, esi si sidalwa silapha." Hayi! Awukwazi ukuvumela oku! ". Unokwenza unqwenela umnqweno womfana ukuba abuyisele yonke into njengoko kwakunjalo. Kodwa ngaba ngokwenene unenxenye naye ngaphandle kwesizathu? Kwaye ukuba ngaba kunjalo, ngubani onokuqinisekisa ukuba into eyamkhonzayo ayiyi kuphinda iphinde ivele kwakhona? Kungcono ukuthetha nomfana, mxelele ukuba isigqibo sakho sokwenza inxenye sasinzima - ngoko ekugqibeleni uya kukunyamekela ilungiselelo lobomi bakhe kwaye akushiye wedwa.

Ngaloo ndlela, isondo kunye nomntu owayengumntu kuyingozi. Mhlawumbi, kuphela ngabafazi abaneengqondo zomntu, ngubani onokuqonda into eyenzeka ngaphandle kwemvakalelo, kuphela ngenxa yezizathu ezinokukwazi ukuzonwabisa. Nangona kunjalo, inani lala mabhinqa lithenda.

Nangona kunjalo, kukho enye ityala - umzekelo, ulwaphule ngokuvuma. Kwaye nangu mntu, kwaye ufuna uluthando lwenu, awufumani, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ngokwenene uyamthanda kuphela. Yaye uyaqonda ukuba wayekuthanda kuphela. Kule meko, kunye nomntu owayengumntu wokuqala, ubulili obubi kunye nokuhlalisana nobudlova kunokwenzeka. Okanye uxolelwaniso oluqhankqalazayo nolwabelana ngesondo. Kwaye emva koko, uthando kunye nolwalamano oludibeneyo olufanayo lufana nelokuba babekho ngaphambi kokuba bahlukane. Nangona kunjalo, oku kwenzeka ngezinto ezinqabileyo, kwaye kuphela ukuba wena kunye n nilungile ngoku ukuba uqwalasele isizathu sokuba ukwahlukana kungabalulekanga, kwaye kungekhona nje ukutshutshiswa kwintsipho okanye imvakalelo.

Kwezinye iimeko, kungcono ukunqanda ubudlelwane kunye nesondo kunye nomntu owayengumfana.