Nangona kunjalo, kwiintlobo zeenqweno zesondo, kukho iingxaki kunye neengxaki. Ukuba awuyazi imithetho yokuqala yokuziphatha ebhedeni, ngoko iimvavanyo zesondo zingaba ngumfanekiso wendlela yokuhamba eyingozi kwi-minefieldfield. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi. Okokuqala, ungakhubeka ngephutha kwi-tab ye-nonabo yesimo somntu wakho. Okwesibini, ngokuvuma into entsha, ungonakalisa impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nempilo. Okwesithathu, kukho iindidi zeendima zendima ezithandana ngokwesondo ezikhokelela ekunciphiseni kwintengiso yesini okanye ubuzwe. Kwaye ke esikhundleni sokuba ulwahluke kwiibhedi, unokufumana ukungafuneki ngokupheleleyo komnqweno kunye nokungakwazi ukufumana i-orgasm.
Ukudlala embhedeni indoda ethandekayo akufanele iguqule ubomi bakho kwisihogo kwaye ibonise impilo yakho eyimfuneko engozini. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungene emgibeni weengxaki ngokuzama ukulala embhedeni? Udinga ukwazi imigaqo embalwa engundoqo.
Okokuqala, kufuneka sikwazi ukucacisa ulwahlulo oluthiwa lwamkelekileyo kokubili. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuhamba ngaphaya kwalo, nangona kunjalo kuyadaka. Ngelishwa, akukho mntu ukhansele imicimbi yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, ngoko ngamanye amaxesha umntu kufuneka avume ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuzama konke afunayo namadoda athile. Njengoko akukho nhlobo ukuba uzame nabo into ophuphayo ngayo, kuba kubo akuvunyelwanga.
Ukuba wenza into ekumelana nayo nomphefumlo, unokufumana isifo esifana nesifo sexhoba lobudlova. Ngenxa yembonakalo yale syndrome, ithuba lokufumana i-orgasm linyamalale, kwaye kwimeko embi kakhulu, kunokukho izibonakaliso ze-vaginismus kunye nezinye iziphazamiso ezenza ubomi bobulili bungenakwenzeka. Ngoko akuyimfuneko ukwenza into endiyithandileyo ebhedeni eyabangela ukunyaniseka kunye neentloni.
Kule nto kubalulekile ukuqwalasela iimfuno zabantu. Ukuba akayi kwamkela iintlobo zesini, musa ukunyanzelisa. Oku kuya kubangela ukuphazamiseka kwimvelaphi yesimo sengqondo sobudlelwane kwaye kuya kubangela iingxaki ezingekho mfuneko zesini.
Ingongoma yesibini ebalulekileyo yimfuneko yokufumana ulwazi lwezokwelapha malunga nokuthotyelwa kunye nokungavumeleki kweentlobo ezithile zemidlalo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unquma ukuba bobabini bafuna ukulala ngesondo, kufuneka ufunde zonke iincwadi zonyango ezikhoyo kulo mxholo. Kuya kuba namanqaku aneleyo kunye nokuthandwayo kwi-sexology ukuze ufunde ukuba awukwazi ukudibanisa ngesondo lesini kunye nesiswini ngaphandle kokuqhuba iinkqubo zokucoceka emva kokudala. Kwakhona ubuchule bolu hlobo lwesini bubonisa ulwazi lweziseko zokhuseleko, kubalulekile ukuphepha ukulimala okungadingekile.
Ingongoma yesithathu ebalulekileyo kukuba ulwazi lwezo ntlobo zeemidlalo ezingakhokelela ekuphuleni okukhulu kwezempilo zesondo. Ukudlala embhedeni indoda ethandekayo akufanele iguqulwe, ayikwazi ukuthanda isondo. Kuwo wonke umfazi isethi yemidlalo ethwala ingozi yokhathazeka kwengqondo engumntu ngamnye. Kodwa kukho imithetho yonke. Ngokomzekelo, i-sexologists iyincoma ukuphepha kuzo zonke iindidi zezesondo zesini, ukusuka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyamkholisa njani umntu ukuba azame ukulala ngesithathu okanye asebenzisana naye, akufanele uvumelane ngokungacingi. Inyaniso yokuba emadodeni emva kokuqhelanisa nokuziphatha ngokwesondo, i-potency iyancipha ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ukubuyisela oku kuphazamiseka kamva kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye kuyabiza, nokuba kunjalo, izabelo zesini kwilizwe lethu azithethi. Kwaye nabasetyhini banokuva ubunzima obungenangqondo, oku kunokukhokelela ekukhuseleni ngesondo. Ukongezelela, ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda abonayo umfazi okanye inkosikazi ezandleni zomnye umntu, agcwalise ubudlelwane naye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bathembisa ntoni ngaphambili.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuze uqale ukulinga kwintsibano yesondo, kufuneka ube nesibindi esithile. Akunabo bonke abantu abakulungeleyo kumanyathelo okuqala olwalamano ukuthetha ngokucacileyo ngeminqweno yabo baze babuze malunga nabo ibhinqa. Kwaye ke, xa ubuhlobo sele sele buqine kakhulu, kuvele ngokukhawuleza ukuba iimfuno kunye namathuba kwisini azihambelani ngokuthe ngqo.
Enyanisweni, ekusebenziseni imidlalo yokudlala ngesondo, ii-pluses zininzi kunezimbi. Le nto ebalulekileyo yobulunga obuphilileyo kubayeni nabasetyhini. Imidlalo yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ayikwazi kuphela ukugcina ulwalamano olusenyongweni. Bayakwazi ukunceda isibini sihlakulele ubudlelwane kwaye sibabule kumgangatho omtsha wobukho. Njengomthetho, imidlalo emininzi ibhekisa umfazi ukuba azi kakuhle umzimba wakhe, aqonde kwaye aqonde iminqweno yakhe. Kwaye, ngaphandle koko, bangaba ngumthombo we-orgasm kulawo mabhinqa anamava athile kunye nale nto.