Indlela yokwenza umyeni wakhe aye emsebenzini?

Ubomi bomfazi wesibini waseRussia oyingqambileyo waseRashiya inxalenye eninzi inomsebenzi kunye nokuhlaselwa kwekhaya. Sisiphi isono esifihlayo, abaninzi bafazi bethu abanalo mntu unethemba kulo mbomi. Zonke iintlobo zeengxaki zezezimali, ukugungqeleka ilizwe labo belizwe, zonakalisa ukholo lwabaqeshwa besilisa abaqhelekileyo ngokwabo: bambalwa kubo baphulukana nemisebenzi kwaye bakwazi ukuphuma, ukuhlaziya nokufumana indawo yabo yokufumana imali. Sekunjalo, simele sivume ukuba ininzi yabahlali baseRashiya baphazamiseka yi-shabbas ethile, ezisa iipennies. Kwaye abantu abaninzi, bexakeke kunye nabo, kwilizwe kunye nobomi ngokubanzi, bahlala phantsi kunye ne-emelyami "kwisitofu": balala embhedeni, baphuze ubhiya (kakuhle, ukuba kungenjalo vodka) kwaye ulinde amaxesha angcono (oko kukuthi, umhla wakho wokuhlawula). Yaye yethu intlungu, ukuxolela abafazi baseRussia, emva kokuzama ukuthetha, ukukhuthaza, ukuthobeka: abantwana bafuna ubaba, kwaye ngokubanzi, yintoni indlu ngaphandle kwezilwanyana, kodwa njani ukuba umyeni wakho aye emsebenzini? Ukuba kukho izipikili eludongeni ngokwazo, kubalulekile ukunyusa isando kunye nokulungisa i-wiring - yilapho ukulala? Kungenxa yeso sidima, abafazi abaxhatshazwayo ukuba eli nqaku lenzelwe. Umyeni akafuni ukuthatha umthwalo oyintloko ekunikezeni ngemali kwintsapho? Abantwana bayamjonga kwaye bangaboni into ekufundeni kakuhle? Masizame ukuqonda izizathu kwaye sifumane iindlela zokuphuma kuloo meko.

Indlela elula (kodwa ingeyona echanekileyo) yokuphuma kukuthobela abahlobo kunye nezihlobo, ukugijima, apho amehlo abukeka khona. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kuya kuba bhetele, ihlombe lomntu onamandla liyimfuneko kwaye alize lifuneke. Ngenxa yokuba umtshato wesibini, imeko ingaphendulwa ngekhulu leepesenti. Emva koko, nakuphi na ukuphikisana, zombini macala ahlala esetyala.

Ngoko ke, masiqale ukususela ekuqaleni - oko kukuthi, ukususela ngexesha umndeni wenziwe. Ngaba akuyinyaniso ukuba ukhethiweyo wakho kwakuyindlela yohlobo lomntu kunye nokuthembeka? Kutheni kushintshile kangaka, kutheni ufanele uwenze ufune umsebenzi?

Nantoni na into ongayithethayo, kodwa emtshatweni kunokuhlala kuxabana phakathi kwamaqabane. Oku kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo, kodwa kubangelwa kwiziphumo zangempela.

Indoda ngokwemvelo yinkokheli, kwaye xa ingekho impawu ebonakalayo kuye, kufuneka zibonakalise kuphela kwintsapho. Kwaye xa kwenzeka kwinqanaba lobomi ukuba uthathe yonke into "yowesilisa" - waqala ukufumana okungaphezulu kunako, okanye ngokubanzi uthatha uxanduva lokugcina ulondolozo lwentsapho - kungekhona nje ukuzithemba kwakhe, kodwa kunye neengqondo epheleleyo. Ewe, ewe, kwaye ungayiphathi ngoku!

Ngokomzekelo, makhe sicinge ukuba abantwana bancintisana njani. Thatha umnqamlezo kumgama omde. Xa inkokheli ikhutshwe phambili, eshiya bonke abanye basemva, abaninzi baqhubeka begijima, benethemba lokuba kwindawo yesibini, indawo yesithathu, okanye nje kwimidlalo. Kodwa kukho abafana abaye bashiya umncintiswano. Ngenxa yokuba abayiboni loo nto emzabalazweni. Uyazibuza, yintoni le meko enxulumene nentsapho apho umntu omdala enqaba ukuthatha uxanduva?

Ewe, eyona nto ichanekileyo. Kwenzeka ukuba kule nqanaba yobomi bentsapho indoda yakho yayingaphandle, kwaye ukhokela. Abambalwa abesilisa abanakuyiphula kule meko, ukuze basinde ngesithunzi. Ngoko kuza engqondweni yabo ukuba akudingeki ukuba utshintshe into, kwakhona ngenxa yokuba unako okwaneleyo okona mfuneko. Yaye ukuba awukwazi okwaneleyo, uya kuzuza.

Unokumangalela umyeni ngenxa yobuthathaka, bhomboza, utyumle indlebe yakho - konke oku kuya kulukhuphaza nje imeko ekhoyo. Kungcono uvume (kuwe) ukuba umntu wakho ubuthathaka. Kodwa, kholwani mna, oku akuzange ayeke ukuba ngumntu. Kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuyilungisa.

Into yokuqala yokuyenza yikhumbula ukuba ungowesifazane, ungesabi ukuba uswele amandla kwakhona. Oku, kunjalo, kunzima kwaye kuyatshitshisa. Akunakwenzeka ukuyeka umsebenzi kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kwintsapho kwimeko ebunzima! Kodwa ukwenza ezinye, amancinci amanyathelo kule nkalo ziyimfuneko nje.

Ukuba uyamthanda umyeni wakho, mbonise ukuba unamandla kuwe! Yenza kucace ukuba awukwazi ukwenza izinto ngaphandle kwayo. Bhuqa ukuzingca kwakhe: qalisa ubuncinci uthi ngamanye amaxesha uthi, unamandla, unqwenela-abanye babeya kulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wabo, bekudala, basele, kwaye akafani noko! Kwaye uze uqale ukukhononda ngokusebenza nabo, abaphathi, usebenze ngokugqithiseleyo emsebenzini. Ukuba intsapho ayilahlekelwa yintliziyo yothando, inhlonipho, inkxaso yenkxaso, oku kuya kusebenza.

Musa nje ukulinda iziphumo zangoko. Umsebenzi awubonakali kumtsalane wendwendwe yomlingo. Ngaphezu koko, kuhlale kunzima ukuba umntu ahambe, umzekelo, kwi-plumbing, emva kwendawo yangaphambili wenza njengomphathi wecandelo. Yiba nengqiqo.

Ukuba indoda ayiyithandi indawo ayifumene nayo, kwaye uyayifumana ngokukhawuleza, yicele ngokukhawuleza ukuba icinge kwakhona - kuba unengxaki emsebenzini, mhlawumbi kuncitshiswa. Mnike isizathu esihle sokuba kufuneka aphule. Esi sihlandlo esengqondo sengqondo, kunzima kumntu-ukuqala ukusebenza emva kweminyaka emininzi yexesha lokungenzi lutho.

Igama elithi "amandla", elikhankanywe kwisihloko salo nqaku, lubonisa isimo sengqondo sabafazi abaninzi kwiingxaki zokungasebenzi kwindoda kunye nokungaxanduva. Kodwa abafazi abanjalo bafanele baqonde ukuba amandla kulo mbandela asincedisi kuphela, kodwa unomqobo ongaphezulu. Ukuphoqeleka ukwenza nantoni na ngokuchasene nentando kungabakhoboka kuphela, ubuthathaka, unqwenela. Yintoni endiyenayo kumyeni onjalo, kutheni kubalulekile ukuba ufake imizamo yokuphoqa indoda ukuba isebenze?

Kwaye kunjalo: ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kokuqhawula umtshato, abayeni baneminyaka emininzi ngokunyuka komsebenzi. Awuzange ucinge, kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Ewe, akukho namnye owanqumlayo, akawanyatheli ngodaka! Ngamandla kwanoma yimuphi umfazi onobuqili, ozimisele ukuba akhule amaphiko omntu emva kwakhe. Khumbula oku, thanda kwaye uhloniphe lakho iqabane, mnike ilungelo lokukhokela. Vumela ukuba uhambe kwiintonga zikaRhulumente, kwaye uya kuzikhetha!