Umkhwa uyinto enyantyisayo, kwaye kaninzi ayinto engabonakaliyo kwintando. Emva kokuba ulwalamano lwakho nomntu obiza kakhulu lugubhiyo lugqityiwe, luvame ukucaca ukuba luhlobo luni lwesiseko abaxhasayo. Kananjalo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ubuhlobo obuqhelekileyo buqala ukuqiqa kwaye budideke, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo kukho ingcamango ephazamisayo: "Mhlawumbi, ngokwaneleyo?". Uyabona njani ukuba lixesha lokuphula umanyano, yaye nini esi sigqibo sibe yiphutha elingenakulinganiswa ngokwenene?
Kukho amaxesha apho abantu ababini, emva kokuthandana ngokuthandana, bahlala ndawonye bengenako ukukhululeka. Ngaba lo luhlobo olulahlekileyo okanye ulwalamano lwesikhashana lwexeshana? Yenza konke. Mhlawumbi, uthando aluyinyaniso, kwaye abantu bahlala kunye nomkhwa. Okanye mhlawumbi banokukhathala komnye nomnye, kwaye kufuneka siwanike ithuba lokuphumla.Zama ukwahlukana okwesikhashana. Musa ukuzahlula, ungaphuli umanyano - kuya kuba buhlungu nangenxa yobuhlobo obungekho uthando-okuthi, ukuhlukana okwesikhashana. Akuyimfuneko ukuba unyaka uphumelele kwenye indawo ekupheleni kwehlabathi. Hlala nje ulwahlule (umzekelo, uye kumntu kwiintsuku ezimbalwa) okanye, ubuncinci, unciphise umnxibelelwano. Ingcamango "Ungathini (a) ngaphandle kwam?" Uya kuvela. Kodwa qwa lasela into ephambili: ngaba ulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo? Mhlawumbi ububele bakho buya kuphuphuma ngamandla avuselelwe emva komhla wokuhlukana, okanye mhlawumbi uyothuka ukuba uqaphele ukuba sele isonto lonke sele likhona. Kubalulekile ukuqonda - kuphela ngokunyanisekileyo - nokuba ukhululekile ekungabikho kwesiqingatha sesibini. Ngaba unokwenza uxolo ngokujongana nemicimbi yakho, ucinge ngezinto ezingaphandle? Ukuba ixesha lokuhlukanisa liyaphula ngokukhawuleza, ngoko, mhlawumbi, akunakudingi ngempela inkampani yendoda. Kodwa ukuba awuzitholi indawo, ukulibala malunga nazo zonke izikhalazo nokungazinzi, mhlawumbi iimvakalelo zakho zisaphila kwaye zinethuba lokuvuselelwa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda xa uziva ungcono - kwinkampani yomntu okanye ngaphandle kwayo.
Elinye iphuzu - nikela ingqalelo, ngaba abantu besini esahlukileyo bayakukhanga? Oku kungenakwenzeka kwinqanaba lomnqweno ochazwe, kodwa kwiingcamango ezinjengaye "Njengaye (a) onokuthanda". Umntu oqhotyoshelweyo kwisiqingatha sakhe ngokuqhelekileyo unomdla wesini esahlukileyo - unokuthetha nabameli bakhe, kodwa nje abaqondi abanye ngaphandle kohlobo, bangaqapheli umdla wabo. Kodwa ukuba usoloko uzibamba ucinga "Njengokuba engunanto ..." kwaye ufuna ukuzithobela umncinci, mhlawumbi oku kungumqondiso wokuthi umdla wakho wesinye isondo unyuke - ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zakho ziyacinywa.
Ngaba unomona? Kakade ke, kukho abantu abangenalo umona ngokupheleleyo, bonke baneempawu ezihlukeneyo. Kodwa nangona ubaphatha abantu abanjalo, kusenzima ukukholelwa ukuba uhlale ungaxhasi ngokupheleleyo apho umntu wakho okhethiweyo echitha ixesha kwaye ngubani onomdla kuyo. Khawucinge ukuba ngoku, ngomzuzwana, kunye nomnye umntu ... Kakade, umona uvame ukufa emva komthando ngenxa yengqiqo yempahla ebonakalayo kubantu abaninzi, kodwa ukuba iingcinga ezikhankanywe apha ngasentla azikukhathazi nantoni na, oku kunjalo uphawu lokuba yonke into iphelile.
Ngaba ukhangelelwa ngokwesondo? Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uthabatha ubudlelwane budityanisiwe, kodwa kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ukukhanga kuhleli okanye kucime. Xa uthando lufa, unako ukubona umfanekiso umntu afuna ukuziphatha ngokwesondo, kodwa ekucingweni komntu othile, umlilo utshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza.
Mhlawumbi, sasiqwalasela iimpawu eziphambili zothando, ezingabonakali kubudlelwane "ngokuqhelekileyo". Mamela iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ke uya kukwazi ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Kwenzeka ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuphuka ixesha elide, ngokwenene ubudlelwane obungadingekile, kwaye kwenzeka ukuba unokuzisola kakhulu ngenxa yokutshitshiswa komthi. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko kubalulekile ukwazi indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngomntu ngokwenene, ngoko uyaqonda ukuba uhlala ulwalamano lwakho oluqhelekileyo okanye cha.