Yiyiphi inqobo amadoda ayenayo ngomfazi ofanelekileyo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwindawo yokuqala ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga ngayo amadoda. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, nganye yesibini ithi "ukupakishwa" akubalulekanga - "isitshixo" kubalulekile, into engaphakathi ngumphefumlo. Kodwa ukubonakaliswa kobuzenzisi bendoda kunye nohanahaniso - buza umntu ukuba ulungele ukuhlala nomntwana omhle okanye ohlwempuzekileyo. Futhi ungayiphulaphuli impendulo. Buza ukhangele amehlo. Ukuba uqhubeka uchaza omncinane, ngoko amehlo aya kukhanya. Kwaye ekukhankanyiweyo okuphelile, kunye nokumomotheka komlomo. Umfazi omhle unjengomvuzo, njenge-limousine ebiza ...
Kwindawo yesibini, ngokwembono yabantu, yi-UM. Umfazi osweleyo ufuna kuphela abo basakholelwa ukuba uMhlaba usekelwe kwindlovu. Umfazi onobuqili, umhle ungumncedisi, unxibelelwano, umcebisi, kwaye ekugqibeleni, injini ye-pusher xa kuyimfuneko. Ingqondo enkulu yabesifazane iyabalisa abantu. Ngenxa yokuba kukho ukusola ukuba kungekudala okanye kamva umfazi okhaliphile uya kususa umyeni wakhe kwizikhundla zokuqala. Kwaye ngamadoda, ngamanye amaxesha ayamkelekanga. Ngoko ke, ukucinga ngomfazi ofanelekileyo, omnye uthatha ukuba umfazi kufanele abe ngumntu ohlakaniphile, kodwa ngokufanelekileyo kwaye akukho mcimbi onokuqonda ngaphezu kwakhe.
Umfazi ofanelekileyo ukusuka kumbono wendoda yendalo kunye nenkosikazi yendlu - ngokuqinisekileyo lo mqathango ugxininiswe kwindawo yesithathu. Apha, ngokubanzi, akukho mpikiswano, kuba nawuphi na umntu udlulisela iimbombo zikaRhulumente ngokubhekiselele kubomi, ikhitshi kunye nempahla kumfazi wakhe. Ukungabikho kwalolu buchule kwimeko yomfazi obalulekileyo kwaye kunokusongela ukuphula umtshato, ukuba awuhlawulwanga ngabanye. Ngoko ke, kunqweneleka ukuba amantombazana afunde ukupheka nokuhlamba, ukuze bangalahlekelwa ngumthandi wabo ngonyaka wokuhlala ndawonye.
Kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo ukusuka kwimbono yabantu isithuba ngokukhawuleza ukususela kwisine ukuya kweyesibhozo, kuba zonke ezinye iinkqubo ziphikisana phakathi kwabo kwaye azikwazi ukuthatha indawo ephezulu: ubulili, uxolo, ukungabi namona, ukuqonda ngesitayela.
Ubundlobongela bomfazi ngumgxeko omkhulu. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kwiminyaka yokuqala yomtshato. Ukongezelela, idibaniso efanayo kunye nendawo. Ngenxa yokuba umfazi othandanayo ungumfazi owonkcoko kumntu wonke.
Wonke umntu uphupha ngokuba nomfazi ozolile kwaye onokulinganisela njengomfazi. Ukuba kwakungekho ukukrokra, ama-hysteric kunye neengqumbo ezigqithiseleyo. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba umfazi ofanelekileyo aphathe ngenyameko yonke i-antics yomyeni wakhe nomoya wakhe ombi, ngelixa engangeni kwaye engenzi nto.
Ukungabikho komona kubonakala ngabayeni njengomcebisi, nangona bangakwazi ukunyamezela umona ofanelekileyo womfazi. Ukongezelela, ukubonakaliswa komona othile kwinxalenye yomfazi kuxhasa ukuzithanda kwamadoda.
Umqondo wesimboli ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga amadoda ayiyona nto ephambili kwaye ayikude ekunqumeni, kodwa umgangatho obalulekileyo. Umfazi ogqoke ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kwaye nangona kunjalo umfazi, ukuba akuyiyo into enyanyekayo. Oko akusiyo impendulo yokunyamezela kwabanye, kodwa kunokuba yinto enamandla ukuzithemba komyeni wakhe.
Kwakungekho ncamango yokuba umfazi, phakathi kwezinye izinto, kufuneka abe yinyaniso. Ngenxa yesizathu sokuba umfazi ongathembekanga akahambelani nomgangatho wendoda efanelekileyo kumbono wabantu, ulahlekelwa yintengo yakhe aze ayeke ukuba ngumfazi nhlobo. Ibhinqa elifundisa abantwana bam; ibhinqa elihlala kunye nami kwelinye igumbi - ngoko kubonakala kwingqondo. Oko kukuthi, nantoni na, kodwa engekho mfazi, isancinza esiphezulu.