Ngoko, ngokwaneleyo ukuba ube ngumntu okhohlakeleyo, ukhubekiswe yihlabathi lonke. Shintsha ukucinga kwakho, ingcamango, isimo sengqondo kunye nayo yonke into iya kutshintsha. Yiba ngumntu onelaneleyo, unomdla kuwe kuqala. Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka uzithande ngokwakho, zibeke zakho kwiziko lobomi bakho. Yiba nenxaxheba ekuzikhuleni, cinga ngale mibuzo elandelayo: injongo yobomi, amaphupha akho, oko ungathanda ukukwenza. Yiba nobuntu obuqinileyo. Ukuhlawula ngokufanelekileyo ukuphuhlisa kwakho ngaphakathi. Kuzo zonke izenzo zakho, kwiinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla, kufuneka kubekho umxholo oyintloko apho yonke into iguqukela. Jabulela yonke imihla, fumana i-positive kwaye ijabule kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo. Yiba yedwa. Ewe, kunjalo. Ngamnye wethu uhlukile kwaye ngamnye. Ngoko uyibonise kwihlabathi lonke!
Isinyathelo esibalulekileyo ngokubaluleka kokuphila okuhlaziyiweyo nokubhetele kuyoba yinto yokuzithemba. Khumbula ukuba xa uhlonipha ngokwakho kwaye uyayixabisa, ukuhlonipha ngakumbi uya kuphathwa ngumntu. Uthando, xhaphaza, uzwela kwaye unomusa. Kuya kubuyela kuwe.
Sondeza kubahlobo bakho, izihlobo kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Emva kwakho konke, bakuthabatha ukuba ngubani ngokwenene. Ungazivali, uxoxe ngokubanzi, uthathe inxaxheba ebomini babo, uncedise, uthethe ukuthetha. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu kweli hlabathi ufuna iimpawu kunye nezihlobo eziza kwamkela nayiphi na imeko, inkxaso, uncedo. Unokuqiniseka ukuba nayiphi na imeko, ungayibamba, kwaye baya kukunceda, unike iingcebiso. Nika iimvakalelo ezintle kunye nomoya ovuyoleyo uza kubuya kuwe kumqulu omkhulu.
Kuphela emva kwakho, intsapho yakho kunye neentsapho, unokuyinyamekela indoda ephakathi kwakho. Uya kuba mfihlelo kuye ukuba uyamthabatha isantya sothando kunye nonke unqulo kwaye ufake isithathu kumgca. Oku kuya kunika indoda ukuba ikwazi ukuba bhetele, izama ukuthatha indawo ephambili ebomini bakho. Umzabalazo, umnqweno wokukufumana ngokupheleleyo, uza kwenza ulwalamano lwakho olukhethiweyo lube lunqweneleka kwaye luyimfihlelo. Mhlawumbi, emva kwexesha, emva kweminyaka emininzi yobomi bentsapho, umntu angathatha inqanaba lesibini kwinqanaba lexabiso, kodwa kungekhona ngaphambili. Ukongezelela, ukuba umntu akayena kwindawo yokuqala kunye nomfazi, ngoko akayi kubuhlungu, uyanelisekile. Unenjongo ebomini, unomntu onokunyamekela, onokuhlala naye ngeveki, ukuhlalisana kunye nokuphumla. Gcwalisa indawo yakho yokomoya ngolwazi olutsha, uhlakulele, unomdla kwaye awusoze ugoceke nakwi-academician, uprofesa okanye umqhubi womoya.
Funda ukusekela iinjongo zobomi bakho ngaphezu kwayo yonke into. Makuqonde ukuba loo nto ukuba kwenzeka into, awuyi kuhlupheka kwaye uxhalabele malunga nokuphela kobudlelwane bakho, kwaye ukuba uya kuluma iindlovu zakhe kwihlobo lomfazi elahlekileyo. Mbonise ukuba onjengawe akayi kuhlangana. Oko kuphela owaziyo, uyazi ukwenza oko akuthandayo. Ukuba uyamxhasa, uyazi. Yiba ngumfazi wenene!