Enyanisweni, unxantathu "umfazi, umyeni, umkhwekazi" - kunzima kunabo ngokweentlalontle zentsapho. Abantu abathathu kunye nemibono emithathu eyahlukileyo kuyo yonke into nayo yonke into. Yaye ukuba umama-mkhwe nomalokazana behlala kwindlu enye, ke iingxabano ezininzi azikwazi ukunqandwa. Ngamanye amaqela ngokwenene unemfuno ehlukeneyo, iimfuno kunye nezinto eziphambili. Oku kubakhokelela ekungaqondani, iingxaki ezinzulu kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuphuka. Kunzima ukudibanisa iminqweno yawo onke amaqela amathathu kwimpikiswano. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka. Kufuneka uzame kancane.
Ekubeni utshatile, umntu ubonakale ebomini bakho ozijonga njengento ebalulekileyo njengomyeni wakho-uninazala. Uyamthanda unyana wakhe, ngoko unokukwazi ukuncintisana nawe kwiimvakalelo zakhe. Wena kule meko uvakalelwa kukuba ulahlekile kwaye utshabalalise ngokomzwelo. Nangona kuwe kwindawo yokuqala - ulwalamano nomyeni wakhe, kodwa intlalontle yakho incike ngokunyanisekileyo kubuhlobo obuhle kunye noninazala. Ukongezelela, kunzima ukuba bobabini nisabelane nothando lomntu omnye komnye. Indlela yokwenza kule meko nzima, xa umama-mkhwe nomalokazana behlala kwindlu enye? Okokuqala, kufuneka uzenzele kunye kunye nokuzama ukulawula imeko.
Uninazala unecala kakhulu kuwe
Unina womyeni wakho uzama rhoqo ukubonisa ukuba useyena mntu ubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bonyana wakhe. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu xa uhlala kwindlu enye. Amawaka emizekelo enjalo ayaziwa: uninazala uhlala "echaphazelekayo" malunga neshishini lakhe, engenazo izaziso zangaphambili, ubiza ngeyiphi na imini ...
Ukongezelela, uhlala engakuthandi. Emva koko, wena uthe, banokuthobeka kakhulu, ngoko ke, ngokuchaseneyo, baqhenqa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, unyana wakhe uya kufuneka 'ahlupheke kakhulu' kwaye 'ahlupheke' nawe. Ugxeka intlaba yakho, ukhononda malunga nezitya zokuhlamba okanye phantsi, ukhuphuka kunye neengcebiso zakhe kunye neengxelo malunga nayo yonke indlu yakho kunye nobomi bakho. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kukho ukuxabana okukhulu phakathi kwakho kwaye awukwazi ukulungisa imeko.
Yintoni onokuyenza?
1. Misela imida ecacileyo. Ukuziphatha komama-mkhwenyana kunokunyamezela iminyaka, kodwa oku akufanele kwenziwe. Ngoko ubomi bakho buya kuba buhlungu. Ukususela ekuqaleni kufuneka uchaze isakhelo esingenalo ilungelo lokuhamba nayo, ingakumbi umamazala. Amanqaku ambalwa mazise ukuba le ndawo ivalwe ukuxubusha ngabantu abathathu. Umzekelo: ukuba umamazana wakho ufuna ukuza kuwe, mazise ngaphambili. Kuyafana ukuba ufuna uncedo lwenyana wakhe (umyeni wakho) kungekudala. Ewe, asixubushe ngeemeko zongxamiseko. Umama unokutyelela iqabane lakhe, kodwa ukuvakasha kwakhe kwaziswa. Uyaqonda ukuba umyeni kufuneka ancede unina ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa oku akufanele ukuphazamise izicwangciso zakho. Isisombululo se-Compromise kule meko zilungileyo!
2. Ungesabi ukuthetha kumamazala wakho, "hayi." Ingaba ikubiza ngokuba sele uliwe? Musa ukuphazamisa emva kwe-22.00, kuba ngelo xesha, njengomthetho, sele ulala embhedeni. Ukufakela ngeendleko zakho? Cacisa ukuba kwimicimbi yezinto eziphathekayo uncike ngakumbi kwiqondo lakho elifanayo. Bonisa ubumnandi bakho ngokuthumela umyalezo obalulekileyo: "Andiyi kuvumela ukuphazamiseka okunjalo, nceda undihlonele."
3. Lawula iimvakalelo zakho. Nangona unobungozi - ungaphenduki ngokukhawuleza. Musa ukuhla ukuya kwimarike yemfazwe-ibe phezulu. Cacisa ngokucacileyo ukuba izimvo ezingathandekiyo ziya kukulimaza. Isivumelwano siya kufinyelela lula.
Uninazala uqikelela yonke into ngendlela yakhe
Ngokomkhwekazi wakhe, unembopheleleko enkulu kwizindlu kunye nokuxabana kwintsapho kwaye nguwe omele uxanduva kubo. Qonda isizathu sokugxeka kwakhe - usibona nje usongelo kuwe. Ngaba akuyikuqonda ukuba enye ibhinqa ibaluleke kakhulu kwindodana yakhe ethandekayo, imxoshe ukuba ayihlambele? Uthi nje, njengonina oomama abanothando, akafuni ukulahlekelwa ngumnxeba nomntwana wakhe. Ufuna ukuba nempembelelo phezu kwakhe, kodwa engazi indlela yokufezekisa ngayo. Ngoko ke, uphikisana nawe kuyo yonke into, uchaza imbono eyahlukileyo kwizinto ezahlukeneyo, uyaziphikisa. Uninazala kameni kunzima ukugwema umnxeba, ukutyelela okungalindelekanga, ukunika iingcebiso. Xa ekhwankqisekile, uyayicacisa kumyeni wakho ukuba nguwe owamshukumisela ukuba aphumelele kwaye wamzisa ekushiseni okumhlophe.
Yintoni onokuyenza?
1. Nika oomama ithuba. Musa ukucinga ukuba unina wakho umyeni akaxhatshazi ngenxa yakho ngenxa yokusola okungavamile kunye nokukhawuleza. Oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngaba "ufumene" ngeengcebiso zakhe ezingamkelwayo? Mhlawumbi akafuni ukubonisa ukuba awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na, uzama ngokunyanisekileyo ukunceda. Ukongezelela, lo mntu udala kunani, enamava obomi obalulekileyo, ukuze ezinye iingcebiso zakhe zibe ziyimfuneko kuwe. Musa ukukhawuleza ukungquzulwano - kuya kukulimaza ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakhe!
2. Bonisa ukuqonda kwakho . Utshatile unyana wakhe othandekayo, uninazala ukhululwe emaphikweni akhe. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuthathe ixesha ukulungelelanisa imeko entsha. Mhlawumbi uziva enesizungu, ngoko ke ukugxeka kwakhe akunalo nxamnye nawe? Xa ukhangela ukuziphatha komama-mkhwenkwe kule ndawo yokujonga, ngoko unokukwazi ukujamelana nokucatshukiswa kwakho.
3. Zama ukuvala amehlo akho kwiimpazamo ezithile . Uhlambulula uthuli kwishelufu ngomoya oqilileyo? Makhe abone ukuba nawe ungumntu - awunaso ixesha kuyo yonke indawo. Etafileni, ubeka iincwadana ezimnandi kakhulu kunyana wakhe? Ngoko kulungile, uyindodana yakhe ayithandayo. Musa ukunxulumanisa ukubaluleka kuzo zonke izinto ezincinci, ngaphandle koko unobungozi bokuzonda umkhwekazi wakho. Yiba nesihe kumyeni wakho - usebunzima. Xa ebona ukuba awuphatheli nonina, uyakuziva ekhuselekileyo kwaye ukuqonda kwakho kuya kukhula ngokukhawuleza.
4. Hlonipha kuye . Nangona kuthatha unobanda obushushu kwaye ude, zama ukuthetha nayo. Njani? Maxa wambi unokumnika into ethile - i-blouse entsha okanye isikhwama. Yaye xa upheka isobho lakhe lokuthanda ukudla, ungakulibala ukuba uthe wenzelwa umkhwekazi oyintanda. Mnike ixesha elingakumbi. Mphulaphule xa ekhononda ukuba intlungu. Ngaba umama kamama unentloko? Buza umyeni wakho ukuba enze iTV igxeke. Makhe abone ukuba uyamkhathalela unina. Eli lithuba elihle lokuba ulwalamano lwakho noninazala luya kufudumala kwaye lube ngcono.
Uninazala usoloko ephazamisa ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakhe
Ukususela kumbono womntu, indima yakhe kule nxantathu yinto engathokozisiyo. Umba wokuphila kunye noninazala kunye nentombi-mkhwenkwe kwindlu enye yinkxwabo ebuhlungu kuye. Bobabini abafazi bayamthanda kwaye bayathandwa nguye. Bobabini balindela ukuba unako. Xa kuziwa ukuphikisana, kuyava kunzima kwaye kukhishwe ngaphakathi. Kumele akhethe phakathi komfazi wakhe nomama, ngamnye ofuna ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka kuye. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abanako ukukhetha, umisa isikhundla esipheleleyo kwaye akafuni ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimpikiswano. Zibeke endaweni yakhe. Uya kuqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuye. Kodwa umama wakho makangenelele wakho - ungaze ucinge ngako. Lo mngcipheko wangempela! Kuthiwani ukuba uyaqhubeka ephula "iinqwelo" kunye nokunyuka kunye nokuhlolwa kwakhe kunye neengcebiso? Apha kufuneka usebenze ngokubanzi.
Yintoni onokuyenza?
1. Hlonipha kwaye uthethe ngokucacileyo kumyeni wakho. Xoxa kunye kunye nendlela yokugcina uxhulumano kwintsapho yakho. Kubalulekile ukuba uyaqonda ukuba kutheni kufuneka akuxhase. Masithi, ngokucacileyo: "Ngaphandle kwakho andinakukwazi ukulawula. Ukusebenza yedwa, ngaphandle kwexhaswa yakho, ndiyakwazi ukuphucula ingxabano kuphela. Kodwa unyoko unomdla kakhulu kulwalamano lwethu. Simele senze okuthile malunga nayo. "
2. Yiba yinto ecacileyo. Ngaba ufuna ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe avelise izimvo zakhe kaninzi? Zama ukungagcini umyeni wakho ngegama eliqhelekileyo njengalokhu: "Unyoko lwakho luloyiko. Akunakwenzeka, ukuphikisana ... "Kungcono ukuthi:" Unyoko wakho uyakhathalela kakhulu. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukunakekelwa kwakhe kubonakala ngokucacileyo. Ulungile, kodwa unokwenziwa njani ukuqonda ukuba sinokuphila kwethu? "Ngaphandle koko, umyeni wakho uya kuqonda ukuhlaselwa kwakho njengesigxina sokuhlasela. Uyakukhusela ngokunyanisekileyo umama wakhe onoxhatshazwayo, oya kuphazamisa ubuhlobo phakathi kwakho kuphela.
3. Cela umyeni wakho ngcebiso. Mcele ukuba athethe nonina malunga nezigqibo zakho eziqhelekileyo. Kwaye ukuba kwakunzima kuye-bonisa ukuba uyenze ndawonye. Umzekelo, unokumema umama wakho ukuba adle isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye uthathe eli thuba ukuba umcele ukuba angaphikisani nemicimbi yakho esondeleyo. Wena, kunjalo, kufuneka ulungiselele oku kungabikho omnye okanye kwiidlo ezimbini zokudibana. Kodwa kufuneka ubekezele - umphumo uya kuba.
4. Ungaze ubeke umyeni wakho ngaphambi kokukhetha "mhlawumbi mna okanye unyoko"! Kutheni? Unokwazi ukulahlekelwa ngumyeni wakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka azi ukuba ukuphazamiseka okukhulu kunzima ukuba wamkele. Kuninzi, nangona kunjalo, kule meko, ukukholisa uxolo, kungabi ukukhala okanye uxinzelelo, kunceda.
Iingcebiso zoomama
- Ungesabi ukuba udadewabo wakho uya kuthatha uthando lwenyana yakho. Inyaniso yokuba uyayikhathalela umfazi ayithethi ukuba uyakuthanda.
- Khumbula ukuba unyana wakho nomalokazana bakho basebekhulile. Musa ukugxeka, ukuvavanya nokubeka iingcebiso kubo. Ibacaphukisa.
- Gwema ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo kunye nabasha abasha. Musa ukuziphinda ngeefowuni okanye ukuphanda ngemiba malunga neentsapho. Oku kunokubonwa ngabo njengokulawulwa ngokweqile.