Ngaba unentlungu? Ngaba ufuna ukukhulelwa? Ukungaqondani okuthe ngqo? Kukho iingxaki zokulala ngesini yonke imihla, enokuba luncedo kunoma yintoni imeko enzima. Eli nqaku libonisa iingcamango zeengcali ezifanelekileyo kwiinkalo zempilo ebusetyhini malunga neengxaki eziqhelekileyo zengxaki. Yilungele ukufunda ukutshintsha okutsha kwindibano yakho yothando.
Eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokukhulelwa.
Enyanisweni, unako ukukhulelwa kunoma yiphina indawo, kodwa kunesimo esisodwa sezesondo, apho ithuba lokukhulelwa landa kakhulu. "Lo ngu" uMfundisi "(indoda ephezulu) kunye nekhanda eliphakanyisiweyo," utsho uEmmy Levine, umqeqeshi wesini-siseko osisiseko sase-New York, umqeqeshi wesini oqinisekisiweyo wesini kunye nomsunguli we-SexEdSolutions.com.
"Ngokubeka umququ omncinci phantsi kwamatye, unokwenza indawo ephakanyisiweyo yeclavis kwaye ufezekise umlinganiselo othile we-slide," utsho. "Oku kwenza kube lula kwi-spermatozoa yakhe kumendo wabo onzima ngokusebenzisa umnqweno womlomo kunye neqanda. Ngokuqhelekileyo abasetyhini abakhetha le nto balala ngesondo imihla ngemihla bavame ukwandisa ukunyuka, njengoko isilwanyana sihlala kwisisini ngokude siqhathaniswa neengxaki "eziphezulu". "Kwakhona, ungayikhohlwa malunga ne-orgasm," watsho uAva Cadell, utitshala wesondo kunye nomsunguli weYunivesithi ye-Loveology eLos Angeles. "Ukuzonwabisa kunokunceda ukuba ukhulelwe, ingakumbi ukuba ayikude kakhulu neqonga."
Isikhundla esona sigqwesileyo sokuba umfazi azive ekhululekile embhedeni.
Mhlawumbi uziva ungakhuselekanga embhedeni kwaye ufuna ukufunda amaqhinga anokukuvumela ukuba uzive ukhululekile kwaye ulungele ukulawula imeko? Ukuba kunjalo, uDebbie Herbenick, Ph.D., umbhali wesigxina sesini sabafazi ukufezekisa ukonwaba kunye nokwaneliseka, "Kutheni uvakalelwa kukuba," unento enokukunika yona. Khumbula kuphela amagama akhe amathathu kuphela: "Uhlala uphezulu". Nsuku zonke, ukuzalela ngesondo "Umgcini" uya kukuvumela ukuba ulunge kakuhle ukuhamba kwaye ufumane ukuzithemba, "utshilo. "Qinisekisa ukuba yonke into yenzeka njengoko wena kwaye wayefuna. Unako ukuma emadolweni okanye kwi-squat, ujika kumntu olingane naye okanye uphenduke. Into ephambili kukuba yena kwaye kufuneka uzonwabe. "
Eyona ndlela ihamba phambili yokuzonwabisa kwintombi.
"Mantombazana, ngaba ulungele ukufunda ngale nto?" Ngoku ke uDkt. Herbenic uza kukunikezela kwizinto ezinqabileyo ongazange uzive ngayo! Le nqubo ibizwa ngokuba ulungelelaniso lwentsebenziswano. "Uluhlu lwe" umthunywa wevangeli "ngesinye sezikhundla ezincinane zesini ezazibonakalise ukuba zingabonakalisa i-orgasmic," kusho uDebbie. "Iqabane likhuthaze phambili ukuze amahlombe akhe abuye akho. Imimandla ye-pelvic ayifanele idibanise kakhulu ngokukrakra kakuhle. Esi sikhundla sikuvumela ukuba uthuthukise i-clitoris, eyenza kube lula kubasetyhini ukufezekisa ukwaneliseka ngokwesini kunye ne-realgasm. "
Eyona ndlela ihamba phambili yokulala ngesini eside
Xa inkwenkwe yakho i-ejaculation yexesha elide, kufuneka usebenzise uhlobo oluthile lwesenzo, kwaye kuqala uzame ukutshintsha isikhundla sakho sezesondo. Ngokweziphakamiso zikaLevi, isikhundla sokuba "umthunywa wevangeli" (indoda evela phezulu) kwaye apha kunokukunceda ukugcina ixesha elimangalisayo, ukwandisa umonde wesini somlingani. "Ukubambisana ngesondo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu unenkathazo kumgama," utshilo. "Xa ephezulu, kulula ukulawula ukuvuswa kwesondo: yeka uze uphinde uphinde uqhube." Ukuba ufuna ukungafani, sebenzisa icebiso likaCadell. "Isikhundla se" Fox "sisininzi" sevangeli ", kodwa ngeemilenze eziphakanyisiweyo, apho unxiba intanda yakho entanyeni. Ukungena kuphezulu kunzulu kwaye lo mfazi uzaliswe nomzimba womntu ukuya kwi-brim. Iqabane lakho lihamba phakathi kwakho, elikuvumela ukuba uhlale unomdla ngaphandle kokukhupha ixesha elide. "
Eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yabasetyhini abanamava ngexesha lokulala.
Uninzi lwabasetyhini alunzima ukujamelana neentlungu xa i-coitus. Nangona kunjalo, qwalasela iingcebiso ezinobulumko ezinokukunceda kule meko. Mhlawumbi nje ukungabikho kwendalo yokucoca, ngoko ke ukusetyenziswa kwezixhobo ezikhethiweyo emanzini akusayi kubakho. Ukuba intlungu iqhubeka, kubalulekile ukuba wena, usebenzise ngokwemfuziselo, gcina izandla zakho ezandleni zakho. Yingakho uDkt. Herbenik kunye nezinye iingcaphephe zincoma indawo "yeRider" yabasetyhini abaneentlungu zesini, oko kwenza ukuba bakwazi ukulala ngesimo esifanelekileyo somfazi.
Eyona nto ifanelekileyo ne-"giant" yesondo esikhulu
Ukuba uthanda ukumemeza ngaphezulu ngokuzonwabisa kunokuba ube nentlungu, iqhinga elilandelayo lilandelayo kuwe. UDebbie Herbenik uthi: "Umfana ophethe ipenisi enkulu uhlangothini lwakhe, kwaye uhamba ngeempembelelo kuye, unika imilenze yakho inkululeko yokulala," kuchaza uDebbie Herbenik. "Oku kuvumela umfazi ukuba avimbele inkqubela ye trunk yakhe ukunciphisa ukuphakama kweengxabano. Ukongezelela, ukugubungela izibilini, okulungele ukuvelisa kwesi sikhundla, kulula ukukhokelela ekuveleleni okukhulu "kokungena emnyango". Ngokomqeqeshi wezocansi u-Levine, oomama abalingani bezesondo bahluke ngobukhulu bomzimba bobunzima bokuzala, njengolu hlobo "olufana nomnqamlezo." "Bangakwazi ukulawula ubunzulu bokungena kunye nokuzonwabisa ngesondo ngaphandle kwentlungu kunye" nokudibanisa "i-penis kumngcingo wesibeleko ngexesha lokunyanzeliswa kunobundlobongela."
Eyona ndlela ihamba phambili kuyo yonke imihla ngesondo kunye nomlingane "omncinci".
Zonke iingcali ziyavuma ukuba ubukhulu bepenisi abubalulekanga kakhulu ukuze kufumaneke ukwaneliseka ngokubanzi. Iimpawu zomntu ngamnye zomzimba womlingane zilungiswa ngokukhawuleza ngesithuba esikhethwe ngokwesini ngokufanelekileyo. Iingcali zezocansi zincoma kulo mzekelo, yonke into efanayo "umgibeli". U-Emmy Livain uchaza ukuba kwimeko engaphezulu yowesifazane ukuba anelise ngokwaneleyo ukujikeleza isitya esisecaleni. Kule meko, amathuba okuba i-penis encinci esuka kumfazi isincinci. "Kwakhona, indawo" yezithunywa zevangeli "kunye nemilenze ephonswe phezu kwamagxa omlingane. Oku kuya kumvumela ukuba angene ngaphakathi kuwe ngokunzulu kunokwenzeka ukuba ubude balo bukhulu "bukhulu" bakhe.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ezi ngcebiso ziya kuba luncedo kubasetyhini benyama kunye nabalingani babo abanobudlelwane abazama ukusebenzisana ukuze bafezekise ngokuvisisana ngesondo.