Umfazi oqinileyo kunye nendoda ebuthakathaka yi-farce okanye i-perversion "
"Udinga ukutshintsha ukudibana nomntu wakho." Kwaye ukuba ndifuni ukutshintsha mna? - uthela umphefumlo kaJan, umqeshwa oneminyaka engama-36 ubudala we-firm audit, oxakeke ngokufuna umyeni wakhe. - Kutheni nje umncinci - ngokukhawuleza utshintshe ngokwakho? Ndiyathanda. Akunjalo kuphela kum, kodwa nakumqeshi, abathengi kunye namantombazana. Kwaye nakwezinye izinja zabantu. Ndilungile. Kwaye ndifuna encinane kumntu! Andiyidingi nabani na ukutya, akukho mcebisi, akukho inkxaso, akukho simboli yesini. Kodwa yindoda eneminyaka ephakathi-kuphela ephendulayo ehlakaniphile neyengqondo. Ngomfanekiso ohloniphekileyo. Ndinemivuzo emihle. Ndiyakwazi ukuyicombulula iingxaki zam kwaye andiyi kuphinda ndiphosakele ndedwa. Ndingumpheki omuhle, ndisusa umgcini wendlu endlwini. Ndifuna ubuqotho kubuhlobo. Ukuze ungaqambi amanga kumyeni wakhe, ukuba usekhaya, ukuba ndifumana ngaphezulu kwaye ndinomntu onamandla. Ukuba ungabi sisidenge ngenxa yokuzithemba kwakhe! Kwaye unganikeli naluphi na uphawu olumnandi olumfusa kwi-apron kunye ne-vacuum cleaner! Umyeni wam uye wafana nale minyaka elishumi - ikhaya, akukho ndawo esebenzayo, i-hysterical kunye nomona. Ngaphandle kwezicathulo zeendwendwe ngenxa yomona akazange abhale - kwaye njalo bonke oogxa kunye namantombazana abo baqhuma. Bungela, kutheni ndichitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo ngaphandle kwekhaya. Ukuphendula ngothando - sulked. Ngethuba lelanga engazange adle, ngenxa yokuba wayecaphukile, kwaye ebusuku ubhaqa ngasese kwifriji, njengoLokhankin kwincwadi ethi "Igolide leNkunzi"! Akunjalo, umfazi oqinileyo kunye nomntu obuthathaka obuncinci, mhlawumbi i-farce okanye i-perversion ecocekileyo. Ndanele kunye nam! Sasihleli e-cafe emlanjeni, sitshisa kwinqanaba lobudenge ngo-Apreli ntambama, sithatha i-cocktail ngotshani kwaye sicinga ngamadoda. Sasinomdla ongaqhelekanga ukuba ukuba u-Yana wayehlwempuzekile, engonwabile, ephazamiseka ngonaphakade, engabonakaliyo kwiimpawu ezingapheliyo kwaye enqatshelwe ingqondo yentombazana, kuya kuba lula ukuba atshade; okokuqala, loo mfuno iya kuba yinto encinane, okwesibini , kwakuya kubakho isihlwele samadoda abafuna ukuzisola, afudumele kwaye agxininise ubuhle obunqwenelekayo ukuziva ufuphi oluqinileyo kunye noluncedo. Sibheke kubo bonke abahlobo bethu abasemtshatweni ophumelelayo, bonke abantu abaqhelekileyo baka-Yana, bamenzele ikhathalogu encinane yokunyulwa kwamadoda - kwaye bafumanisa izinto ezimangalisayo thina kunye nathi esinokubelana ngazo.
Ukutshata indoda
Impumelelo - nantoni na, ubuncinane kwimibutho yama-mushroom okanye kwi-hang-gliding, kwi-floristry, kwimihlaba yehlathi okanye ishishini lomshuwalense. Impumelelo - oku kuluphawu lendoda ephakamileyo ephezulu: unako! Ngaloo mntu uhlala ekwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo: unemikhankana encinane entloko yakhe kwaye akanakukhathaza ngomona wakhe. Kodwa kunjalo: kuvela, kuphumelele - kungekhona isisityebi. Uphi imali evela kwiqhawe laseYurophu ekulobeni kweqhwa? Uchitha wonke umvuzo wakhe kwiingqungquthela kunye nakwiikiti zomoya. Kwaye uMtyholi kunye nabo, ngemali yakhe, wenza imali yokukhetha amadoda owafunayo-ngenxa yengqondo yakho nobumnandi, kungekhona kwesikhwama sakho. Kuthiwani ngabalahleki? Asifanele sikhathazeke ngale ngxaki. Vumela amantombazana abancinci asebenze ukungaphumeleli kwabantu abaneminyaka eliphakathi kunye nabangaphezulu - baneminyaka emininzi ehambayo kwindawo egcinwe kuyo, banethuba elaneleyo lokunyamekela, bazala abantwana, kwaye babhalisele ukuqeqeshwa kobuqu kunye naye, baze bahambe naye ukuba akukho nto iya kunceda. Kwaye iwashi yakho ye-biological ithimba-yithuba lokukhawuleza kwaye ungaphuthelwa. "I-Gebe ayikwazi ukuchitha ixesha ngaphandle.
Isilumko asiyithathi indoda, nokuba uyintando emhle nomntu onomusa
Emva kokuba intombazana encomekayo yathi kuBernard Shaw: "Ziziphi izinto ezintle abantwana abaza kuzalwa kuthi: ubuhle-kum, engqondweni yam - kuwe." Umlobi omkhulu wamisa waza wathi: "Ukuba ngaba kuvela ngokuchaseneyo? .." Kuqhelekileyo ukuba amadoda abele abantwana. Kuhle ukuba umntwana wakho engena engqondweni yakho. Kwaye xa-kupapa? ..
Musa ukuchitha ixesha kubaqhubi kunye nabadwebi
Awufanelanga umntu osemagqabini aphantsi kwinqanaba lezentlalo - umqhubi, umsebenzi wokwakha, ukhuseleko okanye iplumberhi. Kuyinto yesiko ukuthetha ukuba ulwaphulo-mzwelo-ukuqonda, ukukwazi ukubona izinto ezintle, umnqweno wokufunda izinto ezintsha kwaye ujabule-akuxhomekeke kwizakhono nakwimeko yezenhlalakahle, kwaye ukuzifunda ngokwakho kunokuthatha indawo yemfundo. Asikholelwa! Ewe, asizange sibone naluphi na ulondolozo olukhuselekileyo kunye nolwazi oluzimeleyo kwi-supermarket. Kwaye umakhi wokwakha - naye. Ngaphambili. Kwezibini. Umdwebi - akukho. Kuba ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntu onobuchule ovelele ufundela, ngokukhawuleza ukhuphuka amanyathelo ambalwa aze afunde.
Ukuhambelana naluphi na umgangatho wokomoya
Lo ngumntu ohlala esecaleni kwethu, kunye nesiqingatha kwilizwe lakhe elincomekayo le-cosmic okanye amandla. Ufuna ebomini isitya selayisi, umbhoxo wokucamngca, iqela labantu abafanayo, ngamanye amaxesha isihlwele sabafundi abanomdla. Ewe, imali iyadingeka kuye. Kodwa akabonanga sizathu sokubamba "njengenye ingqondo" kunye nomfazi othandekayo kumntu oza kufumana inkazimulo yokuzalisa i-akhawunti yebhanki. Unolunye uphambili - uyaziphucula kwaye uyaziqonda iimfihlelo zehlabathi. Mkhuphe u-zalchik - uya kubuthela amaqabane akhe, ammisele indlu ngaphandle kwesixeko - uya kuvula isikolo sakhe. Akakhathalele ukuba wawuphi emva komsebenzi. Utshintshile kwaye uhle kakhulu. Uya kuza kuye, kwihlabathi lakhe, ukutyelela-ukutya kokomoya. Ukuba awuqwalasele ukunxibelelana nemimoya yokhokho kunye nokutya kwamandla e-cosmic isibonakaliso se-schizophrenia ecebileyo - uhamba endleleni. Uya kufuneka ube nesabelo esinyanisekileyo kwinxalenye yeembono zakhe - kholelwa ekutshintsheni kwemiphefumlo okanye kwimeko yokuba ephusheni sitshintsha ihlabathi elikujikelezile. Unempilweni, uhlekisayo, ulungelelaniso kwaye awuyikratshi. Kwaye, njengomthetho, uthembela njengomntwana. Ukuba uphelelwe ngumona womlingani owedlule, umphefumlo wakho nomzimba wakho kwiinkampani ezizimeleyo ziya kuphumla - akayi kulandela lakho isinyathelo ngasinye. Ukuba uthanda ukuzibamba, akayi kukubona, ade adibanise nomthandi wakho embhedeni wakho phantsi kweengubo enye. Kwenzeka kakhulu kunzima, ixesha elide lichaza iingcamango zalo. Ukhokela indlela engaqhelekanga yobomi - ngamanye amaxesha akalala ebusweni aze adle kuphela emva kokushona kwelanga, kungekho rhoqo. Ixesha lexesha liyala ukulala ngesondo. Ngexesha elide kufuna ukuba uhlanganyele kunye nemikhwa yakhe engathandekiyo - umzekelo, uyenze i-yoga kunye naye ngentambama. Ngamanye amaxesha ubukhulu bezakhono buzungezwe ngabalandeli-karma eyoyikisayo yabo bonke abacebisi abaphumelelayo, kwaye unomona ngabo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukunxibelelana naye kudinga kuwe ukungaqondakali, ukuze ungahambi naye kwihlabathi leengcinga zakhe, kodwa ukuhlala ebomini nasemsebenzini.
Sosayensi
Ummeli wesimo semfundo yinkwenkwe efanelekileyo kumfazi oshishino. Udibanisa ubuchule be-adept (uhlala kwilizwe lakhe elithakazelisayo, apho umntu angaza kutyelela khona, kodwa ungathandabuzi ngaphantsi) kunye neengcali (unomntu onamandla oqinileyo, kodwa unokwakheka kwengqondo). Umlobi weNgesi u-Agatha Christie wayetshatile kumntu okhuseleyo wempi. Wayengumzekelo "oyinyaniso" wendoda: uhleka, iqhawe, umlindi, umkhuseli, ulungele ukuxabisa nokuxhasa umfazi wakhe omncinci. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa umfazi wakhe waqala ukufumana imali ngokubhala, waqala ukuzihlukanisa naye, kwaye xa udumo lwakhe lwafika kuye, waqala inkosikazi-into elula kwaye yincinci, waza waya kuye. U-Agatha Christie wayenenkxalabo enkulu kwaye ingqungquthela encinci ayizange ivele kubuhlungu. Baqhawule umtshato. Umyeni wakhe wesibini wayengumdala we-archeologist, owaziwayo kwiingcongolo ezincinci. Wavuya kwimpumelelo yomfazi wakhe, kwaye iincwadi zakhe zamenza umxhwele. Wafakela uthando lwakhe lwaseMpuma aze ahambe eYiputa. Kwaye bahlala ndawonye ubomi obude obude. Awuyikunyanzelisa indlela yakho yobomi, abahlobo bakho kunye namantombazana, kwaye uyamkela ihlabathi lakhe. Inomdla kunye naye. Unokuthenjwa. Kwaye akanakuze atshintshe - kuba uyaziqinisekisa ngenye indlela, kungekhona ngesondo. Ithetha ukuhamba kwilizwe lakho, kwaye ayiyi kukhwaza. Ngokuqhelekileyo akanamdla kwizinto eziphathekayo, ngamanye amaxesha ahlakazekile. Ngokomzekelo, ubuya kwi-seminar yesayensi ngaphandle kwesahlwayo - uyalilibala esitimeleni kwaye akazange aqaphele, kuba zonke izinto zangasese kunye nezixhobo zokugcina iimpahla kunye neesokisi zibekwe kwibhegi yekhompyutha. Kwaye wayenele. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, umtyholi kunye naye, kunye ne-suitcase - siya kuthenga ezinye iingubo kunye nezinye iisuthi.
Indoda incinci kunani (iminyaka engaphezu kweyisixhenxe)
Siyasetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo xa sibonelela isibini esithile apho engaselula kwaye esityebi, kodwa usemncinci kwaye uhluphekile. Kwaye sikholelwa ukuba ungumzingeli ngemali okanye unyana oye wafumana unina. Ukutshitshisa amaqhinga: umfazi omdala kakhulu kunokuba uhlale esithandana nendoda eselula - ehlakaniphile, enxanxileyo, engathandekanga kwimbono yoluntu kunye nokuvuthwa kakhulu kunokuba bekufanele kube yiminyaka. Ngama-25, uvakalelwa njengomntu oneminyaka engamashumi amane ubudala kwaye utshata naloo mfazi ohambelanayo nengqondo yakhe yengqondo, kungekhona iminyaka yepaspoti. Akanomdla kwiindawo zokuzibandakanya. Awukwazi ukuthetha ukuba la madoda alala phantsi kwinqanaba leendlela. Kodwa zikhona kwaye ezinye zifumana. Ngokomzekelo, umyeni kaDemi Moore, umlingisi uAshton Kutcher, uneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu kunomncinane kuye. Uyazijonga ngokubhekisele ebomini kwaye uyavumelana ngokupheleleyo naye. Ibhinqa elizenza ngathi liyamthanda intombazana kufuneka lijonge nje ukulungiswa kakuhle, kodwa liyi-stylish and effective. Akamele abonakale njengentombazana aze aphikise isisu sakhe esiswini. Ubonakala bakhe bufanele bube bukhangele kwaye buhambelane nesimo sakhe kunye nehlabathi elithe tye. Ngaphandle koko, loo mfana akayi kusabela kuyo. Unempilweni, unamandla kwaye unomdla. Ivelisa amandla amancinci kwaye iqhube kubudlelwane. Ukukhulelwa kuye intombazana "ye-35" kulula kunokuba ivela kwontanga, - kuba ukuzala kwabantu abaneminyaka yobudala kunciphisa. Ukunyanzeliswa kwengqondo kwabanye: abaninzi baya kuqikelela ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luya kutshabalalisa. Musa ukuguqula abantu abanomona. Ukuba umda wobudala ungaphantsi kweminyaka elineshumi elinesihlanu, unokungahoywa. Ngokomlinganiselo weminyaka ngo-20 kubalwa kwiminyaka emihlanu-eyisixhenxe yobomi obudibeneyo. Ewe, siphila ixesha elide, ubomi bethu bunamalungu ahlukeneyo, kwiintando ezininzi kunye neentlanganiso ezininzi-kutheni ungabhali encwadini yexesha lakho elivuyisayo malunga nendlela ohlala ngayo nale nsizwa kunye nendlela othandana ngayo?
ZoLwazi
Ikhetho liqhelekileyo kwaye lilungele - umntu othanda umsebenzi wakhe: ugqirha, umprogram, igqwetha. Nge-25, u-Andrei wayenentloko yeenwele ezintle - iinwele ezingaphantsi kwamagxa akhe, ekhanyayo amehlo kunye nephupha - ukufundisa abantwana imathematika. Kwimbongo engamashumi amane kunye neSolomon eneenqwelomoya, ubuqhetseba buqhekeza emva kwemibukiso kunye nesithuba somlawuli wesikolo sikarhulumente. Wenqwenela ukuqhuba i-lyceum yangasese - akafuni ukuxhomekeke kwimali yabanye abantu, kulula ukuba ahambe kunye nombuso. Ungutitshala ovela kuThixo kunye ne-bessrebrenik. Kwaye ukuba kuye ngokungekho mntu uya kuhlawula nayiphi na into, uya kukhwela "kwesi sikolo ukuba afundise aba bathengi." Kodwa uhlala ehlawulwa ngenxa yobungcali bakhe. Wayetshatile kwintombazana yaseMoscow, apho kuye isiqingatha sonyaka kunye nenkanuko yodemoni yaxosha imali yohambo lwabafundi baseMoscow - abaphumeleleyo be-Olympiad ngesiRashiya. Bahlala njani? Yaye uyazi-kuhle! Kanye njengomhlobo wakhe, igqwetha, ukwabelana nendawo yokukhusela kunye nodokotela ogqirha. Naliphi na umntu onomdla kwi shishini lakhe, ukuba ngubani obaluleke kakhulu, lilungu elifanelekileyo kumfazi ozimeleyo kunye ozimeleyo. Usebenza naye kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo, uyaphumelela kwishishini lakhe, kwaye awukhangi omnye nomnye. Unomntu wangempela endlwini. Ngobunzima bezakhono zobungcali ezigqithisileyo zorhwebo -hayimfuneko, kunye ne talente kangaka thanda ibhiziniselwano lakho, ukuba ungahambi apho kunenzuzo ngakumbi kwaye uphumelele impumelelo naphi na ukuthanda kuyo. Ziyomelele kwaye zilungile kwizesondo. Yaye unokuthembela kubo. Kwenzeka ukuba namhlanje konke kulungile kunye nawe kwaye umsebenzi utshisa ezandleni zakho, nangomso - akukho msebenzi, okanye impilo. Umqeqeshi uya kuhlala ehlala nawe kwaye akukhuphe ngaphandle kokuphuma. Ibhizinisi kuye kubaluleke ngaphezu kwakho. Usemakhaya encinci kwaye akahlali ixesha elide, ufuna ukunyamekela ngokufanelekileyo: ukuba kuyimfuneko ukumthelekisa nabanye abantu abafumana ininzi kwaye bawanzela ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye baguqule ekuphindiseni umvuzo omncinane, uya kuhamba kwenye okanye aphule kwaye abe yinto yakho yobusuku, exhomekeke kuwe nwabanga.