Ngako oko, kuhlala nje ukunyanzelisa! Nangona wonke umntu uyazi kakuhle ukuba umanyano owenziwe phantsi koxinzelelo awuthembekanga kwaye uya kulahlwa. Ngenxa yoko, amadoda aqala ukusela, ezama ukwenjenjalo ekhaya ekhaya into eyintloko kwaye ayikhohlwe. Kwaye abanye abafazi bayaphutha xa becinga ukuba ngokumdibanisa nomtshato, uya kuhlala naye. Amanye amabhinqa alungele ukuya kuyo nayiphi na inyoka, ukuze atshade. Makhe siwaqwalasele ngokubanzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye umfazi unesizathu sakhe somntu esifanelekileyo sokutshata. Ngoko ungamphoqa umntu ukuba atshate?
Indlela yenombolo 1. Ukuhlaselwa kwezizalwane kunye nabanye. Akukacaci ukuba zeziphumo ziza kuba njani, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ngubani na owenzayo. Kukholelwa ukuba umfazi ugxininisa kwindoda, uthetha amabinzana anjengokuthi "unokuba ungakanani, sihlala kunye kunye, kwaye awuyi kutshata". Ukuze unyanzele indoda ukuba yitshatile, ayithandanga kuphela izalamane, kodwa nazo ziyazi. Kodwa ukuba uyayiqonda, le ndawo, mhlawumbi, icinezela ngengqondo kumfazi kwaye umkhuthaza ukuba ashade.
Ukusuka ngaphandle kubonakala, kutyhafaza, kuba kwixesha lethu ubudlelwane abahlali befuna ukugqiba umtshato. Oku kufanele kube sisigqibo sabo. Kwaye iingxaki ziqala xa kukho ukungavumelani ngoku. Abantu abathwala izihlobo zabo ngokugqithiseleyo bayathinteka kakhulu ngempembelelo yabo, kwaye olu xinzelelo luyinkatha yokwenene. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuphulaphula, kodwa amanani athi imitshato emininzi yenziwa emva kwemvume yabazali kunye nentando yabo. Apha kukho ukulandelelana kweketoni: abafazi basekuhlaleni banomxinzelelo kuye, kwaye ngoko ngokukhethiweyo wakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuphoqa umntu ukuba atshade, zama kuqala ukuba wenze izihlobo kunye nezihlobo zakhe.
Indlela yenombolo 2. Ukukhulelwa okanye ndiza kuthetha "inkcazo" yokufumana indoda ukutshata. Ewe, apha nangaphandle kwamagama kuyacaca. Ukuba unomnqweno ngoncedo lomntwana ukubopha amadoda ezandleni nasezinyaweni, ke ungalindelanga. Musa nje ukulibala ukuba amanye amadoda ahlakaniphile kwaye uzame ukubeka esweni iinyathelo zawo. Bayazi kakuhle oko bafuna kuwe. Le ndlela isetyenziswe ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunye nempumelelo enkulu, xa kufuneka ufune umyeni ukuba atshade. Ngamanye amaxesha nabafazi abasemthethweni, abayeni babo ngenxa yesizathu esithile abafuni ukuba nabantwana, sebenzisa le ndlela ukuze bamanyanise umyeni kwiingalo nasemilenzeni.
Kodwa abanye abantu banenkxalabo malunga nokukhulelwa komzimba baze bathenge iikhondom ngokwabo, bagcine kwi-wallet yabo, kwaye emva kokusetyenziswa bahlanganiswe kwiqhina elwandle kwaye baphoswe ngaphandle ukuze bangasetyenziselwa iindlela ezahlukeneyo. Njengoko imbali iyasitshela, ezi zihlandlo zidla kakhulu. Ngelishwa, okwangoku akukho zindlela zokubaleka kwixanduva lokumiselwa komntu, ukuba uvavanyo lofuzo lubonisa ubungqina bakhe.
Indlela yenombolo 3. Isivumelwano okanye nje umcimbi. Ngolu khetho, akukho mlingane unalindelo okanye izinto ezidakisayo. Le ndlela yindlela elula yokufumana indoda ukutshata. Yonke into ifana nabantu abashishino abaqhelekileyo. Unika ..., kwaye indoda inxalenye yakhe yenza isigqibo somtshato osemthethweni kunye nawe. Yonke into ilula kakhulu. Kule meko, iinjongo kunye neminqweno yamabini maqela kufuneka icaciswe kwaye icaciswe. Iingxaki ziyakubonakala kuphela xa ufuna okungaphezulu kunokuba kuchazwe "kwisivumelwano". Umzekelo, xa ungathembekanga ngethemba lokuba emva komtshato, uya kuthandana nawe, uya kubandakanya, njl. Kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo iinjongo zakho malunga nekamva lakho. Ngoko ke kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba ungadli ithemba elingenanto.
Kodwa ukhetho lokugqibela lusekho, ngoko cinga kakuhle malunga noko kuya kukuzisa ekugqibeleni!