Ngokomlando, indoda iyomelele emzimbeni, kwaye ngezinye izihlandlo ngokuziphatha kwethu, abameli be-so-called sex weak. Ngoko ke, imithetho yokuziphatha kunye nokunyanzelisa uxanduva olufanelekileyo kwiimigxa ezinamandla zamadoda ethu. Ngokuqhelekileyo abaxinzeli uxinzelelo nje kuphela kwiziseko ezisekelweyo, kodwa nakwabantwana, abantombazana abangenakukhuseleka. Kunzima ukuhlala uhlala usesandleni sakho, uhlakulela i-whims yomthandi. Konke oku kunye nokunye okuninzi kunokuba yimbangela yokugxekwa.
Esi sisisombululo esilula, esingenangqiqo nesingenangqiqo kwingxaki. Indoda igxeka, ichithe ingxaki yakhe kumlingane. Kwaye kaninzi akayi kucinga ngemiphumo yegama lakhe elibonakala lingenabulungisa. Indoda yakho inokuqala ukugxekisa ukubonakala kwakho. Ewe, nangona kungenangqondo ukuba kuve, amaxesha amaninzi amantombazana agxekwa ngumfana wakhe. Ndicinga ukuba lo mbuzo obaluleke kakhulu kukuphuhlisa ubuntu bentombazana kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane balo mbhangqwana ngokupheleleyo. Umbuzo onengqiqo uvela: kuthekani ukuba umntu osemfana ugxeke ukubonakala kwakho? Ukuqala kokuphendula, ndicinga ukuba nayiphi na umntu oqhelekileyo "unyo ngezinyo," oko kukuthi, ukugxeka impendulo.
Konke oku kukukhokelela ekuhlakeleni, ukungaqondi kakuhle, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ukutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane obukhoyo. Amantombazana, njengamaqabane aguqukayo kunye namaqhinga angakwazi ukuphazamisa imeko. Into ephambili kukuqonda nokuphelisa isizathu esibangela iqabane lakho ukuba unqwenele ukugxeka. Kubalulekile ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntu agxeke? Sombulula le ngxaki kuphela ngokuqonda umlingane wakho. Ndiyakunika iimeko ezininzi ezibangela ukuba iqabane lakho ligxeke. Masithi umfana wakho ulungile kwaye ukubonakala kwakho kukude neengcamango zakhe malunga neyona nto. Ayikho enye indlela yokuphuma, indlela yokuqonda kunye nokwamkela ukukhathazeka kwakhe ngokubonakala kwakho.
Enyanisweni, umendo wokuqala awunakwenzeka, ekubeni siphila kwinkulungwane engamashumi amabini anesihlanu, kwaye ukuzinyamekela kumantombazana anamhlanje kuye kwaba yimihla ngemihla. Ukugxeka insizwa yakho inokuchazwa kuphela kuphela ngenxa yokukhubazeka ngokomzimba. Kodwa akukho nto enokuyenza malunga nayo: nokuba le nsizwa iyakuthanda kwaye iyamkela into ayiyo, okanye ayi ... Masithi ungowamanye amaqela angacwangciswanga, ngokuqinisekileyo unesimboli esingaqhelekanga. Kukho inokwenzeka ukuba intsha yakho ihlazekile ngokugqithiseleyo umntu wakho kwisitalato nakwezinye iindawo zoluntu. Ndiyicinga, apha uyaqonda ukuba kutheni unomnqweno wokugxeka? Unokuzama ukutshintsha isicatshulwa sakho, ukususa iinkcukacha ezininzi ezintle.
Kuxhaphake ngakumbi xa umfana ehlaziya ukubonakala kwakho, engaqapheli ukuba izizathu zangempela azikho ngenxa yembonakalo yakho, kodwa ukunyaniseka kwakhe. Ngoku ndiyazama ukuchaza. Ndicinga ukuba akusiyo imfihlo yokuba ukukhuseleka okulungileyo kukuhlaselwa. Oku kudla ngokufumaneka ekuqaleni kokuthandana, ngakumbi ukuba loo mfana akaqinisekanga kuye. Ukuzama ukugxeka ukubukeka, okokuqala kukubangela ukuba ungathandabuzeki ubuchule bakho, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo yendalo, ukubonakala kwakho kukwazi ukulungelelanisa. Apha, ngokuqinisekileyo, unokumbuza umfana wakho ukuba angayigxeki imbonakalo yakho, achaze ukuba wena kunye nommandla wakho ungacingi njalo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kufuneka ufunde ukuthetha nomlingane wakho, xubusha kwaye usombulule iingxaki zakho. Iziganeko zokuxabana zingabinzima. Kodwa emva koko, ubudlelwane obugcwele kufuneka ulwa. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo, eneneni, ukuba amaqabane omabili azama ukuwagcina.
Kwaye ukugxeka, ndiyakholwa, kwisigaba sokuqala sikhona kuzo zonke izibini, ezi ziindleko zobudlelwane obungasondelwanga. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukuguqa, ukulungiswa kunye nokuqonda ngokucacileyo iqabane lomgxekayo linyamalale. Akunikezi naluphi na oluncedo ekusebenzisaneni ngokugcwele, nangona kwinqanaba lokuqala lingaba luncedo ngamanye amaxesha. Ndiyathetha kuphela ngamatyala apho abalingani abangafundile ukuthetha nabo, kwaye abakwazi ukuvakalisa ngokusemthethweni amabango abo komnye nomnye. Kule nqanaba kufuneka kuqondwe kakuhle kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, into ethile ukulungelelanisa ngokwayo okanye ngokumalunga nayo nomlingane. Ukuba umfana uyakuthanda, uya kudibana nawe. Ndiqinisekile ukuba olu lamano luya kuzuza kuphela. Ndi nqwenela wonke umntu inhlanhla, kwaye ufunde ukusebenzisa ngokucokisekileyo.