Okokuqala, phendula umbuzo: uthetha ntoni kuwe? Kubani umntu akwanele - xa umntu enganiki umva wegolide ngeveki, kwaye kumntu - xa engakwazi ukuthenga i-tsholeta kumntwana wakho. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba ucinge malunga nento oyenzayo xa umntu engasebenzi kakhulu, banquma ukuba ziphakame kangakanani iimfuno zakho. Ukuba yena, umzekelo, umfundi kwaye ufumana umsebenzi wesikhathi esithile, awunalo ilungelo lokufuna kuye into engaphelelanga. Umfana uzama nzima ukuba abe nemali. Ngako oko, akufuneki ukuba enze isiphene ngokusoloko uhlambalaza umntu omncinci ukuba akanakukukhokelela kwiklabhu ebiza okanye kwindawo yokudlela. Nangona kunjalo ukuba uyayifumana encinane, le nsizwa izama ukukunika ingqalelo kwaye iyenze ibe yinto enhle. Yaye le nto ibaluleke kakhulu. Ukuzibuza ukuba wenzeni ukuba umntu akafumani ngokwaneleyo, kunokwenzeka xa kuthintela kakhulu impilo yakho kunye nemeko yezinto eziphathekayo. Ngokomzekelo, uyayifumana encinane kwaye kufuneka usebenze ukususela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku, ukuze ukondle intsapho. Okanye umfana ufumana encinci, yingakho uhlala ulambile indlala, awukwazi ukufumana nantoni na kwaye uphila ubomi obuyimpunga. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokugweba umntu, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umntu engakwazi ukufumana ngaphezulu.
Njalo khumbula ukuba izizathu zezi zinto zihluke kakhulu. Ngoko cinga kwaye uthethe ngokunyanisekileyo: kutheni umthandi wakho engakwazi ukufumana ngaphezulu?
Mhlawumbi yinto ekhethekileyo. Vumelana, ngokuba ngoku abaninzi abanomdla abakwazi ukufumana umsebenzi ohloniphekileyo emsebenzini wabo, kuba baninzi kakhulu kwaye imisebenzi ayanele. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, umntu wakho ufumene umsebenzi kwiindawo zakhe ezizodwa kwaye ngoku uyazibamba, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa indlela eya kwindlela ethile ukwenza imali. Kule meko, unamathuba amabini okukhetha: ukufumana umntu omncinane ukuba atshintshe umsebenzi wakhe okanye adibanise nale meko. Ukuba uthe wagqiba ukuba ufuna ukuphoqelela umntu ukuba atshintshe imisebenzi kuyo nayiphi na intengo, ngoko uthetha ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba yintoni oku kwenene.
Ewe, sinqwenela ukucamngca abantu abasondeleyo, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ngenxa yeso sizathu umfana akakwazi ukusebenzela umsebenzi ohlawulwa kakuhle, ngoko akayi kumphoqa. Akufanele uhlakulele ubunzima obuphantsi komntu. Kodwa, ukuba uyazi ukuba uloyiko nje ukutshintsha indawo yomsebenzi, ukuze ungenayo imali nantoni na, zigqiba isigqibo sokuba unako ukuxhasa intsapho ngelixa efuna umsebenzi omtsha. Ukuba oku kunokwenzeka kuwe, mnike ke ukhetho olunjalo. Ewe, insizwa inokungafuni, iphikisana ukuba ayifuni ukuhlala yakho ngemali yakho. Kule meko, ungamthukutheleli uze uthethe ngendlela umvuzo wakhe omncinci ongayi kukunceda ngayo. Qonda ukuba ngamazwi anjalo uhlazisa umntu kwaye umxelele ukuba akakwazi ukuphumeza nantoni na, kwaye oko akufunayo akuyimfuneko kunoma ubani. Ngoko, zama ukumchazela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba uyayixabisa kwaye uyayihlonipha umsebenzi wakhe, kodwa ucinga ukuba ngolwazi lwakhe nezakhono angayifumana ngakumbi. Yingakho umcebisa ukuba afune omnye umsebenzi apho umsebenzi wakhe uza kubaleka ngakumbi kwaye uyahlawulwa ngokuhambelana nendlela asebenza ngayo. Unokwazi ukuxhasa intsapho yakho, kuba uyazi kwaye ukholwa - iya kufumana umsebenzi ohloniphekileyo kwaye uya kuhlawula. Ngoko ungakhathazeki ngemali, kodwa kufuneka uzame ukufezekisa ngakumbi ebomini, kuba ufanelwe.
Kodwa, kunokunye ukhetho, kutheni insizwa ifumana incinci. Kwaye izizathu eziphambili zezi zibuvila kunye nokungabikho kwamanyathelo. Kule meko, loo mntu akayikhathaleli apho isebenza khona kwaye unokufumana phi. Uvele nje ufumene umsebenzi othile, kuba kufuneka ukuba, kwaye ufumana imali ehlawulwayo, engafuni ukukhangela kwakhona, ukucinga malunga nendlela yokwenza ubomi bakho bube bhetele, kwaye usebenze-ngaphezulu ukuhlawulwa. Ngolu hlobo lwabantu kunzima kakhulu ukulwa kunye nento yokubabonisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, baninzi, banelisekile ubomi babo kwaye abafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na. Bangakwazi ukuhamba ngeejane ezixhatshazelekileyo kunye nokulambela indlala, nje ukuba ningenzi nto kwaye ningabandezeli. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntu onjalo unokwenzeka kuphela xa ucofa kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kwi-psyche yakhe. Ngoko ke, unokumkholisa ukuba afune umsebenzi ohlawulelwayo kangcono xa athe akuthanda kwaye uyakuxabisa. Nguwe kuphela onokuyisebenzisa, kinda. Tshela umfana owamthanda naye naye, kodwa awukwazi ukuhlala kwisiqingatha-indlala, ngoko umcela ukuba athathe isimo sengqondo esilungele ukusebenza kunye nomvuzo. Ukuba akafuni ukwenza nto kwaye ngandlela-thile utshintshe ubomi bakhe, awukwazi ukuba naye. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba ufuna ukufumana ubutyebi obungenakubalwa, kodwa ucinga ntoni ngekamva, malunga nosapho, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuhlawula yonke into ngokwakho. Ngoko ke, ukuba akayi kuthatha intloko yakhe, ngoko uya kufuneka uyingxenye.
Kukho nabo bafana abangafumani ngokwaneleyo, kuba bayazi ukuba, ukuba kuyimfuneko, yena ngokwakhe uya kuhlawula zonke iindleko. Ukuba ufundise umfana wakho kule ndlela yokuphila, yeka kude kube sekude. Ngaphandle koko, akasoze asebenze ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uya kuphila nje ngeendleko zakho, ngokuqinisekileyo engayithobeli ingqalelo into yokuba uchithekile emsebenzini. Ngoko ke, ukuba kubini le meko, yima ukumnika imali kwaye uchaze ukuba kutheni ukwenza oku.
Kule meko, le ndoda iya kuthatha ikhanda layo kwaye iqalise ukusebenza ngokuqhelekileyo, okanye uya kulwahlula, kwaye uya kukhangela elinye ibhinqa elingamxhasa. Kukho nawuphi na, uya kuhlala uphumelele nje, njengakuphi na intsapho, umfazi akufanele athathe iimbopheleleko zabasetyhini kunye namadoda.