Xa intombazana iqala ukutyelela iingcamango zomtshato, ngoko ke kuzo zonke iimpawu ezifunekayo ukuba umyeni ozayo, unokubiza ngokuphana. Kwaye oku kuyinyaniso, kuba imitshato emininzi iyaphuka, ukuba phakathi kwezinto ezibangela ukuxabana ngokukrakra kwindoda, umbono we-psychologist kule nkalo i-peremptory.
Ingcamango yenkanuko yindoda
Ukukrakra kwamadoda, ngokutsho kwengcali yeengqondo, into eqhelekileyo. Ngokwemvelo, indoda enesifo se-avarice, ikhule ibe mania, kuya kulufumana kunzima ukuyifumana, kodwa kukho amadoda amaninzi abonisa ukuhlukahluka kwale vice. Yaye yintoni into enomdla kukuba wonke ummeli wesini esomeleleyo unenkanuko yindoda.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mntu uya kugxeka malunga nenyaniso yokuba indoda njengenkosi ehlakaniphile ngumntu onobulumko. Ngaloo ndlela, uluvo lwesazinzululwazi lubona oluqhelekileyo umnqweno wendoda kungekhona nje ukwandisa kodwa usebenzise isabelo-mali ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba umrha uwela yonke imida kwaye umntu uya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye engonakaliyo, oku kuphawulekayo kwintombazana, kuba i-avarice kunye nomnqweno wokuzifumana into ethi "intanda" iyabangela ukungafuni ukuchitha imali kungekhona kumfazi wayo kuphela, kodwa kunye nabantwana abadibeneyo, ekhokelela ekuxabaneni kweentsapho. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abakrakra baphile ngomgaqo "kungekubo, nakubantu", uqokelela imali kwaye akukho mntu (kuquka umntu ngokwakhe) unelungelo lokuzichaphazela.
Izizathu zokuhaha
Ngokwe-psychologist efanayo, ukuphuza amadoda, ukulahla lo mkhuba obi, ube nomdla. Ngoko umntu uzama ukubamba, ukubala yonke ipenki esichithwe ngumfazi kuyo nantoni na, ngokulibala ngokupheleleyo ukuba "wayishiya" imali eninzi. Ngendlela, ukunyanzela intloko enobungangamsha kunye nokunika kwimeko yokuxilisa - ingqondo yengqondo yabantu abaninzi.
Esinye isizathu - ubuncwane bendoda engxamisekileyo. Kule meko, sonke siyakhumbula into yokuba i-avarice iqala apho ubuhlwempu buphela khona. Ngokweengqondo, inzondo yindoda idlalwa rhoqo kwiintsapho ezintle.
Kwamadoda athile, ukuhaha kungacwangciswa ngokuthe ngqo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuthenga iigrafu kumntwana kunokuthatha phezulu ngaphezu kokuchitha imali kwiindleko ezincinci.
Ngaba ubuqiliba bendoda leyo, ngaba abo bafazi bafumene ukuba "abathembekileyo" ecaleni banamakhosikazi (bona ngokwabo) bayazi kakuhle. Umfazi ngelo xesha uphulaphule iindlebe ezibuhlungu malunga neengxaki zemali zomyeni wakhe, ngenxa yoko unxusa ukuba aziphelise ngokupheleleyo kuyo yonke into. Kule meko, ungayigcina umzekelo womntu onobuchule.
Ingcamango yokuba ikhona imfuza yokunyanzela ayinayo inqaku elichanekileyo, kodwa inyaniso yokuba ilifa linelungelo lobomi. Njengoko ubomi bubonisa, umntu onokratshi akazalwa nje kuphela, kodwa unokuba yedwa.
Qaphela ukuhaha
Ukubonakaliswa komntu kwemali kunye neendleko, inxaxheba yemenenja yemali, malunga nokunyaniseka kwamadoda kunye nokugqithisa kwabesifazane, sele iqulunqwe ukususela ebuntwaneni. Amanye amadoda akhuliswa kwintsapho apho loo mfazi engathembeki ngemali. Intloko yentsapho yayinokuqiniseka ukuba lowo ufumanayo, uchitha, ubiza umnkosikazi wakhe. Indodana ilifa le mgaqo kwaye ikhula, iqala ukuyilandela.
Abanye abesifazana ngexesha lobazana nabo abavumelanga ukuba umneneli abonise ukupha, okukhuthaza ukunyuka kwekratshi. Ukuthintela kwakho ukukunika izipho kunokukwazi ukukwazi ukuziqhelanisa nomntu onokuyenza ngaphandle koko.
Ngoko, ngaphambi kokutshata okanye uqale ulwalamano olomeleleyo, xubusha nomntu zonke izinto eziphathekayo. Wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe malunga "nekhredithi eqhelekileyo", ukuphana kunye ne-avarice. Inyaniso yokuba umntu sele sele eneenkqubo zakhe zokwabiwa kwemali, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uqaphele.
Ngokutsho kwengcali yeengqondo, abaninzi abafazi abakwazi ukwahlula ukuhaha ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle, ngenxa yento abayifumana ngayo kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo. Ngendlela, ukunyaniseka okugqithiseleyo kunokufumana ngexesha elingafanelekanga lokuhaha.