Ngokwezibalo, ngamnye umntu wesibini emva komsebenzi onzima usela ibhotile okanye amabhiya amabini. Kwabaninzi, oku kuqhelekileyo, unako ukusela iziphuzo ezinamandla ngokuphindwe kabini kwiiveki ezimbini. Ukuba umyeni wakho akafuni ukuxila, akayi kukwandisa umthamo wotywala (umzekelo, waqala ukusela ibhotile enye ngokuhlwa, kwaye ngoku ngamanye amaxesha athathu angase aphuze), akaziphathe kakubi, ngoko konke kulungile. Awukwazi ukukhathazeka.
Wonke umntu uyazi ngobungozi bokusela ngokugqithiseleyo, engabonisi ubhiya kulowo. Kodwa kunene. Ukusetyenziswa rhoqo kwesiphuzo se-foam kunciphisa amandla, isifo seengqondo zifa, isisu siyakhula, ukunyuka kwengcinezelo yegazi, ukukhuselwa komzimba kuyancipha. Ukungathethi ukuba ubisi bokusela utywala buyakhula.
Utywala obunxilisayo bufana nesifo esiyinkimbinkimbi nje ngokuba utywala obuqhelekileyo. Ukwahlukana kuphela kukuba ixesha lokubunjwa kwalo lide lide, njengalona ixesha lokubuyisela. Njengomthetho, "umlutha wesiselo esiphuzayo" ixesha elide uhlala ungabonwa ngabangasondeli, okanye ngotywala.
Ukuqhubela phambili konke kuhamba phantsi kwecwangciso eliqhelekileyo: ukukrazula utywala ngokuzimeleyo loo mntu akanako, kodwa ke, ngenkani unqabe ukuxhomekeka kuye. "Ndiyakumisa nayiphi na ixesha. Ndiyisela ngokukhawuleza njengoko ndifuna. Ndiyanele kwaye ibhotile enye yebhiya, "- bathi amadoda asele atywala utywala obunxilisayo. Hlaziya ukuziphatha komyeni wakhe. Ngaba unomonde ukuwasela? Uvakalelwa njani ngelokuba uhlala umxelela ukuba ubhiya bubi?
Ukuba ufuna ukukhawuleza ude umyeni wakho kwibhotile yobusuku busuku, ngokokuqala, faka injongo phambi kwakho. Ngokomzekelo, "Ndifuna indoda yam ihambe nami epakini kusihlwa (wayehleli nomntwana, endikunceda ngendlu)." Umnqweno wamadoda ukuphumla emva komsebenzi uyaqondakala kwaye ulungile. Kodwa, ngaba kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku nge bhiya? Ncedeni ukuba abaleke kwiinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla. Mema ukuba uhambe, ulungiselele ukusilalisa, ulungise isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye uthethe ngetafile ehlelwe kakuhle. Mhlawumbi le ndoda ayinayo intuthuzelo eyanele nje kutshanje?
Ukuba umntu wakho akazange aphuze ubhiya ngaphambili, kwaye ngokukhawuleza waqala ukwenza oko, ehleli kwiTV ngokubhekiselele kwintsimbi? Ukuhlalutya, ngaba uvakalelwa njengendoda enomkhulu M? Ngaba unokukhathala kwezikhalazo zakho kunye "nokubona" kwaye akakuboni ukuba umfazi obuthakathaka nowentlonelo, apho athande khona? Ngaba ukhathalele ngokwaneleyo naye? Ngaba uyayiphumelela impumelelo yakhe, iingxaki? Mhlawumbi ufuna i inkxaso kunye nokuqonda?
Qondani! Umzekelo, ukuba akayi kusela ubhiya kwinyanga, kwaye ubone ukuba uyaphumelela njani. Ukuba akayikhumbuli ngebhotile yobusika obubusuku bonke, ubandezeleka bakho bekungenanto. Yaye ukuba le nkqubo inikwa kuye ubunzima -kufanelekile ukucinga ...
Mxelele ityala elibi. Ukuba emva kweminyaka embalwa yokusela rhoqo kwisiselo sakhe esiyintandokazi uya kuqala ukuba neengxaki zempilo, ngakumbi nge-potency (amadoda ayesoloko emothusayo kakhulu), ukuba uya kuba ne "ubhiya", uya kumyeka ukumthanda kwaye uhambe. Tshela umyeni wakho ukuba awuyithandi ibhotile yakhe yobusuku busika, udibana nalo.
Ubhiya obulungileyo awunancinci. Ungalungiselela ukuzama. Makuvumeleke ukulingana nesantya esisebenzisayo kwisiphuzo esiphuzayo. Emva kwiveki okanye ngenyanga, ungambonisa indlela achitha ngayo "ukuphumla kokuhlwa."
Ukuba ibhotile yokuhlwaya yebhiya ayikukhathazi okanye umyeni wakho, ngoko unokushiya imeko yodwa, kodwa yigcine phantsi kolawulo. Ukuba kukho utywala obunxilisayo, ukuziphatha okungonelanelekanga, ke ixesha lokuya kwiiklinikhi ezizodwa ukuze uncede.