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Umfana usemncinane kunentombazana - kakuhle?
"Ukuthetha nomfana, umfazi" ubuyela ebusheni bakhe "kwithuba elithile, evuya xa ebanga kuqala, ehamba phantsi kwenyanga, egibela izithuthuthu ngelo busuku ebusuku ..." Unokufa ngothando ", ekubeni akukho nto inokuyenza malunga "Umhlobo omhle uthi ndikhangeleka njengomfundi wesikolo esiphakamileyo - ndigijimela ukudansa, ndiphuma endlwini ngasese ngemihla ..."
Njengomthetho, umfana osemncinci unothando. Intombazana enkulu kakhulu inokuba yinto yokuqala yokuqala kwayo, ukuba ingeyokuqala.
- Intombazana endala inethuba "lokukhula indoda efanelekileyo." Ukuthetha naye, umfana ufuna ukufikelela kumgangatho wakhe, uyaba nesibindi, athole imbeko, atshintshe ezinye zeembono zakhe. Kwaye oku kuhle kuye. Intombazana ekhulile inomdla we-pluses phambi kwabancinci! Kulula ukuba umthethelele kumntu, unamava, uyazi ukucima iingxabano aze aphendule amehlo. Kwaye ukuba uyaphumelela, unokuvuma ukuba nangona umlinganiselo weminyaka elishumi ubudala kunye nothando lwakhe, akazange adibana nohlobo oluthile, ukunyamekela ngothando kunye nokunyamekela. Kwaye ngokubhekiselele kwisondo, intombazana enamava inokufundisa okuninzi kumthandi omncinane.
- Ulutsha, impilo kunye nobuhle - inzuzo enamandla kumfana omncinane. Akumangalisi, kuba emzimbeni wakhe we-hormones kunye ne-bubbling. Akazange azuze izilonda ezingapheliyo, akazange ahlasele inkqubo yeentlanzi kunye noxinzelelo oluphindaphindiweyo kwaye asebenze emsebenzini, engazange atyebe, engazange akhule i-bald, akayekanga umzimba wakhe omzimba nge-nicotine kunye notywala. Intombazana edibana nayo, izama ukungajongi njengomnyaka wayo. Unenzuzo eyongezelelweyo yokuzibandakanya kuye, tyelela iholo lezemidlalo ye salon, i-sauna okanye i-solarium, uthenge izinto ezintle, kodwa izinto ezibiza kakhulu.
Umfana ongaphantsi kwintombazana - engalunganga?
- Kukho ulwahlulo oluqinileyo kwimiqondo yengqondo yabesilisa nabasetyhini, apho umntwana, ubuncinci de kube neminyaka engama-27, ukhokelwa kwizenzo zakhe ngokubanzi "ngenye indawo", kungekhona ngesizathu okanye ngesimo. Amantombazana ahlambulukile, kwaye ngokusisiseko aqondiswa ngesizathu kunye neemvakalelo. Ukuphuhliswa ngokomzimba nangengqondo ngokukhawuleza kunamantombazana, ngokukodwa asebekhulile, uthathe indima "mama" kwindoda eselula engavuthi njengomntu. Ukungaqiniseki kwendoda kunye nesidingo sokuba "soplevytiraniya" kuyacaphukisa intombazana. Ewe, kwaye umahluko kwiinkcukacha zobundlelwane kuchaphazela.
- Ulwalamano olunjalo kunye nomfana luya kuba lukarhulumente. Akuyona ingozi ukuba umshicileli ophuzi uxoxe ngeenveli zeenkwenkwezi. Kwaye ukuba intombazana ingekona inkwenkwezi, ke bonke abahlobo abaziyo malunga nobudala bakhe kunye nesithandwa sakhe, abanakuxoxa kuphela ngobudlelwane babo, kodwa bayabagweba. Ngokukodwa ukuba intombazana isatshatile, inabantwana, ihlala kwidolophu encinane okanye kwiindawo ezisemaphandleni, ibonakala ibancinci kune minyaka yayo, inembonakalo enhle kunye neengubo eziphathekayo. Isizathu asinokuba ngumona kuphela, kodwa kunye nokuqonda kwendabuko malunga nendlela ulwalamano olufanele luphuhlise ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha intombazana inentloni yokuvuma ukuba kukho ukuhluka kuminyaka: uhlala ephulaphula izimvo zabanye kwaye uphatha kakubi kakhulu iingxelo ezimbi. Usenokuziva ecinezelekile ukuba ucinga ukuba wenza okungalunganga.
Ukunyaniseka okwaneleyo kunye namandla olwalamano. Ngokuqhelekileyo indoda eselula iya kutsalwa kuyo yonke into entsha, nto leyo ithetha ukuba unokukwazi ukuguquka. Unako ukusuka kumfazi okhulileyo ngakumbi kumfazi oselula. Akukho bungozi bengozi: "Ukuba utshata nomhlobo ... emva ko-5-10 uya kubaleka nangayiphi na indlela kunoma yimuphi u-maloleletochke .. le yinyaniso yobomi kwaye akukho ndawo yokuphuma kule ..."
Ngaloo ndlela, ubudlelwane nomfana oncinci kunentombazana kunika iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuvavanya. Ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane kunokuchaphazela isimo sengqondo sengqondo, imbono yoluntu, ukuziphatha kwamaqabane. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kukho ezininzi iinkcazo zokuba iminyaka yobudala akuyona into ephambili, bekuya kubakho uthando. Emva koko, ukuba abafana banokuhlangana kunye namantombazana amancinci, kutheni amantombazana afuneke ahlangane nabantu abatsha kuncinci kunabo?
Ukongeza, i-passport yobudala ayisoloko ihambelana neminyaka yengqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha umfana oneminyaka eyi-18 akavelwanga iminyaka, uhlakaniphile, uthembeke, unomdla, unenkathalo, uziphatha njengomntu wokwenene nentombazana endala ivakalelwa emva kwakhe njengodonga lwamatye. Nika imizekelo xa umfana othile efuna intombi eneminyaka engama-20 ubudala kunaye. Ngelo xesha wayengekho i-alfonso kwaye wayigcina intsapho yakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha ubudala obufana nentombazana ingaba "ngumntwana".
Ngenye indlela, akukho ziphephelo. Konke kuxhomekeke kwimeko ethile, abantu abathile. Yintoni onokulucebisa kulo mzekelo? Mamela nje iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo zesahlulo sesibini, uthando kunye novuyo.