Ngaba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi?

Kukholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini akunakwenzeka. Ngaba kunjalo? Yintoni elula ukuyenza abahlobo? Kubi kuwe - kwaye ushayela inombolo yefowuni efunyenwe ngentliziyo kwaye ukhale ebhodini, cela ufike, okanye uqhubekile kwaye uye kwibhayisikili kunye kunye mhlawumbi akukho mntu ukuya kwidema-cinema, ngoko umhlobo uza kuza kunceda. Ewe, ubuhlobo luyinto ehlala ehlala kuyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yithuba lonyaka kunye nexesha lemihla. Kwaye ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda kunye nenkosikazi yonke into iya kuba yinto efanayo, ukuba ayingekho "kodwa" - ayikwazi ukuhlala isigxina, imithetho yomhlaba wonke yokukhanga iyomelela kunobungane obuhle. Ingaba kukho ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.

Kukho iimpawu eziphambili zobuhlobo bobulili obufanayo:

• iimfuno eziqhelekileyo - abantu banxibelelana nabanye, kuba banomdla kunye, bathanda izinto zokuzilibazisa, izinto zokuzilibazisa, bahlala benento yokuthetha;

• thembela - ungatsho nantoni na engena engqondweni yakho ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuba uya kuqondwa;

Ubomi obuhlukileyo - abahlobo bachitha ixesha elininzi kunye, kodwa banezicwangciso ezahlukeneyo zobomi.

Ngaba zonke iingongoma zihambelana nobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi? Kwaze kube nini? Makhe sicinge ngeendlela ezikhoyo.

Iphupha labantwana

Ngokuqhelekileyo yonke intombazana yayinomhlobo omfana, ehamba naye edibaneni lonke usuku, edlala efihlayo kwaye efuna, ephakama imithi, okanye ehleli kwidesksi yesikolo, enza umsebenzi wesikolo kunye kunye nokuhamba ngeenxa yokufunda esikolweni. Utshintsho lunokwenzeka ukuba luhluke kakhulu, kodwa kwi-kindergarten, kwiklabhu yezemidlalo okanye kwisikolo-ungumhlobo wokwenene ngokuqinisekileyo unayo. Wayemhlobo naye, ewe! Sasidlala kunye, sahleka, yonke into yayifanele. Ngaba buhlobo kuphela? Iingcali zengqondo zibonisa ukuba ngo-70% lobuhlobo bomntwana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kukho ukukhanga, kodwa abantwana kuphela abayiqondi le nto, kodwa ngokusemandleni bayatsalwa, bathanda ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuhlobo babantwana abasondeleyo bantwaneni buqhubela ebuhlotsheni bobubele ngexesha lobuncinci, kwaye oku kugqiba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ukuhlalisana nobudlelwane obukhulu kunye namawaka okungaqondani kunye nokungafani phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ukuba olo phuhliso aluqhubekanga, ngoko banqanda ukuvakalelwa kwezesondo kwaye kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kuphuma. Ubukhwele obufihliweyo kwaye ngakumbi ukuhlala kunye nabo. Kwaye iziganeko zinokuguquka, njengoko kwiphephancwadi "Umtshato womhlobo omhle," apho intombi yomhlobo ibonwa njengolukhuphiswano. Kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, emva kwayo yonke into, ixesha elide ukuthetha nomntu, ukwazi ukuthanda nokuthanda kwayo, siqala ukuyibiza ngaphandle kokuyiqonda. Cinga ngezinto oza kwenzayo xa umhlobo wakho enquma ukutshata okanye ukuya kwesinye isixeko?

Sondela

Kwiimeko ezingama-95 ngaphandle kwekhulu kwibudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, umntu uvakalelwa ngakumbi kunomntu kunesihawu, kwaye uthembela kwikamva lobudlelwane obunzulu. Kwaye ngoku, kude kube ngumhlobo (okanye intombi) evelele, mhlawumbi ibe kufuphi naye, ngokuthe ngandlela-thile ulawule, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukulandela ubomi bakhe, unike iingcebiso, kwaye akusoloko kulungile. Umhlobo uza kukuphepha okanye kamva akuphephe, kuba ngubani othanda ukuziva phantsi kwe "cap"? Ngoko kungcono ukuyeka ukuhamba kwimeko leyo, zinike inkululeko kunye nomhlobo wakho wenkululeko-ngoko uya kuqonda ukuba ngaphandle kwakho akukho ndawo.

Mhlawumbi intsha?

Ukuqonda indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngomhlobo wakho wesilisa, phendula imibuzo embalwa: 1. Ngaba ulungele ukuvala amehlo akho kwizinto ezininzi nakwezinye iziphoso zakho zomhlobo? 2. Ngaba ulwalamano lwakho luya kutshintsha ukuba izinto zakhe zangaphandle "zazingekho ngcamango yakho"? 3. Ukwazi ukuba umhlobo wakho ngomhla wokuthandana, ubhala ngokukhawuleza i-SMS-ki? Ukuba uphendule ngokuqinisekileyo ubuncinane omnye wale mibuzo, ngoko ubuhlobo bakho buyinto yokuzonwabisa yothando.

Ukutshintshwa kwamandla

Abaninzi beengqondo kunye nezocansi baxela ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi akuyona inkqubo yendalo, kuba nayiphi na into siyayithandana njengento yesondo. Kwimizuzu yokuqala yokuthandana umntu ubeka ingqwalasela kwimilinganiselo yangaphandle yowesifazane, ivakalelo zakhe zivumba kwaye zithinte. Kunzima ukumelana nomtsalane, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuba nako ukunqanda ukukhanga kuphela ngexesha. Phantse kwenzeka into efanayo kunye namantombazana amahle. Kwaye, ngendlela, ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi bubaluleke kakhulu ukutshintshiselana kwamandla, nokuba ngaba ababini abathathi-nxaxheba kwiinkalo ezinjalo bathi banobuhlobo nje. Kodwa bafumana ukukhuliswa ngokomzwelo. Ithenda iphakama, izihlathi ziphendukile i-pink, kukho ukhanyiso emehlweni abo bobabini, ukuhleka kuyaba negalelo-le yimithetho yemvelo, akukho nto inokuyenza malunga nayo. Ngako oko, iingcali zengcaphephe yengqondo zithi ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva ubuphi ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwendoda nomfazi buphela kwisondlo. Kwaye bobabini baqonda ngokucacileyo oku kungenakwenzeka kwimimiselo yokuqala yokuziwayo, nangona bengavumi.

Ngokuvumelana

Kukho olunye uhlobo olukhoyo lohlobo lobulili obuhlukile. Kwaye, ngendlela, isisigxina kakhulu xa bebebanamathandani, ngokuvuma kwemibandela, abazange bafune ukuyeka ukukhulumisana kokomoya okanye ishishini. Ubuhlobo obunjalo bubona bukhulu kwaye buvulekile, akukho zifihla okanye imidlalo phakathi kwamaqabane. Enyanisweni, njengoko isahlulo sakho sesibini siyakubheka ubuhlobo obunjalo-lo ngumnye umbuzo! Ukuqonda into ekhoyo emva kobuhlobo bobulili obuhlukeneyo akunakwenzeka nakubantu abahlobo. Ngamanye amaxesha umdlalo unomdla, ngezinye iingozi. Okukhethwa nguwe!