Uhlobo olomeleleyo aluyi kuphuka,
Ayiyi kulahla imvula kunye ne-blizzards.
Umhlobo osweleyo akayi kuphelelwa, akayi kubuza into engabonakaliyo,
Yiloo nto umhlobo onyanisekileyo uthetha.
Umhlobo osweleyo akayi kuphelelwa, akayi kubuza into engabonakaliyo,
Yiloo nto umhlobo onyanisekileyo uthetha.
Ebomini bethu, bonke abantu basebenzisane, ngenxa yokubala okanye nje ngenxa yokwaneliseka ngokomoya. Ngamanye amaxesha ukwaneliseka kokomoya kubonxibelelwano kubangela ubuhlobo Yaye yintoni ubuhlobo bokwenene kwaye kunokwenzeka namhlanje ? Luhlobo luni lobuhlobo obufanele lube nalo? Yaye kunye nani ufuna ukuba ngabahlobo?
Mhlobo, umhlobo ngabantu abanithandiyo ngenxa yokuba unento okanye akunjalo ngenxa yokuba ungumntu omkhulu kwisixeko, abahlobo bakho bayakuthanda nje ngenxa yokuba ukhona. Ewe, ungumntu omkhulu, kodwa ezintliziyweni zabo, ukuba akukho nakwiixeko. Ngubo abaza kuwe ukuncedwa okanye ngoncedo xa ufuna. Kuthetha ngawe okukhunjulwa ngexesha elivuyisayo, kwaye bafuna ukwabelana nawe. Wena ungumhlobo kuye, kwaye ungumhlobo kuwe. Uyamkhumbula xa engekho, kwaye xa kufika ixesha lokuba intlanganiso, ucinga "kwaye ndimkhumbula kakhulu?".
Ubuhlobo - kunye nothando, umoya onamandla ngakumbi odibanisa iintliziyo. Namhlanje kunzima ukufumana abahlobo, okanye kungenokuba lula, sinemfuneko emininzi kumhlobo onokuba ngumhlobo. Okanye iingcamango zethu zixakeke kunye nento engaphezulu. Kwaye mhlawumbi akudingeki ufune abahlobo, baya kuzifumana xa ufuna uncedo lomntu. Khumbula xa ufuna uncedo lomntu, ngubani okuncede? Hayi, ungenise iibhegi kwigumbi, kwaye awuzange unike inkxaso ngoncedo lwezezimali, kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu, ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Kwaye ungambiza ngokuba ngumhlobo?
Uncedo lomhlobo alufanele lube luba luba luleke, lufanele lube lomoya. Emva koko, ubuhlobo akuyona nto, kodwa iimvakalelo. Izidingo zethu zomzimba zoncedo zizinto ezincinci ebomini, kodwa zidlala indima enkulu kuthi, kuba sibaphawule kakhulu. Iimfuno zokuziphatha okanye zokomoya - oko kubalulekile, ukuba umntu unesifo sengxaki kunye naye, kunye nehlabathi lakhe elingaphakathi, useburhulumenteni, ngoko ke uncedo olungokwenyama okanye olubonakalayo luya kuba luncedo.
Ubuhlobo bokwenene ngokubanzi bungeke bube nemithetho, abahlobo ngokwabo bazinzile imithetho yabo kwiintlobano zabo, njengeentaka zakha isidleke, intsingiselo epheleleyo yesidleke kukuba, ukuze uhlale apho kwaye ufune amaqanda, inzala, kodwa indlela yokubeka iqabunga okanye ihlumela okanye intaka ikhetha ukuzimela. Ngoko kubudlelwane - abahlobo ngokwabo banquma ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka. Ngokwemvelo, ubuhlobo akufanele kuthathwe kuphela, kodwa kunikwe kwakhona. Kodwa isoloko enye ithatha ngaphezu kweyodwa. Ukuhlonipha, ukunyaniseka, ukuzinikela kuyingxenye yobudlelwane, kungekhona imithetho.
Iminyaka embalwa eyadlulayo ndidibana ne-plump cutie, saba nobuhlobo kunye naye, sasixoxa ngeentsuku, senza izipho omnye kunye neeholide, siye emacimbini, sihambe, sithengise, scedane kunye nenkxaso kumaxesha anzima. Kodwa ke kwenzeka into, ngesizathu esithile saxabana naye. Andiyi kuthetha into eninzi, kodwa sasicasulwa omnye nomnye. Ngoku iindlela zethu ziye zahlula iindlela, kwaye ndidla ngokucinga ngako. Izwi elithi "sinalo, asiyikuxabisa, siya kulahleka ukukhala kuyinyaniso." Hlwayela ukubhala eli nqaku, ndacinga ngokucinga ngobu buhlobo kunye nalo, mhlawumbi uyintombi yam? Ngaphambili, xa ndandingumhlobo naye, andizange ndicinge ngobuhlobo kunye nentsingiselo yale gama kunye nokubaluleka kwezi ntlubano. Ngoku ndicinga kakhulu ngobuhlobo, malunga nenjongo kunye nokubaluleka kwalo mcimbi, kwaye ndizama ukwenza umhlobo wam kumhlobo wonke oqhelekileyo.
Akumangalisi ukuba bathi ubuhlobo buvelisa uthando. Ngandlela-thile, ndikholelwa ukuba ubuhlobo uluthando. Isimo sengqondo sokuthukuthelela kumhlobo, umnqweno wokumnceda okanye ukumthuthuzela, okanye ujabule ngexesha elonwabileyo ebomini bakhe, ngaba azikho iimpawu zothando? Luhlobo oluthile luthando olukhoyo kubuhlobo bokwenyaniso. Kuphela umntu ngomnye umntu akayi kuba nexhala, kwaye andiyi kuvuyiswa, endaweni yokuvuya kuya kuba nomona. Kwaye oko kuyazi ubuhlobo bokwenene, mhlawumbi kufuneka uhluthe abalinganiswa bomnye nomnye. Kwaye emva kokungena kuzo zonke izithintelo kunye nezikhalazo, yonke into iya kuhlala - ubuhlobo.
Ngoku ngoku ndicinga ukuba ngubani omele abizwe ngumhlobo, ongazifanelekanga. Ngoku eli gama linentsingiselo, kodwa kwangaphambili ndingabiza wonke umntu ngesi sihloko. Kwaye ngoku ndicinga ngaphambi kokuba ndibize ngumhlobo. Ndiyicinga ukuba ndithandana nobuhlobo. Ngoko, ndinomhlobo omnye. Ndiyamazi malunga neminyaka emihlanu. Ekuqaleni wandicaphukisa kakhulu, ilizwi lakhe, ukuhleka, ukuziphatha, ukuziphatha - ngokubanzi konke! Nokuba imbonakalo. Ngandlela-thile ndandingafuni ukuhambelana naye, kodwa ukufunda kwikholejini kwakukho inkohliso, thina saye saqhelisela ukutsho njalo, kwindlela yam, nokuba kunjalo ndazifundela. Kwakukho ubuhlobo bokulula, ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba kukuphila kule ndawo, kwaye ukuba ungayi kudibanisa kwi-whirlpool yamabini eentsuku zonke. Sekuyiminyaka emibini ukususela emva kokuphumelela kule kholeji, kwaye ngeli xesha, ndicinga ukuba, sele sele isetyenzisane, kwaye sisaqhubeka sithetha. Ndamthandana naye kwiminyaka, nangona uhlala kude nam, kodwa sihlala siqhagamshelana naye, kodwa sibonisane rhoqo ngamaxesha. Ngoku ukhulelwe, ngenyanga edlulileyo, kwaye ndilindele umntwana wakhe kunye naye, kwaye uyavuya kakhulu kuye.
Bathi nabo abakhethi abahlobo. Kwaye, kwimbono yam, kakhulu ndakhetha. Ngeentsuku zethu, umhlobo wethu okhethiweyo kufuneka ahlangabezane nazo zonke iimfuno zethu, njengokungathi sikhetha ifowuni eninzi yokusebenza engcono kwaye engabizi. Ngenzuzo enkulu kunye neendleko ezingaphantsi. Abazali abaninzi bathetha inzala yabo "musa ukwenza ubuhlobo naye! Akakwazi ukuba ngumhlobo wakho! ", Ukuze baxoxe nabantwana kwisangqa sabo. Kuphi isangqa? Abantwana aba ngabantwana. Abanayo imfundo okanye umsebenzi. Akukho nto. Akunaso isangqa okanye, ngaba abazali bakhetha abahlobo kubantwana babo, bakhangele abazali balo mntwana. Ngaba ubuhlobo banalo nantoni na? Emva kwakho konke, akuyimfuneko ukuba umhlobo abe nomsebenzi omhle, okanye imfundo ephakamileyo, okanye iphakamileyo ezimbini. Umhlobo ungumhlobo, kwaye akalinganiswa ngemali kwisikhwama sakhe, okanye ngesithuba esihle. Unokuba ngumhlobo wonk 'ubani kunye nendawo yonke, nabani na. Uqhagamshelwano olubalulekileyo phakathi kohlobo, kungekhona imali. Sibalahlile indlela yokuziva, kukho ukubala okukuphela kokuphela kwethu kuthi. Musa ukudibanisa ubuhlobo kunye nokubala. Ukuba entliziyweni yakho akukho nto ikhupha ngayo ingcamango yomhlobo, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba lo buhlobo.
Andicingi ukuba kubuhlobo bokwenene kufuneka kube neenjongo ezifanayo kunye nomdla, kunokwenzeka ukuba ngabahlobo ngaphandle kwalo. Nangona ngexesha lethu ngabahlobo kunye nabo bantu abanomdla, ngokuba abantu abafuni ukuzikhathaza ngokufuna umngane onyanisekileyo onokungafani. Emva kwakho konke, kunomdla ngokukhawuleza ukuthetha nomhlobo malunga nezihloko ezithile ezixhalabisa wena okanye yena. Yiba ngabahlobo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Ukuthetha nomntu, ummkele, ubone umhlaba ongaphakathi lomnye umntu. Mane ube ngumhlobo nomntu oko kukuthi, mhlonele yena neminqweno yakhe, kuba ungumhlobo wakho.
Nangona ndihlobo lomhlobo wam, nabo bajikeleza kuthiwa bahlobo olufanelekileyo njengabahlobo, kwaye ndizama ukubona lo buhlobo kwiintsebenziswano zethu. Eyunivesithi, asinxaxhi omnye komnye kwisinyathelo esinye, rhoqo kwaye yonke indawo. Kwaye kubonakala kum ukuba ebudlelwaneni bethu uthatha okungaphezulu kunokuba anike. Andiyi kukwamkela ngokukodwa iingxoxo malunga nobomi bam, kwaye kakhulu uyayamkela, yingako ndiyazi yonke into ngaye, kodwa akanandaba nam. Ngethuba sifunda, sisoloko sihlangene, kodwa kwixesha lethu lokufunda esingaziboni ngokuphindaphindiweyo, asinakuqhagamshelana. Ndilibale ukuthetha ukuba sifunda ngeposi. Ngoko unokucinga ukuba ubuhlobo bethu bunjani. Kwaye ndimelela ubuhlobo ngokuhlukileyo.
Ndiyakhumbula ngokucacileyo ukuxabana kwethu kokugqibela. Sifungela kuphela, ngokwenene asizange sifunge, kodwa ngoko sithethe isiqhelo sokungcola ukuba ubani unokugula ngenxa yamagama namazwi. Nangona bethetha nje ngokuba ngabahlobo abazange bafunge, bahlala bebahlobo. Kule nto ndiqinisekile. Ngomso waqalisa ukuthetha, ngokungathi akukho nto yenzeke. Okanye mhlawumbi oku kukhuthazwa ngethemba lokusebenzisana kwiziko leminye iminyaka emine ??? Ngaba lo awusiwo umzekelo ocacileyo wobuhlobo bokulula? Kwaye nangona ndiziva ndifudumele kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba siphikisana kangakanani, abayi kutshabalalisa. Yaye ukuba ndilahlekelwa nguye, ngaba ndicinga ngaye? Kwaye ukuba ndifuna ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo? Ngokuba ngelixa sinyaniswe yunivesithi.
Ndiyaqonda ukuba wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe malunga nobuhlobo bokwenene, kodwa, ngelishwa, iimbono azihlali zihambelana nokunyaniseka, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuguqula ezinye iingcamango, kodwa kungekhona ubuhlobo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, abahlobo bokwenene banomntu ongacingi ngobuhlobo kwaye engakhathazeki ngentsingiselo yakhe nangentsingiselo, yena ungumhlobo nje, engacingi. Kwaye ocinga ngako konke oku kuthetha ukuba ukhetha abahlobo bakhe ngeendlela ezithile eziza kwenza ubuhlobo obuhle kwiingcamango zakhe. Ubuhlobo bokwenene abuyadalwa, buvela. Ngoko, akudingeki ucinge, kodwa kufuneka uziva kwaye uphulaphule intliziyo yakho. Musa ukucinga, kodwa wamukele ubuhlobo njengoko kunjalo. Kungcono ukuba ungacingi ngobuhlobo, kodwa ube ngumhlobo!