Ukuba ngumbuzo womsebenzi, baya kuthetha ngomnqweno "wokunyamekela", ukuba ngaba uthando, baya kuthi "uyahamba (okanye uya) ngemali". Kodwa ngaba kubi na okungaqhelekanga, enyanisweni?
Ubume beka ibhinqa elingaphezulu kwendoda, kwaye oku akumangalisi, kuba kuxhomekeka kumfazi uxhomekeke ngakumbi kwi-genus. Ibhinqa livusa abantwana, linyamekela ngomyeni wayo, linikeza ikhaya elihle. Akumangalisi ukuba kokubili ukuvuthwa kunye nokubunjwa kobuntu emantombazaneni kwenzeka ngaphambi kweso "qingatha esomeleleyo sobuntu".
Iingxaki zokuqonda kunye nokuqonda phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi, kunye nokuhluka kweminyaka ebalulekileyo, qalisa, ngelanga, kungekhona kwinqanaba lomzimba, kodwa kwinqanaba lommeli kunye neendibano zabantu.
Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngento yokuba unyana othandekayo waqalisa ukuthandana nentombazana ekhulile kuye iminyaka emininzi, unengqiqo, unolwazi oluninzi kunye naye uya kuba nethuba elincinane lokufumana ukuzaliswa okungalindelekanga kwintsapho. Kodwa, khumbula, wambheka njani ukungafuni? Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba uzingela "isisithulu esincinci", omnye umntu wathi kuwe? Hayi, kodwa kutheni kutheni zonke ezi zinto zihlazo kunye nezihlazo? Uphi isiqinisekiso sokuthi uya kuvuyiswa kunye nexesha langoku?
Ukunyamezela ngakumbi isimo sengqondo esithile kwisibini apho umfazi eselula kunomntu. Intukuthelo yolungileyo yentlalo yoluntu iya kumbamba ekuzingeleni ifa, kwaye yena-ekuphishekeleni umzimba omncinane. Kwakhona, umthwalo wokubandlulula uya kuphazamisa imeko yangempela yezinto. Amantombazana amancinci ngamanye amaxesha ayesaba ukuqala ubudlelwane kunye noontanga - ababanamdla, abanengqondo kwaye abanamava kwimicimbi yemihla ngemihla. Indoda endala ingakwazi ukuqinisekisa iimpazamo ezininzi, uyazithemba kuye kwaye akayithandanga ukutshintsha umthwalo wemfanelo kumlingane.
Kwimiba yobundlobongela besini, ukubaluleka okubaluleke ngaso sonke ixesha, ngoko ke, indlela amaqabane abambisana ngayo, ingaba banako kangakanani ukwabelana nomntu omthandayo amava, iimfuno zakhe kunye nembono. Amaziko okudala awabalulekanga. Ewe, ukuba umahluko phakathi kweminyaka engaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 okanye engama-30, akucaci ngokucacileyo ukusuka kwimbono yokubunjwa kwentsapho kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana, kodwa ngakwelinye icala, ukuba uneminyaka engama-50, kwaye ngu-69 kwaye umehluko phantse iminyaka engama-20, yintoni ebenza ukuba bangabikho Kunye? Abantwana bahlelwe kakuhle, ubomi buye bahlala nesidima, kodwa akukho nhlanhla - omnye wabatshatileyo bafa, kwaye kuthini ukuhlala yedwa, ugxile "kwimbono kawonkewonke"?
Umbutho uvame ukunyanzela ukugweba izenzo zabanye abantu kuphela ngenxa yokuba banqanyulwa ngaphandle komgca oqhelekileyo, baqhekeza inkqubo yezinto eziqhelekileyo, ezizimeleyo. Ngaloo ndlela yikhohliwe ngokupheleleyo ukuba umntu ngamnye ngumntu eneengcamango zakhe, ixabiso kunye nendlela yakhe ebomini. Abazali abagxeke intombazana yonyana wakhe kuba sele beneminyaka emihlanu ubudala kunabo abaye bacinge ngeemvakalelo zakhe, ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba le yithuba elingayi kuphinda liphele kwaye lilungele, ngamanye amaxesha lichithe yonke into, ngenxa yokuba " abantu baya kucinga ... "