Makhe sizame ukuqwalasela ezinye iinkalo zobume besibalo, ezinokukunceda umfazi ukuba athole indoda enqweneleyo. Enyanisweni, ukuphumelela umntu oyithandayo akuyona nto inzima, into ephambili kukuba ukwazi loo mida enokuyidralela kuyo, ukuze ummeli wesigxina esisisiseko sabantu anqwenele kuwe. Okokuqala, kufuneka iqondwe ngokucacileyo: indoda inokukhathazeka kakhulu kwinto eyenzekayo kumfazi, ngoko ukudala umnqweno womntu, kufuneka uziphatha kakuhle. Ukuba intombazana iqala ukwabelana ngezinto ezithandwayo okanye ifuna ukufezekisa iinqwenela zakhe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ifikeleleke, indoda iqala ukuzicingela isipho seNkqenkquthela, apho ibhinqa lifuna ukukhokela imfazwe ephazamisayo, ngaphandle kwekhethekileyo, ithuba eliyingcipheko lokuphumelela.
Mhlawumbi kulungele ukutshintsha imeko? Ngokomzekelo, umfazi uba ngumvuzo oyigugu kumntu. Ukumnika ilungelo lokuwunqoba nokufezekisa, ngoko kuya kuba lula, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukukhupha umnqweno womntu? Masiqale ngokubonakala. Ukuchaneka ngokufanelekileyo-sonke isayensi. Ibhinqa lifanele libukeke lilungile, nokuba liphume ukuthenga isonka. Ukukhanga kwangaphandle kubangela ukuba umntu abe nokholo. Impahla kufuneka igxininise ngokukhawuleza isiqalo kwaye kufuneka kubekho into ekhuselayo kuyo.
Amadoda amaninzi kuqala aqwalasele amabele kunye nemilenze emnandi. Ifom yefomu echanekileyo idibaniswe ngokugqithisileyo kunye neentlanzi ezincinci, zijonga kakuhle ngeengubo ezimfutshane. Ukukhethwa okwenziwe ngokuchanekileyo kukuphucula umgangatho wokuba umnqweno womntu ubangele. Ukuba ibhinqa lisebenze ukuba lingalumkisi umntu (i-Iroquois ukulwa nopende okanye i-lilac ephahleni), wakhangela ... malunga neepesenti ezingama-30. Ngoku kufuneka ucinge malunga nama-70 aseleyo. Nayiphi na ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, i-floppy ephumelelayo okanye eyiyo, engena nto okanye, ekugqibeleni, iphelela emtshatweni ovuyayo, qalisa ngokudlala ngothando.
Lo ngumzuzu ngaphandle kokuba kunzima ukucinga ukuba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuyenzeka ngokungazi kakuhle kunye neziphumo ezingalindelekanga, eqinisweni, le meko yezinto zikhokela kuphela, zombini amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe, kuba uhlobo lokungaqiniseki luyolonwabo. Ukudlala ngothando kusetyenziswa isenzo somzimba, ukunyakaza, ubuso obuso - konke esikubiza ngokuba ngumzimba. Ukuba usebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo olu lwimi, unokufumana impembelelo, into enjengeenkcukacha ezilula. Abaphengululi banqwenela ukuba bacinge ngothando njengendlela ethile yokuxoxisana, eqala ngokukhawuleza emva kokutsala ingqalelo.
Cinga ngemigaqo emininzi yokudlala ngothando .
1. Ugqibile. Ibhinqa limele liqonde oko kukukhangela okokuqala: ukubonakala okanye ukukhangela. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuzikhethela yena ngokwakhe, kwindlela amadoda afanele agxilise ngayo imizamo. Le ngongoma ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba nayiphi na ibhinqa kufuneka iqonde yona. Ukutshatyalaliswa kukubugcisa obuhle kunye nesipho esikhulu somfazi. Musa ukuyiphosa ngokukrakra kwaye ubangele umnqweno wonke umntu ulandelele.
2. Musa ukulimaza . I-Vulgar nebonakalayo engabonakaliyo, ukuxhala kunye nokunyaniseka kwendoda kuphela. Kwaye ubukho bentombi enhle - ubuncinane bayiphazamise ingqalelo yakhe. Akunanto yinto abayithethayo ukuba nayiphi na intombazana enhle kufuneka ibe neyintombazana enye embi, esoloko iya kwiintlanganiso ezibalulekileyo.
Okanye umenze aguqule ingqondo yakhe ukuze aqhelane nomfazi omnye ngenxa yokwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa phambi komnye umfazi.
3. Izibonakaliso zengqalelo kunye noqhagamshelwano. Ukudlala ngothando kunokuphumelela kuphela ngesimo esihle sengqondo. Ibhinqa limele livule ngokuvakalayo, kwaye libonisa ukuba nomoya onobubele. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kubonisa loo mntu ukuba unokwazi naye kwaye umvumele ukuba azive ekhululekile. Unokuzibuza ngokukhawuleza inkonzo yokwenza izinto-ukuziphatha ukuze ukuziphatha kufane nokudlala ngothando kunye nomoya onobungane. Ukuziphatha ngokwesini kwabesetyhini kuza kugqiba umsebenzi. Akufanele uloyike ngowokuqala ukuqala incoko.
Izibalo zithi iipesenti ezingama-95 zamadoda afana nayo xa incoko yokuqala iqala ngowesifazane. Inendima ebaluleke kakhulu idlala ngokubambisana, ukuba ufuna ukukhupha umnqweno womntu. Ukujongwa kwexesha elide kwiliso linika umdla. Ukuthabatha ngokunyanisekileyo kumadoda kunye neengcinga ezintle. Ukuthinta ukukhanya, ubusiso obunomdla esesidini - sonke isikhali esinamandla samabhinqa asekuhlaleni siye sajikeleza iminyaka emininzi. Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzola ukuzithemba. Ibhinqa elifuna ukukhupha umnqweno womntu kufuneka libe ngumntu onobubele novuyo onokulula kunye nokuzonwabisa ukuchitha ixesha.