Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakubonakala ngathi, kwiimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ezahlukeneyo komnye nomnye. Ebudaleni, yonke into iyabonakala ilula kwaye ilula. Musa ukukhathalela iingxaki ezincinci zekhaya kunye noko abanye baya kuthetha. Uyamthanda umphefumlo wakho umlingane kuphela ngenxa yokuba unawe, kwaye oku kukubonakalisa okuninzi, njengoko kubonakala kuloo mzuzu. Umntu akayithandi into ethile, kodwa ngenxa yokuba sele esondele. Kwinqanaba elingaphambili kweli nqanaba likhethwa ngokubonakala, isimo sempahla, ukuthandwa. Emva koko, abaninzi abantu abatsha bafunyaniswa kuphela ngokubaluleka kokuzimela, nokunika igunya elithile.
Uthando kwixesha elivuthileyo alunelanga . Akunanto nto kukho umzekeliso othi "Ufanele utshatile ebusheni." Oku kuphakamisa ukuba esemncinci iimvakalelo zikhululekile kwaye aziqhutyelwe kwisikhokelo. Xa ukhulile kukuqonda ukuba nje uthando, nto encinci, sifuna izixhobo ezisisiseko zobudlelwane bokwenene: ukuthembela, intlonipho, ukuqonda, ithuba lokunciphisa, inkxaso, le mivakalelo ibaluleke kakhulu njengothando ngokwalo. Mhlawumbi yingako xa beba badala, kunzima ukufumana isibini. Ngenxa yokuba abakhokelwa kuphela ngengozi, kodwa nangengqondo, ingqalelo. Oku kuhlolwe ngokukhawuleza, kunceda kumzuzu onzima, ubungqinela umnqweno wokuxhasa ngenkxaso enzima, ukufaka endaweni yamagxa, nokuba yinkxaso ethembekileyo. Ngexesha lokugula, khusela kuzo zonke iintlungu. Inkxaso yenkxaso, umnqweno wokunika konke okusemgangathweni kwisiqingatha sabo sesibini. Zonke ezi zibonakaliso zothando zisebenza ngokukhulayo, kuphela xa ziqokelelwa kwiqela elilodwa. Uthando ngomntu ongenamacandelo ayisiseko lunokwenzeka, kodwa kuphela alaneleyo ixesha elide, kwaye lidlulayo ngokukhawuleza xa lijongene nobunzima bobuchopho, iingxaki zikhawuleza zize zibone.
Indoda ethandana nomfazi onomntwana unomthwalo onoxanduva. Ekubeni akayikukhusela kuphela umfazi wakhe othandekayo, kodwa naye umntwana. Ibhinqa elinomntwana xa ukhetha umntu okhethiweyo likhuthaza ukukhetha kwakhe ngesimo sengqondo jikelele. Ekubeni bodwa kunye nomntwana, kwaye loo mntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba unina akayi kulwa nentando kunye nenhlalakahle yomntwana wakhe. Konke okulungileyo kumntwana kuya kuba kuhle kumama. Awukwazi ukuzibophelela nayiphi na indlela. Kubalulekile ukunqoba ukuthembela, ukufezekisa ukuqonda. Ukuba umntwana ubona ukuba unina uhlonishwa, uyathandwa, ngoko uya kutsalwa kuwe. Ukuba ngokuchaseneyo, awuyi kuphinda ufikelele kwimiphumo emihle. Abantwana bonke baziva kwizinga elingenakuqonda, akunakwenzeka ukuwakhohlisa.
Kuyizidenge ukucinga ukuba uthando lwenzeka kuphela kumncinane. Iimvakalelo ezinamandla kwaye ezinokwethenjelwa zivela emva kwexesha elizayo. Bahamba ngohlobo "lokukhethwa" ngokwezinto ezichazwe ngasentla. Ukuba umntu onjalo ufunyanwa, lo thando luya kuhlala ngonaphakade, ngokungafani nolutsha. Ngoko ke unganqikazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo kunanoma yiphina iminyaka, kodwa ungayikhohlwa ngabazalwana bakho, abantwana, abazali. Bamele bazi ukuba uyavuya, uzive ulungile. Mawathokoze kunye nawe.