Ngokutsho kophando lwehlabathi, ngaphezu kwe-60% yabemi behlabathi lethu abahlali benovuyo ngokuphila kwabo. Ngelo xesha, 45% abo bayesaba utshintsho, ngoko ke abakulungele ukutshintsha into ebomini babo. Sinokuyinqoba njani lokoyiko size sifeze utshintsho ebomini, nangona kungekhona ngokumomotheka kunye novuyo, ngoko ubuncinci?
Iziganeko zangaphakathi zingatshintsha ubomi bomntu ukuba bube ngcono. Kodwa ukufumanisa ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha, phendula le mibuzo elandelayo:
- Kwi-wardrobe yakho iminyaka emininzi, imibala efanayo ibangelwa (kakhulu igrey okanye ibomvu)?
- Musa ukushiya indlu ngaphandle kokupenda umlomo wakho?
- Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba unomntu oyedwa onqwenela inwele (lowo uneminyaka emininzi, kunjalo)?
- Ngaba ukhetha ukuthenga iimveliso zerhwebo owaziwayo kwaye ungazami nantoni na entsha?
- Uneminyaka emininzi yokuya kuphumla kwindawo enye kwaye uqinisekile ukuba into enhle yintshaba yezinto ezilungileyo, kwaye ayifuni izinto ezilungileyo ezilungileyo?
"Ngaba uye wahlaziya kwigumbi lakho iminyaka emininzi?"
- Ngaba ukhetha ukuhlaziya iifilimu ezindala ezindala, kwaye ezitsha azikholisanga?
Ukuba ubuncinci omnye wale mibuzo uphendule kwi-affirmative, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo ucinga ukuba ubomi bakho yi-swamp eqhubekayo, kwaye ukwesaba kakhulu ukutshintsha ubomi. Nangona awuyivumeli ngokuvakalayo. Kungenzeka ukuba ulula kakhulu ukuhlala (umzekelo, ungumntu oyisigidi). Kodwa ngaba uyazi ukuba i-conservatism yakho ayikuvumeli ukubeka umngcipheko kwaye uphumelele? Utshintsho, njengommiselo, lungcono! Akunangqondo nje ukuba enye yeengqondi zaseTshayina zathi: "Kuya kuba yindlela engcono ngayo, nokuba yinto efanayo."
Ukuze iziganeko zangaphakathi zangaphakathi zitshintshe ubomi bomntu, akudingekile ukuthatha amanyathelo angqongqo. Akunakufuneka unqumle ubhondi, ufumane unwele, unxibe i-mini skirt yombala obomvu uze uye kwinqanaba le-Crimea. Kwanele ukwenza isigamu sesinyathelo, zama ukutshintsha into yokuqala kuqala. Iingcali zengqondo zixwayisa: awudingi ukwenza into ephikisana nemithetho yakho. Kufuneka uzive nje ingcamango yenguqu:
- Thenga iimpahla eziqhafazayo kwiimpahla zakho eziqhelekileyo.
- Kanye xa usaphila ukuya emsebenzini, ungenziwanga.
- Beka iinwele zakho ngendlela entsha.
- Yiya kwindawo yokutyela uze ulandele isidlo ngegama elingenakuqondakala kwaye lingenakuthenjwa.
- Yiya kwilizwe elingaqhelekanga.
- Yaye, ke, khumbula: uyintle, umfuziselo, ukhaliphile, unetalente, umfazi oqaqambileyo nowengqayizivele. Lo bubomi bakho, ngoko ke unako ukugqoka, ukuthenga nokutya nantoni na oyithandayo.
Ukususela kumncinane ukuya kumakhulu, njengoko uyazi, isinyathelo esinye. Kodwa kusadingeka kwenziwe. Kakade, kunzima ukugqiba isigqibo malunga nokutshintshwa kwehlabathi. Nangona kunjalo, nakhona apha iingcali zeengqondo zisinika isilumkiso seseva senkxaso: kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kukho iingenelo ezingakumbi kwiinguqu. Cinga ngobomi bakho emva kwesenzo owenze (umzekelo, ukushiya emsebenzini ongathandwayo okanye ukutshata kwakhona). Yenza isigqibo kwaye uhlale uqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kuchanekile. Ukuba kunjalo, yitshintsha nje ngexesha elifanelekileyo - akukho mntu uyasusa kuwe eli thuba.
Ukwahlukana, utshintsho lomsebenzi, ukuhamba, ukulungiswa, umtshato, ukuzalwa komntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, zonke iinguqu ezinzulu zixinzelelo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba sizilungiselela njani, akunakwenzeka ukuba sizikhusele kumava. Ukongezelela, ezininzi zazo ziwa phantsi kweentloko zethu. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Indlela yokujamelana nokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza ebomini? Into yokuqala yokwenza ukukwamukela imeko njengoko kunjalo. Ekugqibeleni, zonke izinto sele zenzeke, kwaye awukwazi ukubuyisela ixesha kwakhona. Emva koko zama ukufumana iinkonzo. Kakade, utshintsho luhlukile. Umzekelo, ukuzalwa komntwana kuyisiganeko esivuyisayo. Kodwa ekuqhawuleni, ngokukodwa okungafunekiyo, kukho ezimbalwa ixesha elihle. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uwafumane. Xelela: "Ngoku ke ndiyakwazi ukudibana nabahlobo bam njengoko ndiyithandayo kwaye andiyikupheka ukulungiswa kwenyama!" Makube mnandi, kodwa uyavuya ngayo le nyaniso. Ekugqibeleni, cwangcisa ubomi bakho malunga neemeko ezintsha. Ulungelelwaniso lwakho oluhle, luya kuba lula ukuba uqalane nalo.
Nangona kunjalo, umkhwa ogqithisekayo wokuguqula ubomi obuninzi ungabangela ukungazinzi kwengqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukulangazelela utshintsho kuthatha uhlobo lwe-neurosis. Ukuba emva kweenyanga ezintandathu zomsebenzi kwindawo enye uqala ukukhangela into entsha, zonke iinyanga ezintathu ufunda uqeqesho olutsha, utshintshe i-hairstyle yakho ngaphezu kweyinyanga ngenyanga kwaye nganye iveki yenza ulungelelaniso kwigumbi lakho, mhlawumbi kufuneka uqhagamshelane neengcali okanye ucinge ngeyakho ubomi. Umnqweno wokuhlala uqala into entsha kukubonakalisa ukuphazamiseka okukhulu kwesifo. Cinga, yintoni kanye ekuthintela ukuba uvuyo ubomi? Mhlawumbi ufuna nje ukuzithethelela. Nangona ungabambeli iinkwenkwezi ezivela esibhakabhakeni, umphathi awukuhlawuli iibhonasi kwaye awuboni ngathi ubuhle be-Hollywood - akusiyo isizathu sokungazithandi. Wena ngokwakho kufuneka ulungiswe kwaye uxabiseke.
Akuyonto yonke into ebomini idinga ukutshintshwa! Ngomzuzu obunzima, mamela i-intuition yakho. Emva koko, ngokwenene, ngokungaqondi, sele usayazi impendulo echanekileyo. Ukuba ubuhlungu bakho besithandathu bukhala "hayi!" - kwakhona uphinde ulinganise zonke iingxaki kunye noqhawulo kwaye uvumelane kangcono nayo.
Ngendlela, iingqondo zeengqondo zincoma kakhulu ukuthetha nomntu ongaphakathi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ungacacisi kwaye awukho kwindawo kawonkewonke, kodwa, umzekelo, ukuzimela phambi kwephupha. Ukoyisa ukwesaba kunokunceda imibuzo ephinda izitheno zakho. Musa ukuthetha amaqiniso: "Ndiloyika ukulahlekelwa lo msebenzi." Buza i-intonation: "Ngaba ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa lo msebenzi? Emva koko, imibuzo, njengoko uyaziyo, iphakamisa iimpendulo. Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo ziqala ukuthetha nabaxhasi. Into ephambili, qiniseka kuwe. Ungazikhohlisi!
Phantse wonke umntu kufuneka ajamelane nobomi kunye nesidingo sokutshintsha into ethile. Nangona kunjalo, ukulungelelaniswa okungenammiselo kwenguqu akukhoyo yonke into, abaninzi banokwesaba nokukhuseleka. Isimo senguqu kwimpilo yomntu luxhomekeke kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Efana nokuhamba kwenkqubo ye-nervous, iimpawu zobuntu okanye nokuba nombono wehlabathi. Iimeko zangoku zengqondo zidlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ukukhawuleza kokwenza isigqibo, ukulungelelaniswa kwezenzo ezisebenzayo, ukuzithemba - zonke ezi mfuneko ezifunekayo kwiinguqu zinokuzalwa kunye nokufumana. Kufuneka kwakhona kuqatshelwe ukuba umntu ngamnye uhlakulele indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kunye nesimo sengqondo ebomini, kubandakanywa utshintsho. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba wenze isalathiso naluphi na utshintsho, qwa lasela zakho iinkcukacha. Ukuba ukususela kumntwana unesipulu, cinga ngezigqibo zonke ixesha elide, ziyalondolozwa kwiimbono zabo, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba uphendule ubomi bakho ngokukhawuleza. Kungcono ukuhlala ucinga ngesiqhelo uze uhambe ngokuthe ngcembe, inyathelo ngesinyathelo ekubala. Yaye ukuba unqabile, unesithukuthezi kwaye unomsebenzi, ngoko ukukhawuleza kuya kukucasula. Kwimeko apho ngokukhawuleza ufumene ukuba awukwazi ukusombulula nantoni na, nangaphambi kokuba ingakunobangela ubunzima, ubonakala ngathi ungena kwi-stupor, nayiphi ingcamango yokutshintsha ibangela ukwesaba nokuxhalabisa, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ngexesha lenze ntoni kwaye zandulela utshintsho olunjalo. Kukho nawuphi na, kufuneka ucinge ngenyameko uze uzame ukuqonda oko uloyiko. Xa ukwesaba kuthiwa, kulula ukunqoba. Kodwa kukho iimeko ezingenakulawulwa ngokuzimela. Ungesabi ukucela uncedo kumhlobo, indoda okanye isazi sengqondo. Yaye khumbula ukuba ukubonga kwiziganeko zangaphakathi ezilungileyo, ubomi bomntu bunokutshintsha ukuphucula. Into ephambili - ungesabi utshintsho!