Kutheni? Okokuqala, kuba bonke abantu banomdla wokuvelisa. Okwesibini, abafazi ngokwayo baya kuthi batyala. Ewe, thina, bafazi. Into ebaluleke kakhulu esiyilibalayo
· Indoda ngumzingeli. Kulo, luye lwaphuhliswa ngaphezu kweenkulungwane kwiinqanaba lomfuzo, kwaye ukuxubha ukoma kwakhe, ukuzingela akusebenzi, nangona kunjalo. Ngokuchasene nemvelo awukwazi ukunyathela. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza xa abantu belahlekelwa ngumdla, bayaqaphela, mhlawumbi bengayazi ngokwabo, baqale ukukhangela into entsha.
Ngasekhohlo ngaphandle komntu othandekayo emva kokuhlukana naye, kodwa ufuna ukuyibuyisela, kufuneka ukhethe iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuziphatha. Okokuqala, kufuneka udibanise kunye kwaye ungazithobeli ukuthetha nabantu, uzikhiphe ngokucokisekileyo emphefumlweni wakho ukucinga ngesimo sakho esibuhlungu. Ngokuchasene noko, uluntu lwabantu abasondelene nentliziyo luya kunceda ukukhawuleza ukuzisa iingcamango neemvakalelo eziqhelekileyo. Kufuneka ukuba unqobe ukulala, emva kokukhala, ukuphazamiseka kukukhokelela ekuphazamiseni kwemiba, kwaye amadoda ayesabiswa yi-hysterics. Akukho mzekelo ungabuyiseli kumthandayo. Ukuba yena kwaye nguye kuphela omele uxanduva lwakho, ungaziphindezeli, nokuba akunzima kangakanani ukugcina kuyo. Masibe nomoya onobubele bokuthi ububi bubuya njengobomangang kwaye ubomi buya kuhlwaya, ngaphandle kokunceda. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula, ukuba ufuna ukubuyela emva kokuhlukana kwaye ugcine loo ndoda.
Emva kokucaphukisa, bangela ubuhlungu, ufumane ukulala ngokwaneleyo, uhlambulule iingxowa phantsi kwamehlo akho kwiinyembezi ezide, uzilungele ukulwa lomntu. Kubonakala
· Into yokuqala umntu aqwalasela ngayo, ingakumbi ummeli wesini esomeleleyo. Khumbula indlela owajonga ngayo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho kunye naye, into ayithandayo. Umsebenzi wakho awukuphela nje ukubuyela kuloo mfanekiso, kodwa ukwenza ube lula ngakumbi kwaye usebenze ngakumbi. Umntu wakho akafanele nje akubone kuwe owake wawa thandana, emva kokuhlukana, kufuneka awele emthonjeni wamandla amatsha. Isiphumo siphumelele kwaye ubona emehlweni omntu unomdla wokwenene kumntu wakhe? Musa ukukhawuleza ukuvuya. Umoya ogqithiseleyo uya kwenza wenze iphutha.
· Bonisa amandla akho. Ngokuziphatha kunye namadoda ongeke ube ngowendalo, kufuneka ufunde ukudlala indima. Ingakumbi inxaxheba kumadoda emva kokuhlukana. Xa eqonda ukuba wayephosakele, ecinga ukuba uyazi ngokupheleleyo, inzala yakhe iya kwanda ngakumbi, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuqala ukufuna ukuthanda kwakho. Ngeli xesha kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungangeni kwisilingo sokukhawuleza ekubambeni okutshisayo kukhethiweyo wakho, ukulibala ubuhlungu bokuhlukana. Gcina umgama, uhlale upholile kwaye ungagcini, uyenze ngakumbi. Lo mgaqo uza kubamba ukuzithemba komntu kwaye ngokukodwa ukumangaliswa ukuba kude kube mzuzwana lobudlelwane obusondeleyo kuyo. Xa ubona ukuba owakhethiweyo ukwanele "ulungele", unokubonisa inceba yakho.
Enyanisweni, ukufezekisa ukubuya komntu emva kokuhlukana okude akuko kunzima. Kunzima kakhulu ukuyigcina. Funda ukuba unganyathelo kwi-rake efanayo. Ungalokothi uvule umphefumlo wakho ngokupheleleyo, ukuvumela ukuba ukhululeke ngaphantsi kwamanconywa amaninzi kunye nezifungo zothando olungunaphakade. Amazwi
· Le yindlela nje yokufumana indawo, indlela yokukhwela kwinethiwekhi yakho, ukukholelwa ukuba amagama yindlela ehambelana nendawo. Awukwazi ukubamba indoda ngaphandle kokumbamba. Bonisa amandla akho, ungesabi ukulahlekelwa yiyo. Ungavumeli abantu baqonde ukuba ihlabathi lakho lonke lizakhiwe ngeenxa zonke kubo kunye nendoda ethandekayo
Umbindi wendalo yonke. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba bayaqonda ukuba ibhinqa ilungele nantoni na ngenxa yothando, ukuba ayikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwintanda yakhe, oko kuvela umphumo ochaseneyo, kwaye sele usudlulile. Ngoko ke, igama lakho lesibini kufuneka libe liLizwi elifihlakeleyo. Sombulula loo ntokazi ukuya ekupheleni
· Inkcazo ephambili yomntu ngamnye. Yaye nangona engayicombululi, uya kuba nomdla kunye nayo yonke into enxulumene nawe. Kwaye oku kukukhuthaza kakhulu ukuphuhliswa kakuhle kobudlelwane kunye nokugcinwa komnqweno kubo.
Kuloo nto ibhinqa kufuneka lihlale liyimfihlelo. Ngethuba ulapho, indoda iya kuzama ukuyicombulula, lo mfazi uya kuhlala ebamdla kuye. Yaye loo ntshukumo, engayenzayo ukujongana nale puzzle, isomelele kakhulu, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uya kukhwankqiswa.