Iintlanganiso zabathandekayo zangaphambili kwi-sexual equality zibangelwa iimvakalelo zabo ezikhethekileyo. Kwaye kwimiba emininzi, ubunzulu beemvakalelo akunakwenzeka. Ngexesha emva kokuba umfazi ahlukane ngesondo esomeleleyo, unokuziphatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngendlela, akakwazi ukuchazela lo msebenzi.
Elinye ibhinqa likwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nobudlelwane obuhle kunye nomntu owayengumthandi ngaphandle kobunzima, kwaye kukho iintlobo zabasetyhini abathi, yonke iminyaka esetyenziseneyo ndawonye, bafihla entliziyweni yabo inzondo enkulu kwaye bayithandi ngenxa yabo yangaphambili. Ngenxa yeso sizathu kuphela, ukufumana impendulo yokugqibela kumbuzo wendlela yokuziphatha nomntu owayengumthandi kunye nokuba kuyafaneleka ukuvumelana naye kwiintlanganiso, kunzima kakhulu. Masize sonke sizame kunye ukuze siqonde lo mbuzo ocebileyo ngoncedo lwemimandla yeemeko eziqhelekileyo zobomi.
Incoko yeentlanganiso kunye nomthandi-mva / umnkosikazi
Ukuba kwenzeka njalo ukuba le ndoda yayingowokuqala ukuvela kwinxaxheba yoluqalisi lokuphuka kobudlelwane, ibhinqa kufuneka ikhokelwe ngumgaqo ophambili - ungabonakali ukuba uyaphukisa okanye uzisola malunga noko kwenzekayo. Yaye oku akufanele kuxhomekeke kwithuba elide lolwalamano oludlulileyo nalo mntu. Ewe, ukuba kwenzeka njalo emva kokuba ixesha elithile lithandwa ngumlingani wangaphambili, umfazi, ngaphambi kokuba avume, kuyimfuneko ukuba uqikelele i-pros and cons and uvele unike impendulo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwenzeka ukuba le ntokazi inokuba ngumcebisi weentlanganiso zabathandekayo bexesha langaphambili. Oku, kwindawo yokuqala, kunokuxhomekeka kwisimo sengqondo esingaqinisekanga sowesifazane okhokelwa yizikhumbuzo kunye nomkhwa wokumbona le ndoda ecaleni kwayo. Kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuba uqwalasele ukuba iintlanganiso ezinjalo azihlali ziqala ukuhlaziywa kobudlelwane okanye zenze ukuba nobuhlobo obuqinileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukungabikho kwamacala angenasiphelo abathandekayo abathandekayo bangaba yinto enqwenelekayo yesihloko esithi: "Uhlala phi ngaphandle kwam?".
Ukuba abathandi bexesha elide bahlala beshade
Kwimeko enjalo, kunzima ukushiya ubudlelwane phakathi komntu oqhelekileyo, ngakumbi kwisini esilungileyo. Apha aba bathandayo babesetyenziselwa ukudibanisa kuphela ngesondo, kodwa nakwezinye iinkalo ezininzi zobomi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ube ngumhlobo nomyeni wangaphambili, kodwa omnye akufanele abe yiintshaba.
Kodwa nawuphi na oya kuthiwa kukho i-rumour, kwaye ubomi budla ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kwexesha elithile emva kokuba ikhefu lidibane nabatshatileyo bokuqala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iintlanganiso ezinjalo zenzeka "kwinqanaba leshishini" kwaye zijongwa ngumoya ofudumeleyo (ukuba, ngokwenene, isibini asinayo into yokuba nesabelo) kunye nokushiya izinto ezintle.
Ukuba kukho iqabane langoku
Le meko iyaqhelekileyo kwintlalo yanamhlanje. Ingundoqo yinto yokuba lona wesifazane, ngoxa esitshatileyo, uyaqhubeka edibana nomntu wokuqala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iintlanganiso ezinjalo azikwazi ukuhlala zinezesondo, kodwa kunokuba umtsalane, kodwa akufanelekile ukuthetha ngale nto kumlingane wakho okanye ukunika yonke into ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ngoko ke, ukuba oko kwenzeka, musa ukuxelela amabali akho omdala malunga nendlela umthandi wakho wangaphambili uhlala ngayo nayo yonke into echaphazelekayo. Kwaye nangona kunjalo, akufanele ufune isizathu sokuba uqalise amadoda amabini komnye nomnye, nokuba ngaba babenobungane kwaye banqabile iintlanganiso.
Ngenye imini ebomini babathandekayo bexesha langaphambili
Ngokutsho kweengcali ezininzi zeengqondo, ukuba abathandana nabo babehlala bengabangane, kungekhona iintshaba, kwiimeko ezininzi iintlanganiso ziphela kwisini (nangona kungenjalo kwintlanganiso yokuqala, kodwa kwenzeka). Kodwa emva kobusuku obunomdla, ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa liqala ukuhlambalaza ukungathandabuzeki nemibuzo. Ngoko ke, ukuba le nkosikazi ifuna ukuqhuba le ntlanganiso kunye nomthandi-mdala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungangeni kwisilingo kwaye ungaqali ukuhlenga ubudlelwane okanye ukuphinda udibanise ixesha elidlulileyo. Emva koko, iinzame ezinjalo zokukholisa umntu ongeyiphutha kunye nayo yonke into edibene nayo, iya kwenza ukuba le ntlanganiso ibe yinto yokugqibela, kwaye ubungani bungekho. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuba ungathandabuzeki isidingo sale ntla nganiso, ungcono ukuwayeka kwaye uqhubeke uphila ubomi bakho!